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Like No Other Book I have ever read. Changed my Life and Actually Made me truely happy!!
I have hundreds of marriage books, personal books etc.We have been to therapt, been to church and sought every help imaginable.I was literally leaving my husband(for the 3 time) when I randomly grabbed this book at my grocery store. Words can not express what it has done for me. I have been a christian(not always the best) my whole life. I thought I knew everything. I am stubborn by nature, but, I knew that before this book, there was NO WAY to change my marriage. My husband was never going to get it, or care and I was confident I did my part and beyond. However, as soon as I opened this book, I was knocked to the floor! Remember I said I have read & studied every book out there. This book was nothing like anything I have ever come across. The author, 25 year veteran christian marrital counselor, knew exactly what I needed apparently. She showed me new ways of thinking about myself, my spouse, my marriage, what marriage really is and designed for and that all my ways of thinking and FEELING, were the worlds way. I really felt I had done everything. That my spouse was unresponsive and uncaring and wasn't interested in treating me the way I wanted. We had beeen thru SO much, including affairs, that how could this book be different. This is not a book that tells you to go back, shut up, take a bunch of crap with a smile and pretend you're happy and so you shall be. I found out that I didn't need my happiness to come from my husband. It isnt his job to make me happy. Trust me readers, I am THE MOST dramatic, sensitve, emotionally needy person I know. I have a lot to give, but need/want more in return. I thought marriage was for me to be happy and feel truely loved. If all the other books I have read, helped me see a few pointers, and did perk my mood, this book surely wouldn't do anything beyond that. I was right, he was wrong. He wouldn't take his "1/2" of the responsibilty. Our own Christian therapist told us, AFTER 6 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, "It sounds to me like the two of you really don't have a marriage at all, and really, never had one". I took that as, see, it's because my husband wouldn't make any of the efforts I was to have a marriage! But now after reading this book, I truely have seen the light and know that our therapist was right. NEITHER my husband nor myself haver truely grasped the concept, of marriage. This book saved my marriage, and not just that, it brought the light and attention to things about my self, I never saw, knew or acknowledged. Once so many things were exposed, things truely began to change. I am not saing I have the perfect marriage now and life is PERFECT, but it is pretty close. The author writes.."We can not change what we do not see".....All I can say is AMAZING!
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Posted October 27, 2001
A Book for Every Marriage
Every husband and wife should read this book. Leslie's teaching is practical, as well as profound. For those who are 'gutting it out' in their marriages, she offers help and hope, and even the best marriages could be improved by reading her book. Some of what impacted me the most were the following: * FAIRNESS: 'Most of us live under the illusion that life is fair--or at least should be. The illusion that marriage is fifty-fifty. I shouldn't have to give more than I get. This kind of wishful thinking will always keep us stuck in immaturity or resentment. Or both.' * CHOICES: 'Our choices reveal what we love the most, what we fear, what is of ultimate value to us, and what we think we need in life--in other words, our choices expose the dominant desires of our heart.' * TRAINING: 'God never tell us to try to be spiritual, he tell us to train. ... Do you want to be more like Jesus? Stop trying and start training.' * KINDNESS: 'Being kind and gracious doesn't mean you ignore the wrongdoing or pretend it didn't happen.' I highly recommend this book. Even if you're not married, you'll find it helps you grow in personal relationships.
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Posted May 13, 2010
How To Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong
I absolutely loved this book! I don't think the title was totally right for the book. In fact, while I was reading it I didn't want my husband to think I was pointing fingers. This is a Christian book that shows us how God uses marriage to allow us to grow as individuals. The author, Leslie Vernick talks about servanthood and humility, but not trying to change your spouse. She uses Biblical principals to encourage us to do God's will in our marriage. This book is so good I would read it again and recommend it to anyone that wants to get married some day or is already married.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 14, 2009
Read this book
This book not only offers a Biblical picture of what being a loving and faithful spouse looks like, it also gives practical advice about how to get there. You don't find yourself at the end of the book asking, "yes, but how?"Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted November 21, 2001
If You Get Frustrated With Your Spouse - This Book is For You
Leslie Vernick provides practical wisdom that can move you beyond the struggles and entanglements of your martial woes toward new growth. This book is a must IF you want to do what is best for your marriage-- regardless of the decisions and choices of your spouse. Georgia Shaffer, PA Licensed PsychologistWas this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted December 13, 2011
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