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Wonderful Alternatives to Time Out, Spanking and Yelling
The main literary portions of Creative Correction are designed to help parents develop character in their children so that as the child grows, he/she will be able to make wise and appropriate decisions on their own. The Toolbox portions of the book give multiple ideas ...
The main literary portions of Creative Correction are designed to help parents develop character in their children so that as the child grows, he/she will be able to make wise and appropriate decisions on their own. The Toolbox portions of the book give multiple ideas for helping children to develop wisdom and generally follow the natural consequences of an action (i.e. a bike left in the driveway results in loss of use of the bicycle for a period of time). Natural consequences help children prepare for the consequences they will face when they make decisions as an adult. Many of the toolbox ideas also involve positive reinforcement for good choices or appropriate behavior.
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'Crazy-making Tips For Parents' (or) 'Mommie Dearest II - The Sequel'
In Lisa Whelchel's parenting advice book, 'Creative Correction,' we get a glimpse of the childhoods of her three children through their mother's eyes. One wonders which of her offspring will write the tell-all book of the 2020's detailing the other side of the story - t...
In Lisa Whelchel's parenting advice book, 'Creative Correction,' we get a glimpse of the childhoods of her three children through their mother's eyes. One wonders which of her offspring will write the tell-all book of the 2020's detailing the other side of the story - through the child's eyes? In the Whelchel household, big people can hit little people (although Whelchel insists on using the euphemism 'spanking' rather than admitting the plain fact that she does indeed physically hit her children). She even forces her children to recite little rote memorized prayers thanking God for blessing them a Mommy who spanks. (p. 265) But one gets the distinct impression that in the Whelchel household, spankings are designed to meet Mommy's needs and serve Mommy's convenience, not the child's a good example on page 287 has Whelchel's daughter coming downstairs after her bedtime to complain of pains in her legs. But Lisa Whelchel's immediate response is simply to threaten her with a spanking for being out of bed. But while big people can hit little people, little people, despite the violent behavior modeled to them by their elders, may not hit each other. When they do, Whelchel recommends forcing the hitter to wear boxing gloves the entire day without taking them off. When the child has difficulty performing routine tasks such as brushing teeth or eating, Whelchel exhorts her readers to further humiliate the child by making a home video of the spectacle. (p. 206) With all the crazy-making mind games which the author plays with her children it comes as no surprise that her children fight with each other a lot. They can't take out their frustrations on Mrs. Whelchel, of course, but they can certainly take them out on each other. However, the author has more ways of dealing with sibling conflict than just the boxing glove video camera approach. She recommends handcuffing quarreling children to each other (p. 203) or binding their legs together as if in preparation for a three-legged race (p. 209) or forcing them to yell 'I love you' to each other 20 times, or commanding them to hug one another regardless of how they are actually feeling at that moment (p. 203). These sorts of techniques do nothing to resolve underlying conflicts or addess their causes. They are merely methods for driving conflict further underground where it becomes less noticable and hence less annoying for Lisa Whelchel. In this book, Whelchel takes control-obsessed, punitive parenting to a whole new level. She warns her readers against allowing children any real autonomy at all: 'When we allow our children to determine the outcome of a situation, even subtly, it weakens their trust in us.' (p. 22) Eventually her children will grow up and will need to function as autonomous adults. When will they obtain practice determining the outcomes of their own life situations, as opposed to practice instantly obeying Mommy, no matter how bizarre and irrational her demands? Whelchel advises readers to give their children ridiculous commands in public which they must instantly obey without asking any questions, while refusing them permission when they make requests which Whelchel herself admits are perfectly legitimate. She writes: 'As we walk along together shopping, I will suddenly give them silly commands that they must obey without arguing, such as 'Walk backward,' or 'Stop and touch your toes,' or 'Give me a kiss.' Occasionally I¿ll throw in a real command, like 'Don¿t touch that,' or `No, you may not have an Icee.' My favorite curve, however, is to say no to some reasonable request, like 'May I go to the bathroom?'' (p. 138) Whelchel's 'favorite curve?!?' Her baseball metaphor evokes a 'curve ball,' thrown by the pitcher in an attempt to make the batter fail to hit the ball. This is an excellent technique if you wish the person to whom you threw your curve ball to 'strike out,' i.e. to fail, to lose. But why would any sane parent wish
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