Odd Girl Out, Revised and Updated: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls

This is a good book for all teenage girls to read.

All girls should read this, especially if they are being bullied. It shows how every girl has gone through some sort of bullying in their life. It also tells how they got through it and how it has affected them today. This book really helps explain why girls are the way they are and in a way that everyone can understand it. I loved all the personal stories from girls of all different ages. They really made the book move along and made it really interesting. Now, I notice different kinds of bullying and recognize things in real life that girls in this story really did and experienced. 'Odd Girl Out' has made me understand girl bullying in a whole new way.

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Been there

I was once odd girl myself
When my coolest and awsomes bff was the just the train reck to my lif and later on she had just turn her back on me and started to become this person i dont know anymore i knew our friendship had to end
So when i read this book i was like this reminds me of my and use to be bff
So if u are betrad by a friend and hurt by them u should defenly read this book

Home schooled

Im 11 and im also home schooled(if you wondering home schooling is fun!) So i don't have ad meny bullys in my life
But sum tims hormones git the best of me
And i havent read the book

Odd Girl Out

I know how it feels to be an odd girl out, i lost all og my hair the summer before my 6th grade year it wasnt fron cancer but it was from stress

unexpectedly good

I had to read this for a class and I was surprised how well I liked it. It gets a little repetitive at times, but i recommend it to anyone who is a future or current teacher, mother, or anyone else dealing with young and adolescent girls.

Such a Seminal Book

I recently re-read this after reading The Twisted Sisterhood (in which the author references Rachel Simmons a few times). I'd also seen a feature on Simmons in the New York Times newspaper about the great work she does with girls. The book is as powerful the second time! I recommend to anyone with a young daughter. Great tips and food for thought.

Very Elightening

This book help put into perspective some of the things my daughter has gone through in middle school. It was very honest and I appreciated the suggestions made. It also help me relax and not push my daughter into friendships that were toxic. As she goes into high school I'm sure I'll be rereading this.

High School Review

"Odd Girl Out" by Rachel Simmons deserves a five star rating. This book is so accurate on the hidden aggression in girls. Rachel Simmons is right on when she talks about why girls are so sneaky and why they treat each other so badly. She also talks about the different ways girls take each other down, the most common way is going right for the self esteem and then secluding them so they feel all alone. "Odd Girl Out" teaches parents of girls to look for the signs and don't just blow them off because it can be a big problem. This book is full of stories and interviews of girls who have been the bully or have been bullied and how they dealt with situations. I would recommend this book to every girl and every parent raising a girl.

Interesting and difficult to put down

Rachel Simmons' Odd Girl Out was an eye-opening read to say the least. Speaking as an 18 year old girl, I understood a lot of the things that were mentioned in the book. The mean giggling and loathing glances, the pretending to be friends and then gossiping behind the back, the cold-shoulder, all are things I'm sure we can relate to, whether we were victim or bully. This book was incredibly informative and revealed a lot about the true nature of girls and how, contrary to popular belief, they are capable of cruelty just like boys. The vivid way that Simmons' described her experiences with the girls was enjoyable to read, and I found myself truly understanding and connecting with a lot of their stories. Whether you're a teenage girl going through the same things, or a parent trying to figure out 'what's going on' Odd Girl Out will open your eyes and give an in-depth look at girl bullying in ways you've never imagined. Read the book; it's an experience you won't soon forget.

odd girl out

this book is amazing! it really tells you whats going on in some teenagers. I also recommend THE MOVIE its called the odd girl out! enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!

A reviewer

An excellent guide for teenage girls who desire to acquire an understanding of girl aggression often displayed throughout middle school. This book definitely furthered my understanding of why girls bully each other the way they do (passing notes, whispering, dirty looks..). I recommend this book to anyone who wishes to understand the silent bullying that many girls participate in. Rachel Simmons combines her experiences with many other middle school aged girls to help understand this concept.

Odd Girl Out

¿As girls grow up, friendship becomes as important as air¿ (Simmons 19). As girls grow, nothing is more important than their friends, yet they don¿t treat each other as valuable but rather as easily replaceable. Young girls are vicious bullies to each other, however this cannot be seen to the naked eye. Rachel Simmons was the target of bullying throughout her childhood. She wanted to find answers to why she was bullied, so Simmons ventured out to different middle schools all over the country to talk one on one with girls about their personal bullying situations. She writes of several stories these girls had shared with her. These stories are of the hidden attitude and behavior of girls such as the silent treatment, passing notes, mean looks, etc. By talking with the girls on a friendship level, Simmons is able to uncover some horrible experiences girls have been faced with.

Really explains girl bullying.

This was a very good book that could really help girls understand things that may go on at school. I never even thought of some of the things that happen to some girls as bullying, but this book really explains what's going on and sort of why they do it. Odd Girl Out explains a lot of real life situations that happen every day. I would recommend this book to all teenage girls and any parents to help understand their daughters and what is going on in their lives a little better.

I've never related more to a book!

'Catherine Hardwicke¿s new film, ¿Thirteen,¿ has once again raised the issue of adolescent girls¿ social rituals, especially the more brutal aspects. The same topic propels two recent books, Rachel Simmons¿s Odd Girl Out and Queen Bees and Wannabes, by Rosalind Wiseman.'- This is a statement from The New Yorker, in which I do not agree. I have not read Queen Bees and Wannabes, but I have watched the movie Thirteen. I do not believe that it relates a lot to Odd Girl Out. Yes, it does focus on the lives of teenage girls, and it is a coming of age story, but I feel that Thirteen is more of a story about pressures of life that teenage girls face, such as drinking and drugs. Rachel Simmons focuses on aggression, not as much on temptations of alcohol. I do believe that Odd Girl Out can speak to ANY girl. They may not think it is the best book they have ever read, but they will definitely relate. As I read this book, I learned not only about the female mind, but also more about myself. As I was reading it, I found myself nodding my head in realization. If it wasn't me that had acted like the girls in these stories, it was a girl I know, or am friends with. Girls have acted this way for years, but no one has really taken the time to go deeper into the heart of the problem. I think that if someone reads this, they will change the way they act. Even if it is a slight change, I know that we will put more thought into the way we are thinking, feeling, and acting towards others. This was very insightful!

It shows how girls really are!

I liked the book alot, it shows how girls really treat each other. I guess It should go back to the saying..If you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all!! I wanted to get revenge on the cruel girls in this book but I know what people put into the world, is what they're going to get out of it. Keep making great books like this one, we all enjoy real life type of stories. I cant wait till I read Odd Girl Speaks Out!!

I loved it

I loved the book when I read it.All the stuff in the book is true.Today girls are much meaner and agressive towards other girls.I know from experience since I too am a teenager.

Can't Get Enough

I would give this book 5 stars because it is about real issues that girls go through in middle and high school. This book just is saying that GIRLS WILL BE GIRLS.

Great book.

I bought and read this book just because it sounded interesting and was surprised to determine how many of these devices I myself used in agression. It definately made me more aware of who I want to be and will be great tools to help foster healthly daughters (assuming I have any!).

I finally understand MYSELF!!

I read this book for a psychology project and fell in love. It opened my eyes to a world I was involved in, but didn't know existed. I now understand why girls act the way they do, and I now understand that I was not the only one who has had to suffer during my early adolecent years. I reccommend this book to teachers, parents, teenage girls, basically anyone who wants to understand the workings of the female mind.

Finally Defined

I passed this book to every parent and educator/administrator I knew. Especially valuable for men who may not understand this female culture and its consequences.