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The Language of Blood: A Memoir

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 28, 2004

    Playful, poignant, heartbreaking

    This memoir is 'about' being a Korean-born adoptee, and many of the author's experiences are unique to her. Nevertheless, some of her observations will ring true for anyone who has ever wondered whether/how they 'fit in,' with family or a culture. Trenka is still a young woman, and her life story remains a work-in-progress. She's not pretending to know the answers to all the questions she raises. The story itself is riveting; it's hard to put this book down. I was left wanting a sequel.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 8, 2003

    A Message for Everyone

    I'm a 28 year old white male and I'm not adopted. While I'm sensitive to Trenka's messages regarding trans-racial adoption, I feel that her book offers everyone an insight into their own humanity. Trenka tackles issues of identity, familial relationships, and self discovery, to name a few. As a human, her messages couldn't be more relevant. Whether you're an adoptee, adoptive parent, or just another person, Trenka's book bears a human message which speaks to us all.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 10, 2003


    This book was insanely well written. The author does a good job of pulling you into her emotions, so you feel exactly how she feels. I admire the bravery the author took to state her feelings about her experience growing up as a Korean-adoptee in rural Minnesota. You really have to read the book to get the feel for what I am saying. Go on! Read!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 25, 2003

    A must-read by anyone who has ever questioned their identity!

    Jane Jeong Trenka captivatingly writes about her struggles in the dichotomy of being an adopted Korean living in a small, rural town. In essence, it's living two lives. She writes (about her former self before being adopted, Kyong-Ah, and her sister, Mi-Ja) '...Kyong-Ah, who lived to the age of six months, and Mi-Ja, who died at four years of age when she became Carol. From the photographic evidence, Carol came into this world as a child and was never a baby at all.' These words echoed truths to me, as I was able to relate to Trenka's struggles to find her identity as an adopted Korean. Raised in a small, farming community in rural Minnesota surrounded by blonde haired, blue eyed Minnesotans; Trenka doesn't fit in with her black hair and slanted eyes¿even though she's as American as they are. When Trenka visits Korea, again, she struggles to fit in because although Trenka physically blends in, cultural customs and language barriers initially stand in her way. Once Trenka faces her past, she is able to find peace with her two families and two cultures, which ultimately is the key in finding her voice. Trenka¿s story is one that can be related by anyone who has struggling to define themselves. The Language of Blood gave me courage to face questions about my own past, and helped me be more open to embracing my different cultural influences. It showed me that to fully understand myself, I must first understand my past. In a lyrical prose style, Trenka begins each chapter with originative passages written in the forms of a short story, a play or monologue, a crossword puzzle or letters exchanged with her birthmother, which was insightfully written and easily flowed from one chapter to the next. The Language of Blood is an exemplary work of creative literary non-fiction and memoir.

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    Posted December 11, 2008

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