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Setting Limits With Your Strong-Willed Child: Eliminating Conflict By Establishing Clear, Firm, And Respectful Boundaries

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14 out of 14 people found this review helpful.

A Clear, Sensible Philosophy for Setting Limits that WORKS!

As a kindergarten teacher as well as a parent of strong-willed 5-year-old twin boys, I too often found myself yelling louder, reminding more often and searching for stricter punishments to get the children to cooperate...Nothing was working! I needed a new approach......
As a kindergarten teacher as well as a parent of strong-willed 5-year-old twin boys, I too often found myself yelling louder, reminding more often and searching for stricter punishments to get the children to cooperate...Nothing was working! I needed a new approach...and Dr. MacKenzie has given me the understanding and the tools to set limits effectively without losing my sanity. I learned how I was part of 'the dance' of non-compliance and I realized that I would have to change my behavior first before I got a positive change in the behavior from the children. I learned the difference between 'soft limits' and 'firm limits' and the importance of my actions supporting my words; then, the kids began respecting the rules because they knew I would follow through with consequences. It was an eye-opener to realize that by me constantly reminding...I was actually teaching the children to ignore (at least the first few times because they knew more reminding was coming)...by giving unclear open-ended directions...I was actually setting the situation up for clarification, testing and conflict...and by bargaining and making deals out of desperation...I was actually giving the kids the opportunity to control the situation as they decided to up the ante the next time! The best part of this book is the real life examples of exactly what to say and not say to the kids. It is as if the author has been looking in my windows as my twins defy me in so many of the exact same situations. I was immediately comforted by the fact that I am not alone in trying to get compliance instead of defiance from my boys. I also would like to recommend another very helpful A-Z compendium entitled 'The Pocket Parent', a convenient pocket-guide with a very similar philosophy that is exclusively written for parents of normal but often challenging 2- to 5-year-olds. If you have toddlers and preschoolers, it is a great practical companion book to 'Setting Limits' because you can simply turn to the specific challenging behavior of the moment (like hitting, morning crazies, interrupting, bad words, lying, whining, etc.) and get some quick bulleted suggestions to try. You do not have to read 'Pocket Parent' cover to cover...but rather consult each chapter topic as you need it. Both books have great anecdotes and a welcome sense of humor throughout. 'Setting Limits' and 'The Pocket Parent' have helped me get more cooperation at home and at school and are both worthwhile additions to a home or school reference library!

posted by Anonymous on August 29, 2004

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2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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Theres a lot of the same story rewritten with different names and slightly different scenerios. For a book telling a parent to be direct it was a very indirect book. I wanted an explanation of how to handle a strong willed child and I got that....with a lot of extra fil...
Theres a lot of the same story rewritten with different names and slightly different scenerios. For a book telling a parent to be direct it was a very indirect book. I wanted an explanation of how to handle a strong willed child and I got that....with a lot of extra filler. The entire book could be sumed up in a few sentences, maybe even one. Tell your child what you expect when you expect it and follow through on consquences. This may take years to accomplish since your child is collecting behavorial data but will eventually learn what is expected of him....in the mean time, good luck.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 12, 2011

    Not that great.

    Theres a lot of the same story rewritten with different names and slightly different scenerios. For a book telling a parent to be direct it was a very indirect book. I wanted an explanation of how to handle a strong willed child and I got that....with a lot of extra filler. The entire book could be sumed up in a few sentences, maybe even one. Tell your child what you expect when you expect it and follow through on consquences. This may take years to accomplish since your child is collecting behavorial data but will eventually learn what is expected of him....in the mean time, good luck.

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