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What Your Son Isn't Telling You: Unlocking the Secret World of Teen Boys

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 1, 2011

    Religious, Christian propaganda

    While this book made some good points, I couldn't even finish reading it. This book is not for someone who is not religious. Almost every page had some reference to God, scripture passage, the Bible or prayer. Basically, God will guide you and your son if you are religious. I would have never picked this book up had I known this - there is no indication of this on the back cover. I should have looked at it more carefully.

    3 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 6, 2010

    A Must Read for Parents with Teens

    If you want to know what your son isn't telling you, check out What Your Son Isn't Telling You: Unlocking the Secret World of Teen Boys by Michael Ross and Susie Shellenberger, published by Bethany House, copyright 2010, just hitting store shelves. For a mere $13.99, you may unlock secrets to enable you to help your teen in the 190 pages that end with a prayer for your family. The back cover material says the book contains the keys to understanding your son's heart and mind. My two sons are grown now, but perhaps my reading this book will help me reach out to my grandchildren and other teens.

    From the back cover: Your son struggles with the constant pressure to prove himself--in the classroom, on the playing field, and especially among his friends. And while he may put up a tough exterior, deep inside he hungers for family support and connection. You long to be there for him, but chances are he's put up a formidable wall of silence, leaving you wondering how to break through.

    This book offers practical advice on how to provide support and connection. It's brimming with real-life stories and emails, a must read to guide you. I remember when my two sons were going through their teen years. I could've used a book like this one. It contains 15 chapters, and the 15'th one, "Lost in Space: If a Boy Rejects Christianity" may prove one of the most insightful. Sometimes parents get the blame for how their children turn out, but there are times when parents have done their best and raised their children in a Christian home, only to have them rebel. The humorist Mark Twain made jokes about the teen years, but through the humor we get that teen years are difficult. Think of the peer pressure young people face on a daily basis. Then, there's the old blame game. This book has it covered! A conclusion leads, guides, and asks you to pray.

    I thank Bethany House for the opportunity to review this eye-opening book, and I hope you'll sign to follow my blog, as I read and discover more such awakening books. Though my genre is Christian romance and suspense, I like to read various types of books for review. The cover illustrates our youth of today, as they hide beneath hoods and reminds me of my own teen years when my hair was free to blow in the wind, and the sun smiled down to warm my uncovered head.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 23, 2010

    A highly recommendable book with Biblically practical guidelines for parents - and teachers.

    I have no children (yet), but as a professor, I have worked in different grades, from junior high school to postgraduate. The effects a teacher can have in students are always there, but they are even deeper in teenagers. I've realized that this period of boy's lives is a turning point; they are in search for their identity and come to realize that growing up has consequences and responsibilities. I've been able to observe that many teen boys act tough, but their inside is quite different - fragile, thriving for family support and peer acceptance. That's what called my attention to this book.
    I enjoyed reading it. It was a wonderful insight into how a teen boy sees life and feels; few books have presented such a unique approach to understanding teenagers as this one does. To me, a real treasure are the many e-mails and letters the authors have used to exemplify the topic they are considering; adults tend to think that teenagers don't like to open up and communicate, but these testimonies are a shocking eye opener. They are a practical way to identify ourselves with them. It is an invitation to see the world from their point of view and exercise a bit of true love - going beyond myself and reaching out to that boy who is facing a difficult time in his life, wanting independence and needing support (without fully realizing it) at the same time.
    The authors emphasize the role of parents in shaping and affirming a boy's identity, even today, when drugs, bullies, cyber sex, child pornography and other issues threaten every teenager. Besides that, they suggest answers and initiating dialogues from a biblical perspective, always supported on the Scripture.
    My only negative criticism to this book is that the authors emphasize the different roles of mothers and fathers. However, we are living times when single parents (either moms or dads) are raising their kids on their own; I would have liked to see more content related to single parenthood, just because of the fact it exists.
    Because of my career, the book has also given me ideas to share with parents. Due to the implications of the authors' advice and suggestions, their Biblical perspective and teen boys life at stake, I wish I could give a copy of this book to every person who has to do with a teen boy's life, whether a parent, a teacher, a pastor or a counselor. We must realize that they are looking for support and acceptance; if we are not there for them, someone else will - who?
    Bethany House very kindly provided me with a complimentary copy of this book for review; in no way has this biased my opinion on the book or on the authors.

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