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Posted May 22, 2002
Painful story; beautifully written
A book about the growth of a relationship between a mother and son through some wrenchingly difficult times, this story is told with honesty and tenderness. Steve is ADD-ADHD and Mom Deborah is a poet who follows her own child-rearing muse which is highly idiosyncratic and may cause 'regular' parents to shudder. No, I would not leave the kitchen windows open and catfood on the countertops to encourage wildlife to feel free in my house. Nor would I allow sick dogs to use my bed for their epileptic seizures. Steve's Mom rides out the bad times and ends up with a great, talented son: this doesn't happen to everybody though, and the book doesn't recommend itself as a manual for adolescent-rearing. Yet it is a story with truth at its heart and hope for an ongoing mother-son relationship. If, for the sake of a unique story, well told, you can stand to read about an approach to parenting that is 180 degrees from ToughLove, this is your book.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted November 29, 2001
Love Conquers (Almost) All
What do you do if you learn that your adolescent son has fallen in with, or is a formative member of, a bad crowd ? And if you're a single mother, how do you try to prevent him from his own destruction ? Poet and memoirist Deborah Digges evolves strategies that involve dogs, cats, kittens, knives, and love in a way that is certainly not a template for other moms. But it IS a marvelously-wrought account of a mother's love for her son, and his 'turn-around'. This was a superb and inspiring read.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted December 7, 2001
A Life Saver
Maybe you have to be the mother of a teen to get all the humor and terror in THE STARDUST LOUNGE. I loved this book! Digges devles deep into the shame that is put upon parents of troubled and dangerous teens. And she not only survives, her son thrives. This book has really helped me to be more objective and compassionate regarding my own boy. THE STARDUST LOUNGE is not for everyone. This is its strength and its gift.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted August 10, 2001
What were you thinking?
When I bought the Stardust Lounge, I expected a book about an adolescent boy who struggled with life and following the rules imposed on him. I expected to watch as Deborah Digges struggled through a difficult period in her son's life, only to see him reach the light at the end of the tunnel and realize the error of his ways. I was looking forward to the insight that Ms. Digges would then be able to share with us. Instead, I found a book about a mother who repeatedly enabled her child's behavior. I do respect her for wanting her child to spread his wings and not conform to society, but she carried that way too far. As an educator, I was appalled to see what she allowed her child to get away with. I cringed when she allowed her own marriage to break up instead of disciplining her son. I was amazed at her selfishness when she was put guilt trips on her older son to live with her instead of her first husband, even though she wasn't making it financially, and he was providing a good, loving, and stable life for her son. I found Ms. Digges blinded by her love for her children. That love is admirable, but very misdirected. If you are looking for answers on how to raise a troubled child, I suggest you look elsewhere. If you are looking for a book where parenting has taken a backseat to friendship, this book is for you.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.