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Posted April 29, 2011
Highly recommended for anyone who has been affected by porn in any way!
Before receiving this book, I had real hesitation about reading it. As an adult who was once a child molested by many family members for years who were addicted to porn and then offered as much porn as I wanted by my father at age 12 or 13, I swung between many emotions...would this book help me in any way or would it only dredge up painful, life-altering memories? To escape my pain as a young person, I ran away from home. I lived with some family members for months and then due to hardship, I stayed in a foster home.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
When I first opened the package that contained the book, pink rose petals fell in my lap. I didn't understand the connection to the book, but I loved that.
I turned the book over and over in my hands several times a day for nearly a week. With a fear of opening old wounds, I began to read Exposed. I could not put it down. I read until 3 AM. When I finished, I laid my head on the kitchen table and wept.
Exposed was riveting, poignant, tender, raw, truthful... I ached with pain for the wife whose husband was addicted to porn and for her infertility journey. With the porn star, I felt the heaviness and the longing to belong and to be loved. And the husband...I felt the pain and understood his confusion, helplessness and the trying to explain to his wife that it wasn't about her.
Porn destroys lives. It destroys dreams. It destroys families. It is a powerful addiction. Ashley Weis does a fantastic job of covering all three characters and the myriad of emotions with each.
I hope Ms. Weis will follow Exposed with the next chapter in the lives of the husband and wife. As anyone with experience in porn knows, breaking free is quite the journey.
I plan to encourage our church's bookstore to consider carrying this book.
I'm so glad I overcame my hesitation and read this skillfully written book on a very difficult subject.
Posted March 15, 2011
Exposed shows the ugly truth behind an ugly problem - porn. As a former porn/sex addict, I can appreciate the raw emotions displayed by the characters and their different reactions to the same problem. The relationship between Ally and Jessie closely mirrored my relationship with my wife during my struggle. It is authentic and real. Though this is a fictional story, there are a lot of parallels to real life, and anyone who has dealt with this problem can attest to that. It's almost like a biblical parable. Ashley Weis is a creative and talented writer, and this story will take you places that you never expected to go. Despite the robust size of the book, I was able to finish it in about 2 days of reading because I couldn't put it down. I would recommend this book to anyone who has seen the ugly side of a porn addiction, especially men because it gives you an honest, real look at the self-esteem and validation issues that women have to deal with when the men in their lives betray their trust because of this problem.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted March 7, 2011
Wow -- Just Wow
This book is amazing. It's real and honest, but amazing. For anyone who thinks that porn is not harmful, this book is a must-read. And for anyone who has been harmed by porn, this is a must-read. They are not many Christian books out there tackling this subject, and Weis does so with grace. There are no horrible details, although there is suffering involved. I couldn't put this book down and when I finally finished I wished Weis had written a follow-up. I want to know more. I want to know what happens next, and so many of the characters were so interesting to me. I'd love to know what happened to all of them. This book is not an easy read, it's so real that you feel like you are living the pain yourself, but the hope and redemption make it such a beautiful book. I loved Exposed and can't wait to read Ashley's other books.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted February 28, 2011
I want to read this book as i struggle with the fact that my husband is a sex addict. I have been told this book is really good. I read most of my books on my Nook. Please make this book a NookbookWas this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted October 27, 2010
I loved how real this book was!
Wow. This story kept building and building in regards to depth and insight. At first I was thinking this was a four star book because I wasn't able to understand Ally's outrage, but by the end of the book the character's growth was so impressive the story had moved up from four to five stars in my opinion. Everything came together so well even though it was NOT all neat and tidy, and yeah, it got me crying, too. I love it when a book moves me to tears in a good way. The coolest thing about this book was the faith thread and how honestly and naturally it was portrayed. The author didn't seem to concern herself with how her characters should think and act. She made them real by showing how they really thought and acted, and she did a great job of it because I forgot I was reading several times. I felt like I knew the characters well by book's end.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
I think I identified the most with Taylor. She was so trapped. And her neediness and faulty thinking just kept her more glued to the heartache. She clearly had that phenomenon going where victims identify so much with their abusers that they become loyal to them regardless of how badly they were hurt. Even when she tried to get away, she failed because she was so lost. I hurt for her. I loved how the author showed the ugly side of her life and made her plight so real. A few times it was so intense I needed to take a break from the book and just let it soak into my head and heart. I tend to mull things over a lot and this story gave me a lot to ponder. When I went back to reading things intensified. I thought it was brilliant how when Taylor's life got worse, Ally started remembering the good times. I think that helped keep me reading because there was balance there between the heavy and the beautiful stuff.
It's hard to post a review without posting spoilers, but I will try to. Ally's growth and living the experience of seeing God use her loss to be someone else's blessing was pretty powerful stuff. The best part was the transition was gradual enough to be believable. I loved how Ally realized that she was able to give advice to people when she wasn't suffering the same thing in her life, but when her client's lives mirrored her own, she discovered she didn't know the first thing about forgiveness or how to heal a marriage, even though she did that for a living. Ally had a perpetual sense of inadequacy that her husband's addiction fed whenever he confessed something else to her. But I commend him for confessing anyway. There is no real healing in a marriage where there are secrets kept. While I understood her husband's reluctance because she reacted exactly how he feared she would, he still told her about his past. That was brave.
I loved how Ally questioned God so much. Everything she thought was so honest. I also loved how when she pushed her husband away because of anger what she really wanted was for him to fight for her and for their marriage. How beautifully that was shown. I loved how he didn't always do the right thing, but Ally learned to look to God instead of to herself or her husband to be her strength. Again, beautifully done. This is one of those life-changing books that will stay on my keeper shelf.