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Posted March 1, 2010
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I came across your book by chance in the library, and found so much of it resonated with me that I needed to purchase it in order to flag, highlight and tab all the relevant pages. Your book is extremely illuminating.
Posted April 1, 2009
Valuable Relationships Guide
From the perspective of a social worker/psychologist/family therapist and teacher for over three decades, Try to See It My Way is an excellent book for clinicians, couples and graduate students. Dr. Hibbs explicates the notion of fairness from a contextual family perspective that invites both an intellectual and gut understanding that one can resolve fairness issues so that there is a win-win. Dr. Hibbs has significantly added to the couple therapy literature by addressing how exploring one's family baggage is a first step to getting unstuck. Many family therapy books describe how we show our unresolved and poorly understood family-of-origin dynamics in our blind spots and false assumptions. She takes it further to show how these internalized beliefs play out in our rigid couple conflicts that distress us and yet seem irresolvable. She encourages the reader to challenge one's conceptions of love and fairness. Dr. Hibbs introduces tools and exercises to resolve conflicts in practical ways. Her use of client examples is incisive and extremely helpful.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
The language is precise, the style is accessible and for any couple where each feels he/she is right and the other is clearly wrong, this book can offer relief and a deeper understanding of what fairness is really about.
Lyne Harmon, MSW, Psy. D.
Posted March 29, 2009
great new book for couples who struggle with arguing too much
Try to See it My Way is a really great new book aimed at helping couples understand that their notions of fairness are distorted by their own family baggage, and because of this, couples are bound to fight. Each person tends to think they are "right" and the other is "wrong" making it very difficult for couples to work through their conflicts and understand the validity of the other's view. Equal parts thought-provoking and user-friendly, Dr. Hibbs keeps the reader's interest with good examples from her work with couples, speckled with moments of wry humor. Seamlessly, she weaves in an elegant explanation of contextual family theory, providing the framework for her ideas. One strength of this book is that it is comprehensive and intellectually interesting, yet it is written in breezy prose that is easily understood. As a therapist, I found it helpful for use with clients; I think it will also be useful to couples who are not yet in therapy (perhaps hoping to avoid it) but want to understand how to stop the fighting and get along better. I think this book offers a really unique and needed contribution to the couples therapy literature.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted March 28, 2009
Refreshing look at couples relationships
Definitely five stars! As a psychologist and therapist for many years myself, I heartily recommend Try to See It My Way to couples, and also to clinicians. This is a wise practical guide from a skilled teacher and clinician. The language is accessible, the examples illuminating and the exercises useful.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Most importantly, here is a roadmap that teaches couples how to tap a core resource between them: negotiating fairness. Until now, that terrain has been underexplored in the 'couple' literature.
Bottomline: This is a truly valuable book for couples who really want things to be better, and a much needed contribution to the field of couple therapy.
Posted March 27, 2009
Well written, grounded in solid theory and practical for both therapists and clients alike. I can even see it as tremendously useful for my consulting clients. Business relationships are driven by and subject to the same self-serving biases, expectations and scripts as familial relationships.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted January 23, 2010
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Posted April 6, 2009
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