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Posted May 14, 2002
Episcopal Life magazine May 2002
Running against the tide of the multitude of self-help books on how to recover after divorce is Loyd Kinnett¿s ¿Beyond the Affair: The Healing of a Marriage.¿ When she discovered her husband, Ken, an Episcopal priest, in an adulterous relationship with a woman who was a friend, Loyd came face-to-face with her worst fears after 39 years of marriage. In response, she wrote page after page in her journal, describing her grievances and resentments, filling her pages with hate and venom in a search for revenge. She tapped into a stream of ugliness that shocked her. Initially, Ken was almost certain he wanted out of his marriage. He had convinced himself that he deserved to have more sexual pleasure than he was having and decided it would be easier to look elsewhere than facing the hard work to restore what the couple once shared. Instead, remaining in the same house and bedroom, they decided to try to work through the anger, tears and fears before reaching a final decision in six months. They were fortunate to have had the support of three children, a skilled therapist and numerous friends that led them to recommit to their marriage vows. The book is drawn from Loyd¿s journals that graphically depict her pain. Despair and frustration, those difficult sessions with their mediator and, incredibly, the evening when she arranges a meeting with the ¿other woman¿ to offer her forgiveness. The feelings they experienced and processes they submitted to are similar to the healing any couple must face to restore a shattered marriage. Men will find as much value in the book as women, especially Ken Kinnett¿s six-page Afterword in which he describes the pivotal moment for his decision to stay in the marriage. REVIEWED BY Jerry Hames, EditorWas this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted October 6, 2001
Be Prepared to Weep
This is sensitive treatment of a sensitive subject so many have to face. You need not, however, be dealing with betrayal to appreciate the real life pain and redemption described here.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted August 16, 2001
This book is fantastic! Loyd Kinnett writes beautifully and her message is for anyone who is working on their spirtual soul, not just people who have been betrayed or experienced an affair. Do yourself a favor and read it. You will thank yourself over and over I promise.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.