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Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 28, 2000

    The Other Side of the Coin

    My parents swore by the book and used its techniques with me when I was a child. I can't describe how nice it felt to be listened to, treated like an intelligent being, given the freedom to regulate my own behavior, to chose right from wrong and have credit for the outcome of my decisions (or deal with its consequences). It taught me self-control. And it taught me that I control my behavior based on consideration for others, not because I fear punishment. Now, as an independent adult, that's the self-regulation that keeps me from commiting crimes or cheating others. I don't keep from doing bad things to others because I fear punishment (jail, being fired, etc.), I do it out of consideration for their feelings. I guess if I had to distill PET's message down to its core, it would be: Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. Now that I'm an adult -- even though I don't have kids -- I've read the book several times and use the 'Gordon Model' with all my relationships. So does my girlfriend. Our relationship is the envy of all our friends. I like this book so much I just replaced my yellowed, dog-eared copy with the new 30th-anniversary edition.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 14, 2000

    Really helped our family

    I found the methods in this book easy to understand, a bit hard to (consistently) put in practice, but definitely well worth the effort. When Dr. Gordon came up with the concepts of win-win and I-messages all those years ago, he really helped families have better relationships. I am glad that my generation now has an updated version of the book to help continue his great work with our own kids! And I really think my kids would agree!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 31, 2011

    Highly recommended

    This book teaches in a simple but deep manner the best way to raise happy and respectful children,through listening to them and getting involved with their lifes, on the basis of reciprocal respect as the way of real love.
    I have used the method that comes from life and that is wonderfully mastered by doctor Gordon with my children, my students and all my relationships. I am very grateful for the wisdom that gives us and I am convinced that the world will really be a home for us all if we relate one another in peace and love as it proclaimed.

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