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  • Posted June 12, 2011

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    Keep Your Vows

    Love and War: Find Your Way to Something Beautiful in Your Marriage by John and Stasi Eldredge

    Step One involves a change in our perspective. We take the life we have right now, and we say to ourselves, We are in this together." Pg. 118

    It's difficult to read a book aimed at challenging marriages when my marriage is healthy. I am not and never have been "disappointed" in my marriage and never felt "responsible" for his unhappiness when we've always discussed any object of his happiness. Overall, the mix of humor, wisdom and personal experiences make this book ideal for troubled marriages, except for the introduction.

    Introduction: It Can Be Done goes very slowly. I began to wonder about how this related to the rest of the book and finally after struggling and skipping a couple of pages, I got to the point of the introduction at the end of the book. This caused me to dread the remaining chapters. If the introduction went this slowly, how am I going to get through the rest of the book?

    Stasi likes to talk. Especially in the morning, as we're heading into the day. Or in the evening, when we are getting ready for bed. I'll be standing in the kitchen in the morning, and she'll start a conversation from the bedroom and she'll just carry right on even though I am running the blender and no rabbit could possibly hear a thing she's saying. Then she'll walk into the room and ask, "Well?" Or at night (from a room away) and I've got the sound of a car wash in my head and I can't discern half of what she's holding forth on. - Pg. 41

    John's humor surprised me. He won my favor by simply mentioning that he likes to hunt and loves the outdoors. The humor broke up the seriousness and helped me to relate in most instances. Not in all instances. There is much wisdom in these pages. It's helpful for new marriages and I'd recommend this book to new and troubled marriages; maybe even required reading for those engaged to be married. The writing is good and biblical. The humor fades.

    The topic gradually became more serious and I interrupted my reading less to read parts of it to my husband (who laughed). The book is written to include both John and Stasi's points of view in the marriage. It was interesting to note the man's point of view in a common marriage discussion. I reached the last chapter about sex and laughed. What Christian book speaks so candidly about sex? It's not x-rated. It's a candid discussion.

    I was eavesdropping on a conversation between two couples-both empty nestors-about what it's like when the kids are gone: "It's wonderful-we have more time for Bible study," one couple said. Bible study?! Are you crazy? "We get to walk around the house naked and make love whenever we want!" the other couple said. - Pg. 176

    While the book (for me) was difficult towards the end to finish I did finish it. Except for the introduction it was well written, well thought out and well organized. If your marriage is troubled I would recommend this book. After all, the vows you made on your wedding day aren't to be taken lightly.

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  • Posted February 11, 2010

    Love and War

    Love and War is a good read for all married couples. The Eldredge's honesty about their own marriage can be a great encouragement. No matter how much we love each other, even as Christians, marriage can be a rough road to travel. Just knowing that your not alone in the struggle is a big help. They cover a lot of the major trials that married couples face. My favorite chapter is the one about the "little foxes". The small things that add up and steal our joy not only in each other and our marriage but they can damage the whole family and your personal relationship with Christ (my opinion anyway :) ) I think you will enjoy this book.

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    Posted June 14, 2010

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