Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love

The Best Book Yet On Love Addictions

When I discovered my husband had an affair, I was devastated. I read every book on affairs and I could not find any reference or case study that matched our experience. His was not a mid life crisis and he had not fallen in love with another woman nor was it a meaningless one night stand or exit affair. After I discovered my husband's second affair, I read one of Patrick Carnes' books on sex addiction. Suddenly much of our experience made sense. After I finished my therapy for now and joined a COSA group, I discovered this book. Pia's book on the relationship dynamics of love addictions has given me more insight into how my husband and I get drawn into our own fears and how negatively this impacts our marriage. I liked the chapter where Pia said even if one partner recovers, it breaks the addiction tango cycle. That is the point I am at now--trying to stop being controled by my own fears and trying to live my own life. If I could only have read two books on this topic, Pia's book would be one.

3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

FINALLY! SOMEONE HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD!

I have read numerous self-help books in an effort to comprehend and recover from an intoxicating -- and toxic -- relationship that practically debilitated me with depression when it ended. A few of the books seemed to tell part of my story, but Pia said it all in a succinct, direct way. She articulated both the enigmatic situation and inexplicable feelings I experienced so vividly, but had been unable to comprehend (even with the help of other books and my own therapist) until now. I feel that after years of baby steps in the right direction, I might finally be able to break free from this destructive addiction to a person -- or actually just the fantasy of a person -- who does not deserve my attention, let alone my love.

2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

An excellent book!

I think this book provides us with some very nice explanations of how and why we develop certain types of interpersonal tendencies. It clearly explains how we become love addicts or avoidance addicts and how these we develop codependent relationships. It is very insightful and inspiring since most of us have a love addict and avoidance addict in us to varying extents. Although this is true in most psychotherapy literature, I believe that codependence should be conceptualized more broadly because it occurrs in various levels and it manifests itself in a much wider variety of ways (not just between love and avoidance addicts). An excellent book that gives us a more comprehensive explanation of this is 'The Ever-Transcending Spirit' by Toru Sato. It is a fabulous book on relationships and personal development that I can't say enough about.

2 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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I have collected many self help books over the years. This is a winner, easy to read and understand. You feel as if the author understands through education and experience. Not since john bradshaw has there been such helpful information on codependence and addiction. I believe that love addiction may be the most powerful of all. Thank you pia!

1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

Finally a Book that Explains Me to Me

Why is love so hard? How could love be so cruel? The more intense it was-the crazier it was. Pia explained it. This is the book that started the second stage of my recovery.

1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

Love is a drug

Yes, love is a drug and you can be addicted to it in a very bad way. But the love we can be addicted to is not real love. The author explains this very well and why one of them leads to serious problems. This is a very good book for those seeking for help in their relationships. Another great book for those seekign help in their relationships is Rhythm Relationships and Transcendence by Toru Sato. It is an excellent book and very easy to read!

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