Customer Reviews for

Grow up!: How Taking Responsibility Can Make You a Happy Adult

Be the first to write a review
( 0 )
Rating Distribution

5 Star


4 Star


3 Star


2 Star


1 Star


Your Rating:

Your Name: Create a Pen Name or

Barnes & Review Rules

Our reader reviews allow you to share your comments on titles you liked, or didn't, with others. By submitting an online review, you are representing to Barnes & that all information contained in your review is original and accurate in all respects, and that the submission of such content by you and the posting of such content by Barnes & does not and will not violate the rights of any third party. Please follow the rules below to help ensure that your review can be posted.

Reviews by Our Customers Under the Age of 13

We highly value and respect everyone's opinion concerning the titles we offer. However, we cannot allow persons under the age of 13 to have accounts at or to post customer reviews. Please see our Terms of Use for more details.

What to exclude from your review:

Please do not write about reviews, commentary, or information posted on the product page. If you see any errors in the information on the product page, please send us an email.

Reviews should not contain any of the following:

  • - HTML tags, profanity, obscenities, vulgarities, or comments that defame anyone
  • - Time-sensitive information such as tour dates, signings, lectures, etc.
  • - Single-word reviews. Other people will read your review to discover why you liked or didn't like the title. Be descriptive.
  • - Comments focusing on the author or that may ruin the ending for others
  • - Phone numbers, addresses, URLs
  • - Pricing and availability information or alternative ordering information
  • - Advertisements or commercial solicitation


  • - By submitting a review, you grant to Barnes & and its sublicensees the royalty-free, perpetual, irrevocable right and license to use the review in accordance with the Barnes & Terms of Use.
  • - Barnes & reserves the right not to post any review -- particularly those that do not follow the terms and conditions of these Rules. Barnes & also reserves the right to remove any review at any time without notice.
  • - See Terms of Use for other conditions and disclaimers.
Search for Products You'd Like to Recommend

Recommend other products that relate to your review. Just search for them below and share!

Create a Pen Name

Your Pen Name is your unique identity on It will appear on the reviews you write and other website activities. Your Pen Name cannot be edited, changed or deleted once submitted.

Your Pen Name can be any combination of alphanumeric characters (plus - and _), and must be at least two characters long.

Continue Anonymously
Sort by: Showing all of 2 Customer Reviews
Page 1 of 1
  • Posted April 13, 2009

    more from this reviewer

    I Also Recommend:

    Here is a textbook for learning how to live as an adult.

    Only a person with a Curriculum Vitae similar to Dr. Pittman could have written this book. Not only did it require ample experience to become a seasoned therapist but enough life lived to offer the insights gleaned from that rich experience. An individual with less knowledge, who had poorer ability to perceive reality, with less ability as a writer or one who had not LIVED their life could have offered the treasures as well as this author did in this volume. Dr. Pittman confronts, frequently, vigorously, honorably and with the validation of successful practice, the "pop psychology" that has ran, unbridled, in therapeutic settings since the 1960's. According to the author, this kind of "treatment" has played a significant role in successfully destroying, in less than 40 years, an institution that had been stable for millennia - the family.
    Dr. Pittman sites the idea of "if it feels right for me at the time" and the end of Patriarchy as two key reasons people, particularly men, refuse to "grow up" and become adults. In this book, he systematically addresses: the end of patriarchy, men, women, separation from parents and parenting, marriage, children, divorce and happiness. He offers the reader an idea of how to become a productive adult within the discussion of those issues. Much of what he says is "old school" - common sense, behaving responsibly, etc.; little of what is said in this book would be comfortable to a reader who likes being irresponsible. Those individuals would probably not read past the introduction, however.
    The most eloquent and passionate chapter is "How to Have a Grown Up Marriage." Dr. Pittman's commitment to and belief in marriage is inspiring. He speaks from the perspective of one who is a nationally (world?) renowned Marriage and Family Therapist and one who has "been totally married for 37 years." In all likelihood the least popular and politically incorrect chapter is "Love, Lies and Divorce." He contends, with some vehemence, the only reason divorce should be even considered is systematic or life threatening abuse. (He does instruct the police be called if ANY physical abuse occurs in a relationship.) Any other reason is a refusal, on at least one member of the couple, to do the work of an adult. He also contends that divorce must never be a consideration in marriage, to do so gives the participants an "easy way out" of the required work and undermines the trust in the relationship.
    This is a book in print for ten years, which almost makes it a classic in the "self-help" genre and may suggest some level of credence to what it has to offer. Well written by an experienced author and therapist, it would be a good resource for Premarital couples, individuals/couples considering their present state of marriage or those struggling with how to be a Self in relationship. Dr. Pittman uses "adult" language in the writing of this book and what he says requires a level of maturity beyond that of an adolescent (in terms of maturity, not age) mind set. Much of what this book offers reminded me of Dr. Schnarch's The Passionate Marriage in its insistence on the individual growing up and letting marriage do the work of creating a complete person.

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
  • Anonymous

    Posted October 14, 2002

    SIMPLE & straightforward

    I saw Dr. Pittman present this book at a lecture on marriage 3 years ago. I buy this book repeatedly for friends and recommend it to clients. Charli Prather, msw

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
Sort by: Showing all of 2 Customer Reviews
Page 1 of 1