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Posted April 21, 2012
Self-Help For Friendships
What is a friend and how can someone bring friends into their lives? That is the premise of Dr. John Townsend's book, How To Be A Best Friend Forever. His position is that friends are our second family, those who after we are nurtured in our birth families, help us to finish growing outside that protective environment. They bring needed diversity of opinion. Of course, to have a friend, one must be a friend and Townsend covers what makes a great friend and what one must do to have them.
Best friends should not be considered an exclusive title, he suggests, but rather an inclusive category such as best movies or best songs. An individual needs a variety of best friends, each of whom brings a different viewpoint that allows the rounding out of one's personality. Nor are best friends better than other friends rather they are those whom an individual feels the most connection with.
In order to be a good friend, several items are required. One must commit time and effort to building the relationship. The shared times are currency in a friendship bank that allow withdrawals when that is inevitable. Friends should make sustained efforts to carve out time for their friends and to be available when they are needed.
Another item that is required is the commitment to be vulnerable, to let the friend see you as you are, to know your strengths and weaknesses, your faults and your best characteristics. Without this vulnerability, there is not a best friend relationship but a strong acquaintanceship one. Finally, truth is an absolute necessity; the truth to reveal yourself honestly, and the truth to tell your friend what they may not want to hear but need to.
Dr. Townsend is a psychologist, speaker and leadership coach. He has a daily radio show and has authored several other bestselling books. His advice is succinct and written in an approachable manner. This book is recommended for those interested in bringing another resource into their lives, and those interested in nurturing and sustaining the friendships they already have.
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Posted October 2, 2013
Posted August 20, 2012
How to Be a Best Friend Forever Dr. John Townsend Book Summary:
How to Be a Best Friend Forever Dr. John Townsend Book Summary: OurWas this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
world has diluted the meaning of friendship, but the reality is, there’s
nothing like the sustaining strength of true-blue, forever friends.
Still, many people are convinced that they’ll never find such lifelong
connections—or that they don’t need them. In this encouraging book,
best-selling author and psychologist John Townsend delivers hope and
help for making these relationships a reality—and for making them even
better if you’ve already got a “bestie.” His eight principles for
building the very best kind of friendship, along with his shared
experiences within his own friendships (including mistakes he’s made),
will move every reader to aspire to deeper connections and to stay the
course when challenges arise. Townsend’s simple but profound concepts
are sure to transform readers’ relationships and keep them from missing
out on one of life’s greatest and most essential joys: the joy of having
a best friend. Review: I found this book to be a good help for how to
be a better friend and how to nurture a friendship. I really liked the
aspect of the book referring to the how we need a variety of friends. It
was a tremendous help with understanding the varied aspects of
friendship. The book draws on the author's own experiences. It was very
detailed with the varied aspects of friendship and how to grow a
friendship even deeper through shared experiences and suffering. It also
help with explaining how friendships may suffer from experiences that
can stall a growing friendship. I would like to thank Net Galley and
Worthy Publishing for allowing me to read and review this book in return
for a free copy and I was never asked to write a favorable review by anyone.
Posted June 14, 2012
Definitely a must read
I read snippets online, and I purchased the book for myself when I couldn't get enough. I have highlighted almost the whole thing, and I even bought a copy for my bff.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.