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Posted January 2, 2006
a fair, honest, in-depth look at a controversial subject
ON OUR OWN examines two groups of unmarried mothers, who are increasing in numbers every year. The author brings together solid research and some insightful interviews with Murphy-Brown older, educated women, as well as with young, uneducated women, who are choosing or have chosen to have babies out of wedlock. It's difficult to put one's emotions aside reading this material, but if you can, you'll find that the 'obvious' solutions to the problem of unwed motherhood aren't so obvious after all. Most disturbing is the portrait of the teenage mothers, who feel that having a baby will be the one thing they can do right and get respect for accomplishing--and a number of them who choose to assert power over their bodies in this way are victims of sexual abuse. Clearly, until we start paying some attention to these underprivileged girls' needs before they get pregnant, no amount of 'just say no' rhetoric is going to affect them. The stories of the older women having children are just as provocative, and underlying these women's decision to adopt, go to a sperm bank, or have a male friend inseminate them with no obligations, is an unavailability of eligible partners. Are these women really unmarriageable, or does their common plight point out something about American men's attitudes toward marriage and childrearing? It's unfortunate that the book is such a daunting length, but even if you find yourself skimming a bit, it's worth reading to explore this very important subject.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 30, 2002
Perfect for younger Moms and older Moms
This book is very well written and interesting. It covers a lot of ground that seems to be overlooked in our society. I think it would be extremely beneficial to young, single mothers (approx. 15 - 24) and also to older, single mothers (approx. 35+). However, if you fall between these ages, you may want to find a different book. We are almost completely left out...Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.