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The New Dare to Discipline

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3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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Great book!!!! Lots of practical information...I didn't know about it until I saw ugly things written about it on a website and it intrigued me. Loved the book!! Thanks B & N for selling it!!!

posted by Anonymous on June 20, 2008

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I was talking with other mums and dads while watching our children play football. The subject of discipline came up when talking about childrens behaviour and how we deal with it. The nervousness was palpable Punishing their children is taboo and they even feel guilty i...
I was talking with other mums and dads while watching our children play football. The subject of discipline came up when talking about childrens behaviour and how we deal with it. The nervousness was palpable Punishing their children is taboo and they even feel guilty if they have to. But one thing is they all admit something is wrong withregards to what is acceptable and what is not. I think Dr Dobson has finally put what we all really think out there but he is seen by many as one who said the F- word out loud in church. Is he right or wrong? Not sure, but it is a good start. The scripture verse 'Spare the rod' is often used and but it has been misunderstood by many. When it is mentioned we often visualise a stick, a belt , cane or whatever to beat a child with. That is not the case. A 'rod' in the Bible is a symbol of authority. It is usually carried by a king or queen or chief of a tribe. Here in England the Queen and even the House of Commons have a sceptre or rod. It symbolises power, authority and rule. The carrier holds the power which is recognised by all. All who are subjects of that person or institution mentioned above do recognise and subject themselves to it for the good of all. We all do it in some form or another in whatever country we live in (as long as the rule of law is righteous and fair). Those who rebel against it for selfish reasons are challenging the position of the holder and the rule of law and authority which goes with it(which leads to civil disobedience). These actions are dealt with accordingly and far more harshly than we as parents ever would. So, when the Bible says 'spare the rod and spoil the child' it really means that if you do not teach the child to respect, honour and recognise the authority in the home, the rule of law, social expectations etc then the child will grow up in a manner that refuses to accept any authority from anybody, any government, any law etc and effectivly the 'child is spoiled'. Which parent who loves their child wants them to grow up to be a churlish 'yob'. None of us do. So, it is not about using a rod to thrash a child into submission. How we teach our children is up to us and we are responsible for our childrens actions. Some parents just thrash them (which I think is despicable), some don't do it at all and some use it only when it is absolutely necessary, however much they hate to do it. Let us not be quick to judge others. If I truly believe that my child deserves a hiding then I must do it for them because I love them.If I let them grow up believing that it is ok to defy all authority because they want to get their own selfish way without any recourse for their actions, somebody else will punish them later in life when they try the same trick on them and that will break my heart. So, is Dr Dobson right or not? Maybe he has just written what we all think but are to afraid to talk about out loud. His book is not the bible of child-rearing but if it helps in some way to help my child grow up to be a great person who is happy, productive and brings a lot of good into the world, then it is ok for me.

posted by Anonymous on November 13, 2007

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 4, 2000

    Great Resource

    This book addresses many of the concerns of parents today. It talks about common sence and your child, disciplines in learning, barriers to learning etc...This is a great resource for parents of children of any age.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 15, 2008

    This Book Has Great Ideas For Discipline

    I found this book to be very helpful when my children were young. It has good ideas about how to handle situations in public and at home. It helps the child-parent relationship.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 3, 2006

    Dobson/Spanking Misunderstood

    It's plain to see how biased people when theytake Dr. Dobson's book out of context. Moveover, how clear it is that they have failed to read their Bibles. 'Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.' (Pr 22:15) ''He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.' (Pr 13:24). Regardless of what you think of Dobson's book, the Bible is very clear how Godly parents are to discipline their children. If parents don't teach their children about authority and how to be Godly people, who will? You wouldn't hand keys to your child and say, here you go figure out how to drive and which side of the road to drive on and what the rules are to follow so everyone is safe. Why would you send your children out and say, here you go figure out which rules you can break and which you have to obey? Don't you see that's what's happening in today's world? Children who aren't disciplined don't obey their parents, their teachers, or worldly laws, and finally don't obey God's laws set to protect us. Dobson is very clear to point out that spanking is not abusing your children. Unfortunately, people still continue to misunderstand the concept of disclining their children.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 18, 2005

    I'm no sure, but....

    I'm not sure what book that most of these folks have been reading, but from what I have read in reviews and from the book itself, it seems as though several people 'skimmed' through the book, taking several things out of context. I think this is an incredibly helpful book, it gives guildelines for discipline, and basically suggests it as a last resort and gives suggestions on how to handle children. The most important thing Dr. Dobson points out is to love your children, shower them with it, make them feel special and that they are special and cherished by you. I think this book is excellent.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 2, 2004

    The Right Prescription for Discipline

    As a degreed professional, I thought this book was excellent. No more of this weak and ineffectual parenting where every parent tries to be their child's best friend, tries to avoid discipline, and tries not to upset their child --meanwhile giving no moral guidance and setting no ethical criteria to their child. PTL for those who recognize that lack of discipline (studies suggest) has the same negative effects on children as over-discipline (abuse).

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