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He-lationships and She-lationships
However, in the real w...
However, in the real world, such immediate mutual affinity, while certainly very real, fizzles out more often than not. And so the search for that compatible partner continues.
But what defines "compatible"? Does it refer to both partners being diehard Cleveland Browns fans? Does it mean that both enjoy post-Impressionist works of art at a gallery showing, followed by a trip to Starbucks for a mocha latte? Might it allude to either one enjoying the company of the other one's parents and siblings?
Granted, such examples comprise a very narrow segment of the American population. As a divorced forty-two-year-old male who has experienced his fair share of the dating scene, I certainly have no monopoly on the perfect date, much less defining the subjective concept of "perfect." However, I can assure you that dating is a numbers game---nothing more, nothing less. It's a crap shoot, and most of the time we fall short---either we don't like something about ourselves or our dates, or our date expresses similar reservations about us.
That's where Stephen Williams gets into the act. His book "How to Get a Boyfriend: Unleash the Secret and Become a Happy Girlfriend" asks the question: how does a male author write about the intricate world of dating and all its experiences from a female perspective?
Williams seems to arrive at a fairly reasonable, logical approach---since most dating experiences involve the acts of social intercourse on both sexes' parts, following basic dating protocol should be relatively straightforward: be yourself; don't compare past dating experiences to the present ones; make your date feel as if (s)he is the most important person in the world; meet in a public setting for the first few dates; be aware of your surroundings; let others know of your plans for that day/evening; and have fun.
In "Boyfriend," the author makes numerous valiant attempts to view the dating process by putting himself in another woman's two-inch heeled pumps. He does express empathy for a woman's collective dating plights; he uses his usual comforting words to reassure women that by following the protocol mentioned in the book and in the previous paragraph, finding a suitable long-term partner with compatible interests, goals, desires, and fears will occur.
About the only distraction I observed within "Boyfriend" was a fairly typical male perspective being applied by the author to women: Williams asserts that a woman should fight for the man she wants to date, so that she won't feel "robbed" by other potential female rivals. My admittedly limited understanding of how women communicate and work with other women is that most of them accomplish these goals via communal effort and cooperation. Women are raised in our society to work together and to emphasize communication, whereas most men are encouraged to be competitive in society and strive for individual glory and achievement. The author's basic premise being presented to his female readers in this particular situation seems to encourage confrontation and conflict, and I was a bit uncomfortable with this approach. (Maybe I am in the minority here.)
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For all the lonely women sitting at home on Saturday nights, thi
A prize catch, presumably, does wonders for the esteem and a good show-off to exhibit to the girls. I found the book a good casual read. The book is more suited to those still in the war territory for boys especially girls in their late teens or twenties who are still learning the ropes of the dating culture and looking for tips and reminders
The book does reflect maturity especially if it is targeted at girls who are still facing insecurity issues and a still un-established esteem. The book’s advice in looking deeper than superficial values such as physical attributes is assuring and upping the confidence level. Physical attributes are important as that is the first bell that alerts men but to sustain a relationship it takes more than physical attributes. Otherwise, it is most often, a one-way ticket to boredom.
The book, from a man’s perspective, does provide the inside on the things men look for in woman, and how women can capitalize on that information to their advantage. Read this book if you are really looking for that next boyfriend.
posted by CatherinePeters on November 13, 2012Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted November 10, 2012
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It’s no secret. There are more women in the world than there are men. Men are scarce so don’t feel bad if you don’t have one.
Nevertheless, being alone is no fun. Everyone wants someone to cuddle up to in the night. Everyone wants to have another special person that they share an intimate relationship with.
Every woman deserves to have a man.
I picked up Stephen William’s How to Get a Boyfriend, not because I want a boyfriend, but because I was interested in what he had to say concerning getting a man in your life.
The book was very good in the hints and tips that it gives to women. Rest assured, if you wanted a manual on how to get a man, then here is one for you, courtesy of Stephen Williams.
The book is very informative, I have to admit that. It tells a lot that we women should know. You would be surprised that most of the things that you thought concerning men, are not true. Also, you would be surprised to know that most of the tactics that you may be using to draw a man to you, may instead be pushing them away from you.
Williams tells it from the source and he has packed this book with so much, you will be overwhelmed, in a good way.
If you are a woman who really wants to find her other half, then I think this book will be a good one for you to read.
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