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I think polygamy is set up for problems, and I'm not just saying
I think polygamy is set up for problems, and I'm not just saying this because I'm female. History is full of family squabbles over the children of one mother ganging up on their half-brothers and sisters who are descended from a different mother. It can breed a lot of jealousy and resentment because many men will have their favorite wives and neglect the others. Most chilling to me is the patriarchy's justification for polygamy, rooted primarily in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints' (Mormon) history and doctrine. Although polygamy was officially outlawed by the Church in the late 1800s via a revelation (that many fundamentalists believe was politically motivated so Utah would attain statehood), the practice flourishes in growing enclaves in Utah and surrounding areas. A good thing about this book is that it shows how little a difference there is between fundamentalist Mormons and mainstream Mormons. They both pray a polygamous god, sing the same hymns and believe in polygamy.
Mainstream Mormons have stopped practicing it to avoid legal trouble, but their own literature testifies that polygamy will be restored after the second coming of Jesus (Mormon Doctrine, Bruce MacConkie).
Besides the unhappy women trapped in polygamy today, we should also start to think about the condition of "happy" LDS women, whose future prospect is to share their husbands with other women after the second coming.
Not my idea of a pleasant afterlife. The Author's involvement with a group known as Tapestry Against Polygamy (TAP) could indicate that she expects that organization to use it in reading groups. TAP is an aid program modeled on safe houses for victims of domestic violence. Indeed, that's essentially what it is, although of a specialized nature, since polygamous husbands (and their religious leaders) routinely use quite forceful methods to "discipline" a wife into submission. Child abuse is also rampant, and incest is sufficiently common that those two groups of victims overlap a good deal.
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Posted November 17, 2006
Chilling and Shocking
It is hard to believe that this can go on in America, but it does. Polygamy is a system that is set up for problems. It can cause jealousy and infighting in a family where the children of one mother will often jostle for power over the children of another. It can cause friction between the women who are vying for the husband's attention. I'm appalled at the young age of these girls who are put into forced marriages -- often to husbands old enough to be their fathers or grandfathers. I am also appalled at the fact that these men can have so many wives and children and yet refuse to support them. The instances of polygamy in the Old Testament show that the husbands of these plural wives provided for and cared for their families. The type of polygamy shown in this book is totally unBiblical. (In fact, the New Testament seems to repudiate polygamy, but that's another story.) Although this mostly deals with the plight of the girls, it also shows young boys being victimized, too. Hopefully, something will happen to break the back of this very bad system.
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Posted February 25, 2011
i highly recommend this to all readers
excellent, riveting, the women have great courage and will to change in their lives what they know is not the love of god but the wishes of insanity.....their fathers, their so called prophets and all men of fundamental mormonsWas this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 14, 2009
This is a look into Polygamy and the shameful victimization that goes with it. It is well written and hard to put down. It is shocking that this goes on in the U.S.A. in the 2000's.
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What A Collection Of Stories!
This book made me angry! I wonder why the wrath of God has not been poured out upon those men who practice plural marriages! Too many of these stories ended up with no hope for the "survivor". This is not a book for children! How people get away with this stuff in this day and age is unconstitutional! What these women have gone thru makes waterboarding look easy!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted November 13, 2008
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