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Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 22, 2005

    It didn't dig deep enough.

    Three stars because the book is more insightful for nonadoptees than it is for adoptees. It provides a good general understanding of the mindframe of an adopted person and it's also a good source for any adoptee seeking validation - however it is too general for those that are more troubled with their adoption - such as myself. I was hoping to find a book that focuses more on the psychological ramifications of adoption and abandonment.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 18, 2007

    I was disappointed.

    This book reads like a graduate level psychology book 'I have a Master's degree in counseling'. It's too clinical and does not go into the depth of emotions that adoptees feel and how being adopted manifests itself in everyday life. I really didn't get much, if any, new knowledge. It reads like it was written by people who know about adoption, but not about being adopted, as all authors are non-adoptees. There is a major difference and it resonates in this book. You will learn much about developmental psychology as it applies to adoptees, but I wanted emotional catharsis, awareness and understanding. This would be a great book for adoptive parents. It demonstrates the unique challenges that an adopted child takes on and prepares parents for what is in store in their child's life. I would recommend this for parents, but would recommend a book written by an adoptee for the adoptee wanting to understand themselves.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 3, 2005


    I gave this book 5 stars because, in comparison to other adoption books out there, this one will help you realize you aren't alone in the world. It will help you realize that those feelings you've had, from the moment you were given up for adoption, or were told that you were adopted, are perfectly normal for you to feel. If you are looking for a reason to be angry about your life this book is not for you. If you are looking for some validation of your feelings and thoughts AND something to help you through the healing process, this book is an EXCELLENT place to start.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 18, 2003

    A compassionate book for adoptees, birth and adoptive parents

    I am not an adoptee but I can imagine that I would have experienced the unique stages the authors describe of adoptees as they grow up and try to cope with their past. I like the compassionate but also dispassionate tone of the authors as they lay out their balanced view of adoption, enlightening not only adoptees but also the general public. It is good, too, that the authors point out not all adoptees feel the same way, that some are greatly troubled by their adoption while others are less concerned about their past. Gisela Gasper Fitzgerald, author of ADOPTION: An Open, Semi-Open or Closed Practice?

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