Table of Contents
Introduction: Does Love Matter?
PART I WHAT DO CHILDREN NEED?
1. Mother Love: Worst Case Scenarios
2. Enter Bowlby: The Search for a Theory of Relatedness
3. Bowlby and Klein: Reality vs. Fantasy
4. Psychopaths in the Making: Forty-four Juvenile Thieves
5. Call to Arms: Bowlby's World Health Report
6. First Battlefield: "A Two-Year Old Goes to Hospital"
7. Of Goslings and Babies: The Birth of Attachment Theory
8. "What's the Use to Psychoanalyze a Goose?" Turmoil, Hostility, Debate
9. Monkey Love: Warm, Secure, Continuous
PART II BREAKTHROUGH: THE ASSESSMENT OF PARENTING STYLE
10. Ainsworth in Uganda
11. The Strange Situation
12. Pay-off! Ainsworth's Revolution
PART III THE FATE OF EARLY ATTACHMENTS
13. The Minnesota Studies: Parenting Style and Personality Development
14. The Mother, the Father, and the Outside World
15. Structures of the Mind: Building a Model of Human Connection
16. The Black Box Reopened: Mary Main's Berkeley Studies
17. Why Do We Turn Out Like Them? The Residue of Our Parents
PART IV GIVE PARENTS A BREAK! NATURE-NURTURE ERUPTS ANEW
18. Born that Way? Stella Chess and the Difficult Child
19. The Rush to Debunk: A New Generation of Critics
20. The Fight Over the First Year
21. Renaissance of Biological Determinism: The Twin Studies
22. A Waning of the Extremes
23. Attachment Resurgent
24. Academia at Its Worst: The Infant Daycare Wars
PART V THE HOLDING ENVIRONMENT
25. An Athens of Infancy: The Baby Bowlby Left Behind
26. Being Oneself with Others: Winnicott's True Self
27. Life as It Is: Mourning, Integration, and Repair
28. Astonishing Attunements: Mothers and Infants in Slow Motion
29. The Older Baby and the Family Drama: Video Studies, Part Two
30. And Now for Something Entirely Different: The Neurobiology of Love
31. The Regulation of Self and Other: In Daily Life and the Brawls of Science
32. The Reflective Parent: Seeding the Examined Life
PART VI FAULT LINES AND REPAIRS: THE INNER LIVES OF ANXIOUSLY ATTACHED CHILDREN
33. Fear, Guilt, and Shame: Stalkers of the Insecure Self
34. They Are Leaning out for Love: Survival Strategies of Insecurely Attached Children and the Prospects for Change
PART VII SECURE BASE AND INSECURE BASE: A THERAPIST CONSIDERS ADULT ATTACHMENT
35. Love and Reliance: The Secure Self in Adulthood
36. Repetition: Why People Don't Change
37. All the Discomforts of Home: The Insecure Base
38. Beckoning: The Fight for the Secure Self
PART VIII THE ODYSSEY OF AN IDEA
39. Avoidant Society
40. Looking Back: Bowlby and Ainsworth