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Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

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9 out of 13 people found this review helpful.

Religion in psychological child abuse is missing

As with many other "toxic parent" books, no coverage is given to the issue of strong dogmatic parental religiosity and the "hand off" of the child to an abusive religious educational system (mainstream or cult). The issue of overly religious parents who use dogmatic rel...
As with many other "toxic parent" books, no coverage is given to the issue of strong dogmatic parental religiosity and the "hand off" of the child to an abusive religious educational system (mainstream or cult). The issue of overly religious parents who use dogmatic religious beliefs to give authority to their abuse seems to be a minefield authors avoid. Dr Forward too, hides from mention of this type of psychological abuse. After the adult child of toxic parents confronts those parents, how are they then supposed to confront the angry, over bearing, all powerful god figure who was in league with the parents and may be no more real than Santa Claus or the Boogie Man?

posted by Alterboy on May 15, 2010

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3 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

Toxic.... but why?

In this book Susan Forward focus almost singlemindedly on parents as tyrrants, without taking a deeper look into the family dynamics. Important topics such as the odepial conflict is not mentioned in the book. But the book can be useful in many ways. With this book y...
In this book Susan Forward focus almost singlemindedly on parents as tyrrants, without taking a deeper look into the family dynamics. Important topics such as the odepial conflict is not mentioned in the book. But the book can be useful in many ways. With this book you need to be careful not to fall too much prey of victim conscoiusness and rage. So, the solution the book offers: confronting your parents, and blaming them for all the bad things they did to you, can be dangerous if done too quickly (after reading the book) or without some understanding about family dynamics. This is a book to be used with wisdom.

posted by Anonymous on May 23, 2005

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 6, 2006

    An apologia for self absorption

    The book is good in that it can make a person aware of how their parent¿s behaviors help shape who they are for good or bad. However, the book is either disingenuous, or myopic in its treatment of familial dysfunction. For example, the author does not seem to consider that we live in a time of increased social and economic turmoil, brought about by the destabilization of employment sectors through global labor trade. Moreover, given the current state of social and economic disarray that many countries such as Iraq, France, US, Russia and China is it no wonder that the brave people who dare to be parents in such times may present with a myriad of behavioral problems at home? This is not say that there are not bad parents out there..i.e people that don't try to be good parents and care more about their careers, chasing the opposite sex, or accumulating material wealth than spending most of their time with their children. The book simply empowers people to embrace victimization, rather than understand the different ways we are all affected by larger socio-structural forces. A more equitable society = better people= more loving, nurturing environments at home. I think the book is simply a tantalizing apologia for self absorption and ¿scape goating.¿

    1 out of 14 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 28, 2012

    Inadequate

    I found Forward's "blame them all" approach to be counterproductive. A better book, I feel, is Herman's "Trauma and Recovery".

    0 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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    Posted June 14, 2011

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