- Shopping Bag ( 0 items )
Posted October 17, 2010
I'm a beautiful mess, and so are you. Let's eat!
This was really quite moving. It's a series of semi-autobiographical chapters that touch on pain and the beauty we can find in it. Imagine a painting of a flower pot that's been knocked over by some kind of turbulence, and is now laying on its side amidst scattered shards and soil. Looking more closely, you notice that the flower has managed to take root and even flourish where it had spilled onto the ground. That's pretty much how this book has impacted me. --- ~*~ --- Shauna has an honest, down-to-earth way of sharing her own stories about heartache, loss, and troubles that resonate with many of us. There's lots to relate to in this book: The pain of losing a child, the sorrow of losing a grandparent, the difficuly of keeping a marriage healthy during hard times, the loneliness one feels when friends and acquaintances remain silent and distant during your time of grief. --- ~*~ --- But there's plenty of fun and light-hearted stuff in here too: Shauna draws the reader in with meaningful, well-written stories, and unique insights on the joys of cooking, traveling, weddings, and quality time with friends and family. --- ~*~ --- It's definitely a book for women, as it deals a lot with issues around motherhood, female friendships, and "crying in the bathroom." However, some of the chapters are great for men too. I've had moments where I just *had* to show my brother, my husband, and my uncle a chapter or two. And once they start the first few sentences they're usually hooked until the end. Of course, the point isn't that they got hooked on the chapters, but that the book has an enjoyable way of revealing truths about common life stages and experiences that stay with the reader long after the book has been shelved. --- ~*~ --- One of my favourite chapters is called "Things I don't do" about having boundaries on our personal time, and getting a healthier perspective on our priorities in life. It's one thing for me to describe this chapter to you, though, and quite another to read it. --- ~*~ --- If I had one concern, it would be her take on theology and her critique of theologians. She's a pastor's kid, as am I, so I would have expected her to have a more nuanced and sophisticated view of the Gospel and the people who teach it to us. Her perspective sounds a lot like the disdain for theology I heard from members of a former church I attended, and I'm concerned that a growing number of Christians--who are understandably disillusioned with dogmatic, fundamentalist-style Christianity--are throwing out the baby with the bathwater when it comes to regarding God's Word and the people He has gifted as teachers with value and respect. This chapter appears near the end of the book, so it didn't affect my experience of the rest of her thoughts, which was good. --- ~*~ --- But this is the only reason I can't give the book a perfect rating, as much as I would have liked to. So I give it four out of five stars. If you can find a copy, I definitely recommend reading it at least once.
2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted October 23, 2010
i loved the "realness" in shauna's writing
In the prologue, Shauna explains her thoughts on the title for this book. "Bittersweet is the idea that in all things there is both something broken and something beautiful, that there is a sliver of lightness on even the darkest of nights, a shadow of hope in every heartbreak and that rejoicing is no less rich when it contains a splinter of sadness." Reading through the book, you learn about moments where she experienced heartache and also pockets of "life is perfect" at just that moment. She talks about grace and how she has a hard time bestowing it upon others though she readily admits to needing it herself. "If arithmetic is numbers, and if algebra is numbers and letters, then grace is numbers, letters, sounds, and tears, feelings and dreams. Grace is smashing the calculator and using all the broken buttons and pieces to make a mosaic. Grace isn't about having a second chance; grace is having so many chances that you could use them through all eternity and never come up empty. It's when you finally realize that the other shoe isn't going to drop, ever. It's the moment when you feel as precious and handmade as every star, when you feel, finally, at home for the very first time." She talks about how she faced not one but two miscarriages, the second being doubly hard to deal with because she had been pregnant with twins. She talks about the rough spot she and her husband went through in their marriage and how thankful she is they were able to recover from it. At one point she says, "when things fall apart, the broken places allow all sorts of things to enter and one of them is the presence of God." She explains the importance of women having other women in their lives - how much those relationships have meant to her. "Bittersweet" is a mosaic of her life experiences all pointing to her belief that we need both in our lives. ".a life of nothing but sweetness rots both your teeth and your soul. Bitter is what makes us strong, what forces us to push through."
I liked Shauna's style of writing. While at times it was hard for me to follow what time in her life she was referring to (she jumped around with each chapter), I liked the "realness" in her writing. She wrote as though she was talking instead of trying to use big words and make everything come across as neat and tidy. What struck a cord with me was her chapter titled "twenty-five." Having just turned twenty-five, I was able to instantly identify with her. The chapter was her giving advice regarding things she learned from that period in her life. One thing that stuck out to me regarded decisions made during this time. "Some of the most life-shaping decisions you make in this season will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can't-live-without." My absolute favorite line from the book was about her love of Christmas. She talked about buying the exact same scarf for several of her girl friends and how she liked the idea of them all living in different places but wearing the same scarf. She talked about thoroughly enjoying Christmas despite what we may be going through. "And I hope that someone who loves you gives you a really cute scarf." When someone is honest in their writing, allowing you a glimpse into their life, you're able to connect with them and that's what Shauna has done.
1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted January 31, 2012
No text was provided for this review.