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Before Saying "I Do": The Essential Guide to a Successful Marriage
Have you found "the One"?
The decision to get engaged is one of the most exciting and important decisions you will ever make. Before Saying “I Do”: The Essential Guide to a Successful Marriage offers deep insights into how you and your fiancé can use this critical engagement period to build a solid foundation for the rest of your lives together.  Psychotherapist and relationship expert Michael Batshaw shares specific and practical techniques to begin the necessary work for a successful engagement—setting the stage for happily ever after. Topics include:
  • Knowing if your partner is “the One”
  • How to disagree productively
  • Cultivating real intimacy for a lifetime
  • How Hollywood gets it wrong
  • Issues to discuss before taking your vows
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Before Saying "I Do": The Essential Guide to a Successful Marriage
Have you found "the One"?
The decision to get engaged is one of the most exciting and important decisions you will ever make. Before Saying “I Do”: The Essential Guide to a Successful Marriage offers deep insights into how you and your fiancé can use this critical engagement period to build a solid foundation for the rest of your lives together.  Psychotherapist and relationship expert Michael Batshaw shares specific and practical techniques to begin the necessary work for a successful engagement—setting the stage for happily ever after. Topics include:
  • Knowing if your partner is “the One”
  • How to disagree productively
  • Cultivating real intimacy for a lifetime
  • How Hollywood gets it wrong
  • Issues to discuss before taking your vows
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Before Saying "I Do": The Essential Guide to a Successful Marriage

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Before Saying "I Do": The Essential Guide to a Successful Marriage

by Michael Batshaw

Overview

Have you found "the One"?
The decision to get engaged is one of the most exciting and important decisions you will ever make. Before Saying “I Do”: The Essential Guide to a Successful Marriage offers deep insights into how you and your fiancé can use this critical engagement period to build a solid foundation for the rest of your lives together.  Psychotherapist and relationship expert Michael Batshaw shares specific and practical techniques to begin the necessary work for a successful engagement—setting the stage for happily ever after. Topics include:
  • Knowing if your partner is “the One”
  • How to disagree productively
  • Cultivating real intimacy for a lifetime
  • How Hollywood gets it wrong
  • Issues to discuss before taking your vows

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781596528154
Publisher: TURNER PUB CO
Publication date: 04/22/2011
Pages: 240
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Michael Batshaw is a New York City-based psychotherapist, author and nationally recognized relationship expert. His expertise on a variety of relationship issues has been featured in Redbook Magazine, Chicago Tribune, Encore Magazine, sheknows.com, lifescript.com, thedailybeast.com, and bettyconfidential.com, among others. Mr. Batshaw graduated from the Universityof Pennsylvania with honors in Philosophy, completed his Masters of Science in Social Work at Columbia University, and did his post-graduate training at the Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy. He is on the faculty of the New York Open Center (www.opencenter.org), offering seminar courses on overcoming the obstacles to true intimacy, and he has served as the clinical director of HAN, an agency of New York City psychotherapists treating individuals suffering from chronic, physical illness. He has also trained and worked as a staff psychotherapist in both an alcohol/drug treatment program and a grief psychotherapy center in New York City. In addition, Mr. Batshaw is a professional opera singer and trained with teachers from The Julliard School, the Curtis Institute of Music, and the Academy of Vocal Arts, making his Carnegie Hall debut in 2003 as the tenor soloist in the Berlioz Requiem. He is also on the faculty of the New Triad for Collaborative Arts Foundation (www.newtriad.org) where he teaches on the Psychology of Collaborative Partnerships for classical musicians.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

1 One hardly ever hears, "I wish I had gotten engaged earlier" 9

2 Hollywood gets it wrong 13

3 Beware of the person of your dreams 17

4 If you put your partner on a pedestal, take him off 21

5 If you find yourself on a pedestal, get off 25

6 Great sex will not save a mediocre relationship 29

7 Mediocre sex can become great sex with patience and determination 33

8 You have to know your own flaws, imperfections, and weaknesses. Admit them to yourself and your partner 37

9 What is your partner's true character? These qualities are not likely to change much in the future 41

10 Get to know your partner's relationship history and patterns 45

11 Look carefully at how your partner takes care of himself 49

12 Daily living habits may be more important than you realize 53

13 You must respect what your partner does for a living 57

14 If you think that she will change her mind in time, be careful 63

15 Don't wait forever for progress in the relationship on issues that are important to you 67

16 If you have sexual issues that are not going away, a little help can make all the difference 71

17 Patience is a virtue. No, really, it is 75

18 How do you feel about family and children? 79

19 Be open to discussing your family's problems-you've probably inherited some of them anyway 83

20 You're going to have to deal with your future in-laws whether you love them or not 87

21 Religion is not unimportant 91

22 Marriage is also a business. Money is a real issue 95

23 We are not created equal. Be aware of your differences 99

24 Get off your high horse 103

25 If you really knew me, you would never hurt me 107

26 Talk about the little issues or they will grow into big issues 111

27 Don't express every random thought that you have in your head about your partner 115

28 Couples who don't argue are in trouble 119

29 The more you yell, the less you will be heard 125

30 Don't compare your partner to someone you both dislike 131

31 The best couples argue forcefully but with empathy and respect 135

32 Never say "you never" or "you always" 139

33 Real people will fall short of your expectations over and over again 143

34 Apologies are golden, but make them real 147

35 Apologies are incomplete without a change in behavior 151

36 Everyone doubts at one time or another whether his partner is "the one" 155

37 Everyone goes through dark times in a relationship 159

38 It's normal to feel attracted to someone who's not your partner 163

39 Attracted to another person? Don't put yourself in harm's way 167

40 The truth of the moment is not the whole truth 171

41 Marriage doesn't have magical powers to make problems go away 177

42 Don't think that having children is going to make it better 183

43 Your relationship should not be your only passion in life 187

44 Cultivate your friendships 191

45 Couples who share activities are closer 197

46 Couples who do everything together cannot survive 201

47 Be careful not to control or to be controlled in your Relationship 205

48 Practice, practice, practice 209

49 Connect to your partner in a physical (but nonsexual) way every day 213

50 Express frequent gratitude about what you like and love about your partner 217

51 The Golden Rule 221

Relationship 101 Quiz 225

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