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Posted June 2, 2008
Yet another book by a 'christian' child beater
How many more books do we need to endure from 'christian' child-beaters? Enough damage has been done by James Dobson, Roy Lessin, Doug and Debbie Pearl, Charles Swindoll, Ted Tripp, and others who insist that hitting your children communicates a parent's love to a child, and is mandated and endorsed by God.This is absurd both psychologically and spiritually. Such authors thrive on misinterpreting the 'rod' verses in scripture to support beating children, even though the rod of which the bible speaks was used by sheperds to fend off wolves that would attack the sheep, or the hook on the end would be used to pull the sheep out of a ditch....the rod was not used by sheperds to beat their sheep. In fact, sheep are such timid animals that if a sheperd did beat his sheep with a rod, they would become so frightened that they would run away from the sheperd and would not follow him. Scripture paints a parent's relationship with a child as a sheperd tending to the sheep, and the bible also portrays our relationship to God in the same manner. Truely godly parents do not beat their children with rods, paddles, or their hands in order to teach and protect them. A godly parent understands the 'rod' to be symbolic of authority therefore, good parents use their authority and their love to protect their children from harm and to teach them. Such child-beating suport also goes against tons of research showing a correlation between hitting children and long term harm. Read some of these other books for a better guide on how to really act like a christian parent to your children.
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Posted June 16, 2008
today, we know about the dangers of using violence against children
The author claims that 'Biblical child rearing...worked well for thousands of years.' But it is not true. It did not work well at all because it created violent humans and parents. This belief in and the practice of violence against children continues to create to this very day not only violent humans and parents, but also the wars and violence that turn our planet into such a dangerous, brutal nightmare. At the child trauma academy, we can learn about the devastating and horrible consequences of violence against children. As the developing brain forms 90% of the connections between the neurons during the first 4 years of life according to the EXPERIENCES that a child makes, violence is a learned behavior, like the language that we speak. Also this author learned to treat children with violence in his childhood, but he does not care to take an honest look at this brutal and inhumane practice and does not at all take seriously what impact the fight and flight response and the terrible fear, which ALL physical attacks cause for the bodies of children and adults, have on this developing brain and for the health, the well being and self-love of a child, and later the adult. It is a crime to advise and practice violence against ANY human being, but particularly against the most vulnerable and defenseless humans -- children. The consequences for society can be studied by reading the work of Alice Miller.
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Posted June 2, 2008
Old Testament Teachings Do Not Trump Science.
As a psychologist, it's been many years now since I've encountered a pro-spanking mental health care professional who was not an old testament, fundamentalist christian. Apparently, these so-called 'christian psychologists' ignore science for the sake of their religious orientation. One can only surmise that they study human behavior on the basis of King Solomons teachings.
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Posted June 10, 2008
Zero Stars for Zero Maturity.
Any parent who has to result to physical or emotional threats, force, or coersion has admitted their failure as a parent. A failure to be respected, loved, and trusted by a child-through thick and thin-reflects your own failure to be a good role model. Any adult who is so intimidated by young people that they have to resort to insults and physical/emotional degradation in my eyes does not deserve to be called a parent, or even an adult. I'd much rather reason with a toddler who cannot understand than with an adult who refuses to. Some adults just haven't reached that stage in life yet. I would think you would be a better parent if you are older than the emotional age of your child.
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