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Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 20, 2004

    Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

    Our NATURE?How would anyone else know my nature but me!God gave us all a unique individual nature.My nature is different from other women.God didn't make stepford wives,He made individuals. The writer wants to keep women at a lower level than men,by robbing them of their strength and power.She does it by saying how women have this NATURE which makes them more easily hurt,so she thinks.What you believe about yourself,the inner voice you have will dictate how you respond to sex and love.This idea of women being more emotional and romantic is culture driven.It is bunk and every woman should strive to leave these beliefs behind her.BTW I'm Muslim,but I read the book to see how Evangelicals view women,and it makes me happy I'm not one of them!If you believe your 'nature' is emotional and soft,you will be emotional and soft.If some women wish to believe women are 'victims' of men,they can.No one can stop them because it's convenient for them so they can say POOR ME.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 13, 2003

    Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

    Every page of the book is smuthered with a negative and defensive look at men and sexuality. The message is 'men are the enemy and you must guard your virtue'.Not an exact quote but an example of how the book could be a hazard for a young lady when she wants to know about sexuality and men. Everyone is a sexual being not just men.Nor are men always the aggressors which society sterotypes them as being.Women can be hurt, women can use men for sex.It all depends on the people involved in the situation.No two people are alike. After reading the book I was left with the wind out of my sails.The constant sterotyping of behavior left me with a very sad feeling,a feeling of anger.My anger was do to the fact of not many books have a positive word to women and girls about sex. Most are about not 'giving in' as though women are the only pressured people. No young woman can read this book and feel very positive about sex or herself.The book is very clear about these sterotypical 'limitations women have.Hence the only sexuality women have is passive,responsive and limited to whatever the man does to 'win her heart'. As though women are blind to desire. The defensive attitude toward sex in the book is dangerous,for how can a woman ever feel free to desire if she is made to feel so neurotic about sexuality.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 11, 2003

    Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

    I would never want a young woman to read this book for several reasons,one being the writer views women as emotional,illogical, love sick vunerable passive vessels.This is NOT a message young women need.What young women need to know is they are just as prone to desire and oh my lust as men are,and how to controll desire and oh my LUST. The Christian Right as a whole completely ignores any real sexuality in women and girls,and always seems to equate all sexuality in women to being desirable or desired. The writer completely ignores the fact of how people are individuals and how men can be hurt and emotional and women can be the hunters and use men. After reading the book I came to the conclusion that the Christian Right wants women to feel and vunerable in every aspect of their lives,including sexuality,so these people,the Christian Right can use the vunerable state of mind the girl gets after reading this book to their advantage to further convert the reader to a born again with all the typical hang ups born agains have about sex. If you can get someone in a vunerable state of mind you can manipulate their emotions much more.This is why no books about women from the born agains empower women and make them feel like whole human beings.Their ultimate goal is to get women dependent and easily lead and controlled so they can be dominated and made into children. The book gave me a sense of sadness.To think how many women have read the book and believed all the nonsense about 'female emotions' and 'vunerabilities'It's enough to make me sick. I left the born again church for this very reason.Their goal is to create mindless submissive women who obey,bury their talents and deny sexuality.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 7, 2002

    Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

    The assumption is women are weak and emotional and cannot handle breakups and sexual experiences,due to some so called female hormone,oxytocin and general emotional and mental weakness,thought to plagg women.While on the other hand,all men are naturally logical and can take whatever comes to them.How wrong is book is! Not only is it sexist but it has an agenda to weaken women and give them the notion that they can't make it in the world without a "Christian man" who will patronize them and put them in a place of little influence and controll of life.Somehow the writer believes,a woman cannot survive without a father figure of a husband who has all the right answers in life and who will eventually take controll and become the sole leader or rule maker in the household. Just the words"women giving in" makes me ill. Who made these fundamentalist Christians all knowing about sex and sexuaity to give such misleading information.Women are as sexual as men,but for some reason this fact is a great threat to the patriarcal system at large and especially to the Christian Right. The whole point and true agenda of these books is to brainwash women into thinking they are,emotional,weak,ineffectual,inner oriented,other oriented and basically lacking in several abilities,one of which is courage,independence and strong sexuality. There is an agenda here,to make Christian women the small minded and the Christian men into these all knowing mental giants.Nothing is worse than a man who looks at you as a child and believes you are without sexual desires.This runs through fundamentatlist Christianiy like a train.The train is off its tracks.

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