The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce and Keep the Man You Want

Don't Waste Your Hard Earned $..

I came across this book today while shopping for a birthday gift for a friend. I noticed the book perched up in a modest display overshadowed by more popular, well known authors. I had no idea K. Steffans had even written another book. I read it about 2 hours and was disappointed to say the least. This book doesn't tell or teach you anything you haven't heard before in life unless you've been living under a rock! Yup, there's no profound or newly revealed information nor does she tell you how to suck a mean one. A quick run down? Take care of yourself in and out. Keep a clean house. Take care of your man. Pay attention to detail. Don't lose yourself in relationships. Sex is a beautiful thing when you're in control of yourself and your life. Duh, right??? Yup, nothing new I haven't been doing for years. It's her version of Steve Harvey's book "Act Like A Lady...". It's a redundant "guide" basically telling you most things that are considered common sense if you've made it that far in life (over the age of 21). Or if you've had a pretty decent upbringing then this book is just a compilation of all the things Mama, Grandma, and Auntie told you about. There's even illustrations of simple sexual positions (missionary, 69, etc.) as if you'd never seen them before. Did Karrine really think she was dropping knowledge?! She tries to come across as having "been there, done that and now I'm teaching you" but doesn't quite pull it off. She does say she's no saint and who is she to be teaching about healthy relationships and blah blah blah but it's almost like she's just adds that just because she knows people will say that. In short, the book was a total snooze and just another attempt at K. Steffans trying to cash in on what she thinks is a successful manipulation of the masses. Well not me, a leopard doesn't change its' spots! I think it's great that she accomplished her goal of writing a book however she missed the mark. Ladies, save your dough and spend it on the manis and pedis Karrine tells you to treat yourself to from time to time...or didn't you already know that? Thank God for return policies.

11 out of 12 people found this review helpful.

A Woman Without Discretion,

I was disappointed as well as offended with this read. The title is misleading. "The Vixen Manual" is more about sexual choices and exploits than a guide or manual. It does not include the impact of learning as in changing directions, benefiting from experiences or sincere investment in emotional maturity. Therefore, instead of being instructive, it becomes a journal of experiences where the choices of the author are left to be evaluated by the reader. The same would be expected if this was autobiographical of a madame.

"The Vixen Manual" is degrading to women (honorable) and reduces their role to exploitation by men as if they have no intrinsic value but are ascribed value according to their sexual acumen. Men have been degrading women for years; it's truly sad when a woman does it to other women.

Reviewed by: Gail

5 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

Relationship & sex advice for women - with a twist!

Synopsis:

The Vixen Manual combines self help, how to advice, sex tips, and humor. The book is divided into fifty short chapters and five main parts: (1) Being Single, (2) How to Attract Him, (3) How to Engage Him, (4) How to Release Him, and (5) Maybe It's You. Don't read Karrine's manual for revolutionary concepts, instead compare her advice to what you've heard and learned over the years.

Review:

Some statements from The Vixen Manual reminded me of advice I'd received from my grandmother with a twist. Being Single covers the basic attitude and approach towards dating, love, and men. Karrine describes the concept of the "dance card" of the 18th century and discourages women from being too quick to commit to one man which is an inefficient use of scarce time. Karrine's advice is similar to the "collect and select" suggestion that I'd heard from my grandmother. But Karrine adds her own twist to this: collect men, rank them using a written list, and let them know how they compare. But be careful not to throw casual sex into the mix because women are wired to feel an emotional connection to our sexual partners.

Similarly, in Chapter 10, Preparation Meets Opportunity, Karrine recommends that any single woman looking for love should prepare for her man now - get fit, keep your place neat, and act as though you're in love and you'll attract the man that you want. She does point out that getting ready extends beyond your looks to cover educational, financial and emotional preparation. Though this advice isn't new, it is useful and surely can't hurt. It's easy enough to procrastinate on your fitness regimen or other aspects of our lives and we all can do with the gentle reminder to take good care of all aspects of yourself.

The advice is interspersed with humor. For instance, "Dating Younger Men" has tips like "Check ID when dating someone significantly younger and be sure you're not breaking any laws" and "Never hang out with him and his friends. You are a cougar; see him only in your den." Similarly, the chapter "How to Handle Rejection" listed the things you should not do and watch out for, such as, "you don't want to wind up having your voice mail played over and over to a room full of his buddies as they knock back beers and laugh at what a loon you are...think of every message you leave as a potential sound bite that can work against you."

I should mention that the chapter on Sex has quite explicit instructions and diagrams of various recommended techniques.

While some advice predated the women's lib movement, Karrine Steffans is likely to be laughing all the way to the bank.

Publisher: Grand Central Publishing (July 13, 2009), 272 pages.
Courtesy of Hatchette Books Group.

5 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

The Vixen Manual.

I got a lot out of this book. It's got some good tips about how to meet the men you want to meet--and leave the jerks alone--and what to do once you meet them. It's taught me how to come out of my shell and go for it. I really liked this one.

3 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

IT'S NOT WHAT YOU THINK!!!

I have read the VM, and I must tell you guys that it is not what many of you may be pondering, however; there is alot of useful information that can aid any woman (young/old). Mrs. SM has definitely displayed her grown ass woman (had to say it) in this piece. Mrs. SM is basically reminding us about the things that "some" of our mothers told us in our earlier years, you know, when we thought we knew it all?, yeah I know, me to... Mrs. SM has put the truth right in our hands; so if you ladies still can not get it together after this, then your problem may require more than a best selling authors memoirs(hint)...
opposing viewpoints welcomed

3 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

Good Read

She makes a lot of valid points concern relationships, I believe it's a good read for couples.

1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

Great book

I would like to say that I've listened to K.S on the radio so i couldn't wait to read this book. It was a great book very informative for those seeking questions that many women don't ask each other. K.S explains alot of things and the explanations come from experience. I loved all 3 books and i wanted more after each one.

1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

Get this book.

A great read about how seduciton. Also, the author really seems to know about men, about how they act and what to expect. I would suggest anyone wanting to know more about men get this book.

1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

Who better to give advice then someone who has personally done all the wrong things?

This has to be one of the best relationship manuals ever written! All though with its racey cover and title i would NOT put it on my coffee table i know that when i have a daughter and she grows up i will try and instill most of this advice in her. Knowing Karrine Steffans reputation some of you reading this may think i'm crazy but this book is NOT what you think it is. Instead of being trashy and filled with skankish "blow by blow" instruction on every page (pun intended) it really focuses on the woman being complete and confident in herself first before seeking a mate. Something i think 99% of women do not do. If this review does not convince you to buy and read the book take this piece of advice from the book with you. NOBODY CAN AND SHOULD BE BURDENED WITH THE TASK OF COMPLETEING YOU! Before you can have a meaningful relationship you have to treat yourself well! Great book i'm insisting my sister and all my girlfriends read it. I think this book is simply AMAZING.

1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

Confused

Does superhead even have a man so confused!!!

Great Read

I thought this was a good read. Not that there's anything in this book that you probably don't already know but sometimes we all need to be reminded of life's very simple truths. I love how she speaks to the readers as if we're all old friends. I could definitely see her saying everything in the book like we were old girlfriends catching up over coffee. This book just reinspired me to get on with my purpose and when love comes I'll be ready...I recommend this book for any young woman just starting out who may not be able to speak to any other older women about men and life or for someone like me who's in their 30's but needed to be reminded of life's simple lessons...

MAKE THAT MONEY GIRL!... CONTINUE TO WRITE

I have every book that Karrine has written and im trying patiently to wait for the next one coming in Aug! I did not hesitate to buy this book and I wish I had brought it 6 months ago when I started back dating after a break up. Karrine reminds me alot of myself in a way well im a younger version of her, only guys I have dated or had casual sex with were not rich or famous. I have been wanting to get myself together and each time I try I turn back around and go back to the old me. Not this time! Reading this made me want to change even more so not only will I be happy but sucessful and married soon. This book speaks the truth, that we all may know but dont do or start slipping. I will not or have not judged Karrine by her past, in fact I think her past has taught her and made her wiser so I will take her advice. She has learned from her mistakes and reading this book will help you not go down the path she did when it comes to men. I know if she capable of change so im I and im going to go for whats mine! I say good job Karrine, forget the haters who have negative things to say! Dont stop writting and I wont stop reading =) BTW you look gorgeous on the cover!!!

Do not recommend

Got the book, read the book and was highly disappointed. Not a good read at all. Please do not waste your money on this.

OMG

OMG!!! you have to be a loser to take advice from a whore, that is used up and worn out...you might as well go down where the pimp & street walker work and ask them how to keep a man..SOME OF YALL ARE SO FUNNY!! BUT HOPE YOUR && HER RELASTIONSHIP WORK OUT...HOES KNOW BEST!!! LMAO

0 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

A good source for women

This book is a really good way to point out what women be doing wrong and giving us a chance to fix it and to keep the man we love or that we are falling in love with.

On The Contrary

I was VERY skeptical at first. "How To Find, Seduce and Keep The Man You Want" PSSH! From a woman with a notorious reputation for sleeping around with legendary music artists? But my curiosity got the better of me again and I decided to buy the darn thing. Was I EVER wrong about her. It doesn't tell women to depend soley on a man financially or how to become dependent on relationships to feel complete and sure of yourself. It's about getting your stuff together and becoming your own person, harnessing the power of your femininity despite diminsihed social standards of what woman should be doing to be "kept in her place" today. I even started clipping out the "Vixen Say Whats" to keep me motivated. Judgmental people that refuse to let this her redeem herself and claim a better life are disgusting, and their attitudes shine more negative light on themselves than on Karrine just because of it's sexy cover.

wow

I have read and own all three of Karrine's books. The Manuel is basically a how to guide to high self esteem and getting the man in your life to like you better or even like you. It had some informative points to the book but nothing I hadn't already learned before. The Manuel was not a favorite of mine.

It was an okay reading.

I was looking for much more from Superhead the information that was givin you could find in any sex book i.e Karma Sutura. I think that she should have written this book with a little more salsa!!! This book for me was plain!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Very Good Book...

This book is definitely for the lost and naive young women. This book will open up your eyes and give you the courage to become a decent, well mannered young lady who will know what to look for when she wants to find the man of her dreams.

WOW...

I loved this book and am reading it again, immediately! Karrine has used all her past experiences and turned them into life lessons it seems like. Good old-fashioned advice that most young people don't hear these days. Things my grandmother told me but I forgot. And this book is FUNNY! oh my goodness, I laughed so much all the way through. This book isn't for kids though. Grown ups who want or have committed relationships or who are already married because it gets raw by time you get to the sex chapter. The packaging was nice too! It's the prettiest book I own. Sharing it with my daughter, who is 23, and she seems inspired. Hooray for miss Karrine. She seems to have grown into quite a woman and an amazing author. No wonder this is her THIRD best seller!