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Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 16, 2000

    The BEST self-help book on Grief

    Grief is a painful and often debilitating journey that challenges the griever to find new meaning in living and in his/her spititual faith. Bob and Susan take the reader by the hand and tell their own pain-filled story of their journey of grief. But, much more than a journal of their experiences, this book offers professionally sound psychological and theological analysis of the subject of grief. The author's self-disclosure regarding their own grief experiences brings flesh and blood to the abstract process of grieving. The authors offer many practical grief-resolving suggestions on topics that range from sex to finances, parenting to dating, memeory-making to remarriage. Pastor Bob grapples with the difficult questions of theology and personal faith that surround the grief journey. The pastor provides pointed words of comapssionate support that are shaped by a hope-filled Biblical perspective. But he is never superficially pollyanna with his Christian perspective. Instead, he offers wisdom that evolved from a personal wrestling with God that tears at scripture to find meaningful truths. Susan encourages the reader to identify and stay in touch with the various emtions that are associcated with grief and recovery. Homework assignments that she offers require committment on the part of the griever to work at healthy recovery and not passively wait for time to pass. She worked at her recovery and expects the readers to do the same, but at their own pace and utilizing their own strengths. Her sensitivity as a clinician is evident throughout the book. Both authors challenge readers to work out their grief without avoidance and with the assurance that God is their partner in this painful journey of healing.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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    Posted November 3, 2000



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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 25, 2000

    Emotional AND Spiritual Help

    There is no 'fast' recovery from losing your spouse. Both authors let you know there is a long road ahead -- they've both been there. Even with their individual professional experience and knowledge (A Phychological therapist and a minister) they found themselves in the depths of grief as they lost their previous spouses. Susan walks you through from the 'nuts and bolts' of your emotions and your thinking, while Robert guides you through your relationship with God. I lost my wife in March, 2000, to cancer. Even non-Christians will be thinking about hereafter. I never examined my faith and belief in afterlife as closely as I did after my wife died. Susan and Robert, through their book, filled me in on my personal walk through that dark valley. Don't spend too much time looking for this book in local bookstores (I tried four in Los Angeles area with no success). Go ahead and order it if you think this is for you.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 19, 2014

    Highly Recommend

    This book helped me understand what I was going through and feeling after the loss of my husband was normal. It also helped me start to heal. I am still in the early process of grief. Plan to read the book again soon.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 26, 2013

    Absolutely the Best!

    At 42, my hubby died after a four month fight with a brain tumor. Although I've worked among the dying for most of my life, nothing prepared me for his death. This book is one of the very few resources out there for younger widows and widowers. In the last ten plus years, I've read most of what is available. This book is the best! It is written so that you can read it a chapter here and there on a particular topic of interest, or cover to cover. I appreciate both the man and woman's perspectives, and the minister and counselor's professional perspectives. The authors are widows and widowers themselves, who have now married each other. I've purchased this book multiple times as a gift for others on this journey.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 19, 2008

    An Outstanding Grief Reference Book

    I recently lost my husband due to cancer and I have turned to this book time and time again. It answered many of my questions such as when do I take off my wedding ring...I still refer to it even though a year has passed. I am buying copies to pass along to friends that they may find the comfort I found in this book! I can't say enough! Great Reference Material for Everyone!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 9, 2008

    Most Helpful

    It took me about a year to read this book, but I found it very helpful and practical.

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    Posted December 6, 2008

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