Table of Contents

Introduction: The Whirlwind Romance 7

Part 1 A Time for Relationship Renewal

Chapter 1 Matches Not Made in Heaven 12

Chapter 2 Leaving and Cleaving 18

Part 2 Models and Methods for the Church

Chapter 3 Search Committees: Choosing the Right People 26

Chapter 4 Your Church Profile: Clarifying Core Values 35

Chapter 5 Heart Issues: Determining Your Church's Readiness for Change 42

Chapter 6 Integrity: Confirming the Candidate's Character 52

Chapter 7 Relationships: Identifying the Candidate's People Skills 61

Part 3 Models and Methods for the Candidate

Chapter 8 Dangerous Dating Delusions 72

Chapter 9 Know Thyself: Lust or Love? 80

Chapter 10 Interviewing: Getting Past the Mating Rituals 88

Chapter 11 Leadership Matching for the Twenty-First Century 98

Appendix 1 Concert of Prayer 109

Appendix 2 Covenant for a Search Committee 111

Appendix 3 Core Values Audits 113

Appendix 4 Readiness for Change Inventory 116

Appendix 5 A Self-Evaluation of Our Church and Members 121

Appendix 6 Sample Reference Check Form 128

Appendix 7 Individual Leadership Developmental Time Line 131

Appendix 8 Calling the Right Senior Pastor 132

Appendix 9 Ministry Self-Evaluation Forms 139

Appendix 10 Seeing Your Church from the Candidate's Point of View 146

Appendix 11 Leadership Development Evaluation Questions 149

Endnotes 150