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Posted October 14, 2001
Most helpful book I've found yet
I first read this book after checking it out from the library. I knew that I had to have my own copy to help me work on my history of emotional and physical abuse. I am still using it, and refer to it whenever I feel the need to or when I need to work on my recovery. It is easy to understand and helps you locate your problem areas and provides potential solutions to help you work on your treatment and recovery.
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Posted October 16, 2001
A GOOD FIRST STEP TO UNDERSTANDING
This book is a good first step to understanding how much parents' treatment of their children has effects on the children all the way into adulthood. If you're struggling with your relationship with a parent, a spouse, or others, this book sheds light on how a lot of 'baggage' you bring to relationships is carried with you since childhood. You'll probably read a lot in this book that doesn't apply to you, but there will be plenty of passages that you'll read and say 'hey, that's me (or my mom, dad, etc)'. The book helps put words to the 'stuff' rattling around in your head, and makes things look clearer. It's something that the parents should read, as well, because they probably have their own 'baggage' that they never dealt with.
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Posted January 6, 2006
An apologia for self absorption
The book is good in that it can make a person aware of how their parent¿s behaviors help shape who they are for good or bad. However, the book is either disingenuous, or myopic in its treatment of familial dysfunction. For example, the author does not seem to consider that we live in a time of increased social and economic turmoil, brought about by the destabilization of employment sectors through global labor trade. Moreover, given the current state of social and economic disarray that many countries such as Iraq, France, US, Russia and China is it no wonder that the brave people who dare to be parents in such times may present with a myriad of behavioral problems at home? This is not say that there are not bad parents out there..i.e people that don't try to be good parents and care more about their careers, chasing the opposite sex, or accumulating material wealth than spending most of their time with their children. The book simply empowers people to embrace victimization, rather than understand the different ways we are all affected by larger socio-structural forces. A more equitable society = better people= more loving, nurturing environments at home. I think the book is simply a tantalizing apologia for self absorption and ¿scape goating.¿
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Posted February 2, 2001