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Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 17, 2003

    "Emotional Vampires" is perfect for emotions!

    I have not read any reviews for this book. By accident I ran across the book. Boy! Did it hit all of my problems with current coworkers, right on the head. The best part of the book is the exact descriptions and characteristics of personalities as well as "how in the world to deal with these people! Believe it or not, one of my coworkers unknowingly described herself "almost" verbatim from what was written in the book. The book has such accurate descriptions that when you encounter these people they just jump right out! I commend the author for an outstanding book.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 19, 2001

    For the bitten

    This is a great book also for abused spouces, or the mishandled wife/husband. It really offers insight into what's truely going on and why it is.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 8, 2001

    A Stake in the Heart: Dealing With Difficult People

    Dr. Bernstein does it again! This is a no-nonsense approach to the people that can plague you. The descriptions of the personality disorders are right on the money. The advice is some of the most detailed and useful I have come across. There's a refreshing honesty to the text, as it forces one to recognize your own contribution to problem relationships. If you want to make dealing with clients, neighbors, co-workers, friends (and, for some, family) a less painful experience, buy this book. And read it twice.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 2, 2000

    Protection from Vampires--not therapy

    ? Emotional Vampires teaches you how to protect yourself from people who emotionally and materially drain you for their own gain and at your expense. These ¿vampires¿ prey on colleagues, friends, and family. They are especially dangerous because their self-absorption prevents them from seeing that they are harming others, and even makes them think they are helping others. ¿Vampires¿ are especially gifted at finding the most vulnerable victims. With Dr. Bernstein¿s help, these vampires will see you as no easy prey and move on to others. You recognize Emotional Vampires by the emotional aftermath: they ¿take a lot out of you,¿ they leave you feeling ¿drained,¿ they ¿pushed your buttons,¿ they are ¿high maintenance,¿ etc. Dr. Bernstein is right on the money with ¿vampire bite¿ as a metaphorical diagnosis for the real harm these types cause, but beware: the fangs seldom show, and emotional vampires can seem as harmless and ineffectual as Aunt Bea, or as affable as Will Rogers. Each chapter is a recognizance of different ¿vampire¿ personality types. I realized I was particularly vulnerable to the ¿histrionics¿ who thrive on drama for its own sake. I used Bernstein¿s techniques on a certain ¿histrionic¿ vampire in my life, and now I¿m thankfully out of her perpetual soap opera. I urge everybody to buy this book. It¿s a funny and easy read, but the subject is serious and the insights ring deeply true. Once you have read it you will have the power to protect yourself from a lot of hard times and wasted hours.

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