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Posted September 27, 2004
Not at all helpful
I was given this book by a well-meaning woman at my church during the first year of my marriage. To say the least, I was offended and disappointed by the 'information' presented in this book. The material is sexist and presumptuous to say the least, and does nothing to help men and women understand each other 'in the bedroom.' The overall message I got from this book was that a man's need for sex is more important than a woman's need to have her feelings respected by her husband. The advice he gives for women who aren't in the mood, is to give in to their husbands and just let them have a 'quickie' to satisfy themselves and let the woman get back to what she was doing. This degrades wives and perpetuates the perception of women as sex objects, in my opinion. Gray's other not-so-professional antics include a section on how to tell what kind of sex your wife wants by the color of pajamas she is wearing. Of course, no color is exempt unless it's 'old flannel'. For a good laugh, this book might be worthwhile, but as a meaningful tool to promote a healthy sexual relationship between a man and a woman, this book is absolutely useless, and dare I say harmful.
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Posted November 25, 2000
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom
Throughout this book I get the notion that John Gray is trying to hit the reader with a two by four of bad,simple minded and sexist information and pass it on as 'fact'.A healthy woman aware of her sexuality just does not fit the discription of the neurotic, romantic and love sick,insecure child/woman John Gray presents to the reader.Granted some women are in a narrow frame of thinking and because of that this book might do some good, but it reinforces the sterotypes and makes no effort to change behavior and takes all behavior as innate rather than learned.
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Posted January 9, 2005
old myths,poor advice
Gray does nothing but rehash old myths about men and women,the usuall being'men want sex and women need emotional attachment before sex.With these sterotypes running through our society no wonder we have problems.People act out the myths,it's viewed as an innate male/female reality,then John Gray reinforces the myths by saying they are wired and innate.What about women who want a 'quickie' or a man who needs more emotional attachment? These do not exsist in Gray's world because he is trying to sell a book of mass appeal to people who are lost in a gender soup.
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Posted March 31, 2011
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