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Not Your Mother's Rules: The New Secrets for Dating

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 15, 2013

    Yeah, it's still your mother's rules

    There really isn't anything new here. The authors, Fein and Schneider, have written several books that all say the same thing: Don't be too easy. Men will treat you like a free hooker if you treat yourself like a free hooker. It's a tough message for both young women today, the primary target audience of this book, as well as older, professional women who are used to going after what they want and not waiting for a man to make all the moves. But that's the message, and it is uncomfortable, irritating, and true with some men. There is no research support for their frequent anecdotes, but there is a great deal of marketing for their rules-dating consultation business. Lastly, relating to the audio version of this book, what were they thinking bringing their daughters in to read? The authors' reading was tolerable enough, perhaps 3 stars. One daughter was only young and unprofessional. But the other daughter was incapable of enunciating clearly. It was horrible, waiting for her little reading to end so my torment could also end. Her reading is a glaring statement against the dangers of nepotism. However, with all my criticisms, which are sincere, I still will make sure my daughter reads this book before going to college. Many young men will not give young women respect; they must demand it. That is the strongest, best message of the book.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 25, 2013

    Great Rules except #2 and #28

    I am a woman in my mid-forties and I found the rules to be very helpful in pinpointing my dating mistakes. I now know exactly why men have lost interest. There was very little challenge. The book provides great tips in handling today's technology in the dating scene. I find rules 2 & 28 to be inaccurate and insulting. The authors should stay away from giving advice about body types and specifics on appearances. Many men like more curvy women who do not have long blonde hair, botox injections and dress in skimpy clothes. These 2 chapters alone can keep women from having the confidence to be Rules Girls therefore, I can not give this book 4 stars.

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    Posted March 5, 2013

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