50 Ways to Play: BDSM for Nice People

Nice intro for an established couple wanting to add a bit of kink.

I was offered the chance to review this book. I thought it might be interesting as my husband and I have played around with BDSM a bit but never delved deeply into it. I decided I had better run it by my husband first , just in case he didn’t share my interest in exploring. His response was a very enthusiastic, “Hell Yeah!” so I agreed to do the review. We received the book and I wasn’t expecting much. It’s a small book, just a bit larger than a regular paperback, and it’s right around 100 pages long. How much detail could they really go into in such a small book? Our plan going in was that we would both read it, discuss our thoughts on the book as a whole, discuss the ideas presented in the book, decide if we wanted to try any of those ideas, and then we would get to the fun part of trying those ideas. I read the book first and then gave it to my husband. It’s a quick read and we were each finished it in a couple of hours. We agreed it was very user friendly and appreciated the small bits of humor that were thrown in. It starts out with the basics and gives easy to understand descriptions of methods and tools used in BDSM. I liked that everything was presented and it was up to us to pick and choose which things were appealing to us. My husband was happy to see that the authors covered such a wide range of topics. They went from extremely basic concepts all the way through more advanced practices. We agreed that this book would be good for people just discovering BDSM or with only a little bit of experience. We fall into the slightly experienced category so it was great for us. When we finally had some uninterrupted, child-free time, we sat down and discussed all 50 ideas in depth. My husband and I regularly talk about fantasies and turn-ons, so I was surprised at how many topics the book brought up that we had never discussed before. There were things we both dismissed immediately, some things only one of us found arousing, things we had been doing previously, and then the new things we both found appealing and wanted to try. We each learned some new things about our partner that day. We ended up talking and shopping for new toys online for a couple of hours. It was fun and a nice bonding experience for us. There were a few things we weren’t impressed with. We both thought that kitchen utensils as sex toys or spanking devices weren’t a great idea. My husband thought the detailed thrusting techniques for penetration were common knowledge and most of them should not have been included. I disagreed and told him that if he already knew all of them, he should have been using more of those techniques previously :) I thought the anal play and anal sex sections were lacking in a lot of details. My husband disagreed and said I have an abnormal interest in all things anal and it was more than adequate for normal people :) In the end, we were already practicing 24 items, 19 items dismissed due to lack of mutual interest, and 7 new things to try. We have a fairly well stocked toy box but decided to add a few more things to it. My husband has been wanting a piece of furniture for a while now and finally convinced me that it would be a good idea with the help of this book. The others were variations in practice or behavior we plan on adding. None of them are going to drastically change our sex life, they will simply add a bit more variation in what we’ve been doing. The biggest benefit for us was gettiing to know each other a bit better.

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I am a fan of the 50 Shades series and this little gem is perfec

I am a fan of the 50 Shades series and this little gem is perfect to help make "fantasy" into reality. Lots of awesome ideas that were VERY sexy but not at all threatening or gross. Probably not a great choice if you're really into a hardcore bdsm lifestyle but perfect for couples who are bored and need some surprise factor and new ideas. Surprisingly well written and funny as well. Made us look forward to going to bed.

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Great ideas and instructions

Really liked the bits about restraint, candle play, glass, and the fantasies.

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This book is great as an introduction. It provides lots of good

This book is great as an introduction. It provides lots of good details and focuses especially on safety.

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Definitely grabbing onto the coattails of the Fifty Shades of Gr

Definitely grabbing onto the coattails of the Fifty Shades of Gray books but what the hell. This is a hot item. I'd recommend it. We've been together for almost 8 years and have never tried or came up with half the stuffi in this book so it's worth the $.

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