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The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: From Preschool to High School--How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence

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  • Posted March 23, 2013

    Had to read for class

    I had to read this book for a class I'm taking on Bullying in schools. It is informative, but I don't necessarily agree with everything the author says about bullying. There are better books out there on the topic such as Queen Bees and Wanabes. That's a great one for parents.

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  • Posted May 11, 2011

    Approaching Bullying from an outsiders standpoint

    The Author Barbara Coloroso does a great job of explaining how a bully comes to be and what can be done to reverse the bullying process. She brings up an interesting point about how people that watch bullying happen, without interfering, are actually encouraging it. They are giving the bully support of a crowd or an "audience". She elaborates on the different aspects of the bully and the bullied. She gives several examples about how victims of bullying are targeted and why. She also explains the psychology of a bully and how most bullies are manufactured and are just a byproduct of being bullied. Thus, creating a vicious cycle of discrimination, degradation, and ignorance.
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  • Posted May 10, 2011

    Message of the book, and some things I found valuable

    The author Barbara Coloroso does an excellent job at approaching the over all idea of bullying and the damaging effects of it. Coloroso explains it in a unique way by suggesting it similar to how a play or screen write would play out. Everyone has specific actions and use of vocabulary. For instance, the bully is described as dressing, speaking, and acting the part of a bully. The bully acts on four markers: imbalance of power, intent to harm, threat of further aggression, and terror. These attributes given to the bully are secured more when others join in and become a bully themselves. Many different types of bullying include: verbal, physical and relational which Coloroso goes into depth of each. She gives many examples through touching real life experiences which many times lead to a tragedy. She talks about the bullying circle of how many people have a chance to stop it and know exactly what is going on but fear retaliation or just figure its not their problem. The over all attempt is to make the victim feel powerless and many times they succeed. She also includes a chapter on cyber bullying which is now a very real thing especially in today's technologically involved society. How low-tech bullying, Coloroso calls it, and cyber bullying is combined to often have a quicker reaction and breakdown of a victims self worth. I found this to be a really good read with some excellent examples and values that people should address.

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