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Most Helpful Favorable Review

11 out of 12 people found this review helpful.

LOVED the book..

Now..I can understand why some of the reviews were poor. Dr. Laura definately does not have any good things to say about the feminist movement. At times it does sound as if she thinks women should only be housewives and take care of their husbands. But! If you can look ...
Now..I can understand why some of the reviews were poor. Dr. Laura definately does not have any good things to say about the feminist movement. At times it does sound as if she thinks women should only be housewives and take care of their husbands. But! If you can look past that, there are great things about this book and things ANY wife can learn whether she chooses to stay home or have a career. It's all about respect, being equals, and taking care of your self and your family. I think everyone should read this book no matter your opinion on the role of a wife. Also, a quick note about some of the reviews I had read. She does also have books just for men, she isn't only 'attacking' women and leaving the men clear of any faults. Remember, this book was titled The Proper Care and Feeding of HUSBANDS, so don't expect to have any advice for the guys in this one. Now, the ONLY thing I didn't like about this book was that in one of the chapters she makes it sound like women are ALWAYS at fault when a man cheats. I absolutely do not believe that to be true. Overall though, i would suggest this book to my friends and family....and have.

posted by Anonymous on July 28, 2008

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16 out of 23 people found this review helpful.

Give me a break

What a load of crap. I'm from the South - we feed our husbands. It's expected and most us enjoy it. In our modern world, I also don't know a single woman that doesn't like sex. Do I cook every single meal my husband eats and do it freshly showered and primped every ...
What a load of crap. I'm from the South - we feed our husbands. It's expected and most us enjoy it. In our modern world, I also don't know a single woman that doesn't like sex. Do I cook every single meal my husband eats and do it freshly showered and primped every day? Of course not. Nor do I cook every single day.

Let me share a couple of true stories with you. I have known 2 older women that pretty much lived what this book describes - and then became ill. One husband moved out of the house when his wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. He couldn't deal with his wife being ill. His minister ok'ed this because it's "so hard to see the family nurturer in that condition", instead of telling him to get his sorry butt back home and do for his wife what she had always done for him. Another shipped his dying wife off to their daughter and asked another woman from church to marry him a month after his wife died.

Two for two.. I see a pattern emerging ladies and gentlemen. Do i think these just happened to be bad men? No, I don't. I think they were put first for so long, and that their wives sacrificed showing themselves as human, that these men couldn't fathom that their wives now needed them. They lacked the life skills to deal with such an unpleasant situation. You know, the same skills we try to teach our children as they mature? Do i think all men would do this? Of course not, but this is a problem.

No man wants to be married to a controlling and hateful woman, any more than a woman wants a man like that. I don't belittle or bash my husband and I try to make him happy, but I'm human and not perfect. Sometimes I'm grouchy, lazy, or unattractive. And guess what sometimes so is he. I love and accept him in those times too - that's life and marriage, and it's no worse for me to have those days than for him to.

Then she talks like women should thank their lucky stars that a man would even look at her if she's in her 30's or has kids. Give me a break. I was in my 30's with two sons when I met my husband (1st died). He was not the only man interested in me, but we loved each other and I think we BOTH chose well. I don't get down on my knees and thank him for marrying me. I guess I'm just not as thankful as the wife in the book that realized she was wothless without her husband (gag).

I want to make my husband happy, but I am not a wife-in-the-box. If I've been working in the garden, cleaning house, and doing laundry all day then I'm not going to look like a prom queen while making dinner when he gets home... and he *should* get to see that I also work hard for the life we enjoy and that this is a partnership... and you know what? He does.

What do I agree with in this book? 1st, husband's need a little alone time when they get home. Give him that time to decompress without asking about his day or telling him about yours or a problem. He will come to you in 30-45 minutes and be ready to talk. 2nd, don't ask your husband to do something and then complain about it. Jeez... this makes me want to smack women in the head. Your way isn't the only way and your husband isn't there to play a supporting role in *your* life... he'd probably like to live one too. If your way is the only right way then do it yourself.

Happily married for 12 years to a man that would be bored in 5 minutes with the woman descibed in this book.

posted by Anonymous on June 22, 2012

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  • Posted June 6, 2009

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    The Wife is to Blame

    Dr Laura blames the wife for the unhappiness of the marriage in this book. She says that women have the power tochange the marriage and be happy by making the husband happy. I agree that the wife has a responsibility for this but there was to much painting of the wife as the abuser and the husband as the innocent victim. Her theory that men will naturally do what is needed if we weren't so mean wasn't helpful to me. I am trying to think of her suggestions in a possitive manner in my life, but felt that if someone buys the book they must want to treat their husbands well and with respect and are probably already trying to make their marriage better. I felt that it was just too much bashing on women and just a little bit of what you should do presented in a womeon are stupid and abusive and just want too much, not to mention lazy unappreciative, and unloving toward their easy going, undamanding, helping out how ever they can husbands. Book left me feeling very negative and uninspired.

    3 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 25, 2009

    The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

    This book was rather shallow and unhelpful. Dr. Laura deals with some good issues however all she follows with are examples from her talk show. There is very little this is what to do or not to do - no instruction or helpful hints. Instead I would recommend any of the books by John Gray (Mars and Venus).

    2 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 16, 2004

    Life is grand if you are a man....

    Ladies, if you would like to wait on a Man hand and foot and never get one word of appreciation for what you have done...let me introduce you to my Dad. In fact, he's sitting at the table right now demanding that one of his sons to hand him a spoon that he can get up and get himself but won't. Dad can't wait to find another wife to clean and do for him. Don't hesistate, a prize like him won't be on the market long.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 15, 2004

    Being selfish???

    I can't believe the criticism of the reviewers who are only expressing their opinions. One reviewer gave a well balance review and mentioned a valid point. This book is fine for some, not all, situations. If the husband is essentially a decent human being, and the woman not co-dependent and has healthy self-esteem, there's some common sense here. Unfortunately, many of us do not fall into these categories completely. Communication is key, as well as awareness and compromise.

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