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The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now

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Most Helpful Favorable Review

4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

Dear Dr. Meg Jay, I keep writing rough drafts to try to convey

Dear Dr. Meg Jay,

I keep writing rough drafts to try to convey how important this book is to me at this moment in time in my life. I cannot express my thankfulness that someone gets it. I am 24 and always had the sense I was throwing my life away but everyone tells me...
Dear Dr. Meg Jay,

I keep writing rough drafts to try to convey how important this book is to me at this moment in time in my life. I cannot express my thankfulness that someone gets it. I am 24 and always had the sense I was throwing my life away but everyone tells me "Don't worry it will all work out. You are only 24." Thank you for the cold water to the face. Oddly enough, being told that my decisions contradict a successful life, gives me a sense of happiness.

I like most people assume once you graduate the best of your years are ahead, however, that is only true if you map it out. I was clueless and constantly borrowing my dads ego to solve my problems now its time to put my frontal lobe to work and figure out a game plan. Every single page directly applied to me and I now know I can make better decisions from here on out due to this very important piece of literature.

I need to make my own happy ending and work my way backwards. Again, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. I literally want to buy this book for all of my twentysomething friends. Do they not know they are just throwing away their lives and there is nothing fun or great about tearing tickets, pouring someone a glass of water, folding clothes, not taking relationships seriously, and so forth?

I never had a therapist but this book is all the therapy I need. I literally felt like you were talking to me directly, which in itself, was an awesome experience. Thank you so much for this book. Thank you.

Sincerely,
Ryan

posted by Ryan245235 on July 24, 2012

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Most Helpful Critical Review

1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

For my 20th birthday I was given this book from one of my family

For my 20th birthday I was given this book from one of my family members, and at first I thought it was going to be informational and inspiring. Then I saw her talk about her book on yahoo news which intrigued me even more. But beyond the cover is a series of therapy se...
For my 20th birthday I was given this book from one of my family members, and at first I thought it was going to be informational and inspiring. Then I saw her talk about her book on yahoo news which intrigued me even more. But beyond the cover is a series of therapy sessions (like you're sitting in on one with her and the client). I know that this is Jay's profession, but I wish she took the same morals and goals then directed towards her audience (buyers). I gave her 3 stars because she has valuable information, but in my opinion I don't like the feel of listening to other peoples sessions.

I think if you can get past that one bit, this would be a very enjoyable book. I really wanted to like it, but I just couldn't.

posted by Lorelei_Prideaux on June 19, 2012

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 20, 2012

    I think this book is very helpful for the soon-to-be twenty, or

    I think this book is very helpful for the soon-to-be twenty, or in all ready. It talks about a variety of things one can relate to nowadays and at times makes you think about if you're doing things right. Talks about happiness and if you are doing it for yourself or others, Jobs and how its viewed by most or some twentysomethings and a settlement rather than a chance to peruse a successful life, not the least, love. I'm 19 and even though my brother said it was silly for me to read this, I still did, and I liked it a lot. I've recommended it to my friends, and I recommend it to you.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 11, 2013

    Interesting, Fast Read

    I can't decide if this book inspires me or terrifies me, but I am glad I read it

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted January 24, 2014

    Great book.

    I bought this book for my eighteen year old son and he is really enjoying it. I read the first couple of chapters and it made good sense. If you would like to help your adult children, who might be lacking in what direction to focus on (such as college major). This is a great book to make them realize now is the time to figure it out. Don't waste your twenties, they are gone before you know it.

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  • Posted July 16, 2013

    Great book! I am halfway done with it. I thought this books woul

    Great book! I am halfway done with it. I thought this books would do me no good due to it being mainly about the 20's and I am so close to falling into the 30's. It is however, a very good and inspiring book. I thought that before reading this book that I had done my life backwards. Meaning no partying and jumping straight into marriage, a home, and kids. But this book really made me feel a whole lot better about my decisions. It is a must read!

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  • Posted May 23, 2012

    Must Read for Teens and Twenty-somethings and their Parents and Advisors.

    All of the decades build on each other. Although life can have ups and downs, fits and starts, it is important to understand an overall direction and forward movement. This easy read challenges thoughts of taking years to goof off. Instead it offers a practical apprach to moving on with one's life. An excellent resource.

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  • Posted May 18, 2012

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    Very Insightful!

    Very interested in this sort of stuff...

    0 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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    Posted May 26, 2012

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