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101 Conversation Starters for Couples
By Gary Chapman, Ramon Presson
Northfield PublishingCopyright © 2012 Gary Chapman & Ramon Presson
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What are two things that happened today, and how did you feel about them?
What were some of your favorite toys as a child? What was your favorite candy?
Describe the home of one or both sets of your grandparents.
What was something you really wanted but were not allowed to own as a child or teen?
Describe one of your favorite elementary school teachers. Then describe a favorite high school teacher or college professor.
As you were growing up, what was unique about your family as compared to other families in your neighborhood or the families of your friends?
What was your most serious physical injury as a child or teen?
What do you remember about learning to drive?
Can you recall visiting your parents' workplace? If so, describe it and how you felt when you went there.
Complete this sentence: "I'm sure my mom and dad wish I would...."
What is perhaps the worst movie you have ever seen?
What tragic news story in the last few years made you particularly sad?
What was one of the most memorable weddings (other than your own) that you have attended?
What is something you collected as a child or teen?
What is a question that you wish you had the courage to ask your mother and/or father?
If you were given five acres of land, where would you want it to be and what would you want to do with it?
If you could own and operate your own business (and be guaranteed of its success), what would it be?
If you do not play a musical instrument, what one do you wish you could play? If you do/did play a musical instrument, do you recall how you chose that particular one?
What would you say are two of the best concerts you have seen, either in person or on video or film?
What are two of your all-time favorite movies (or books)?
My mother/father clearly did not understand what was considered cool when she/he bought me....
What famous person (deceased) would you like to have met?
Which of the following would you find most gratifying?
 earning a PhD
 publishing a bestselling book
 recording an original chart-topping song
 winning an Olympic gold medal
If money and/or child care were no object, what would be your idea of the perfect New Year's Eve?
Who is one of the most genuinely spiritual persons you know?
How do you think the world has changed since September 11, 2001?
Which of the following rides would be your first choice?
 a gondola in Venice
 a cab in London
 a Ferrari on the autobahn
 a hot air balloon in Switzerland
 an airboat in the Everglades
 a raft down the Colorado River
 a carriage in Paris
What is one of your favorite memories that includes snow?
Who was your favorite superhero or cartoon character?
If someone could bless you and pass on to you a special ability, who would you choose to bless you and with what ability?
Who is the most joyful person you know?
Who is someone you wish you could infect with a more positive attitude?
Complete this sentence: "It would make me a better person if I were more like you in the way you...."
When in your life would you say your self-esteem was the lowest?
Recall a time when you were given constructive criticism that proved beneficial.
The lion, beaver, otter, and golden retriever are used to describe four personality types. Which one do you think best describes you?
 Lion: strong, confident, leader, likes to make sure things get done
 Beaver: detail oriented, organized, follows instructions, good with projects
 Otter: very outgoing, enjoys people, humorous, creative
 Golden Retriever: loyal, sensitive, encouraging
If you could hire Martha Stewart for a day, what would you have her do?
Regardless of how long I live, I hope I will always....
"It is more blessed to give than to receive." Recall a gift that gave you considerable satisfaction in presenting it.
Describe the location and three features of your dream home.
Who would you most like to hear one of the following from?
"I love you."
"I support you."
"I respect you."
"I appreciate you."
"I miss you."
"I trust you."
In retrospect, what is something that your parents were wise in doing in raising you?
What was your most/least favorite subject in school?
If you could take a course in any subject right now at your local college, what type of course would it be?
In what way are you most/least like your mother? How are you most/least like your father?
In Matthew 6:34, Jesus encourages us to live with faith in the present.
Which is the greater obstacle for you?
 dwelling on the past
 worrying about the future
Who was your best friend in junior high school? What did you do together?
As I was growing up, my father was most like
 a coach
 an historian
 a preacher
 a cheerleader
 a judge
 a professor
 a manager
If you inherited $200,000 (after taxes), what would you do with the money?
Name three jobs or careers you are definitely not suited for.
Describe your pediatrician when you were growing up.
What do you remember about those doctor visits?
Concerning what biblical topic or Bible passage (or verse) do you wish you had a better understanding?
What do you think that you will want to do in your retirement years?
Acts 2:42-47 describes a close, caring community. In what setting have you had the greatest experience of genuine fellowship?
 friends at school  job where I worked  sports team
 support group  church-related group
 volunteer organization
 ministry/mission team  fraternity/sorority
What item of clothing in my wardrobe do you really like to see me wear?
What is a song or piece of music that moves or inspires you?
What quality or skill that you possess would you find most gratifying to have your child imitate as an adult?
If you could win any competition in the world, what would it be?
What nonbiblical historical event would you like to have witnessed?
Name the Old Testament event that you wish you could have witnessed.
Name the New Testament event (in addition to the resurrection) that you wish you could have witnessed.
In TV's The Andy Griffith Show, Barney Fife once told Andy that the biggest purchase he ever made was a septic tank for his parents' wedding anniversary. What gift would you like to give to your parents?
What is something you thoroughly enjoyed doing as a child and have not done in years?
Richard Foster says that our lives are bombarded by hurry, crowds, and noise. Which of those three has been most bothersome for you lately?
Complete this sentence: "A time that I felt I might be in physical danger was when...."
In what event would you most like to win an Olympic gold medal?
Recall a time when you were disappointed in not being chosen.
I wish I could hire ____________ to write and record a song from me to you.
I think I would crack under the torture if I were forced to listen to only ____________ music all day and could only eat ____________ meals all day.
If we were to adopt a child from another country, which country would it be?
As a couple we make a great team, but it is most unlikely that we would ever team up to....
 win a mixed-doubles tennis championship
 sing a duet
 win a medal in couples figure skating
 be co-leaders (main speakers) of a nationally televised marriage seminar
 compete in a ballroom dancing competition
 operate a bed & breakfast
 co-author a book entitled Stress-Free Parenting
Imagine that your internal dashboard has a spiritual passion gauge on it. What is your present reading?
What is the worst or most unusual job interview you ever had?
The circus act that most reminds me of my job is....
What is your most/least favorite trait in others?
What kind of race best describes your last seven days?
 BOSTON MARATHON It seemed to last forever.
 TOUR DE FRANCE I was pedaling uphill as fast as I could.
 KENTUCKY DERBY I worked for so long on something that was over so quickly.
 INDIANAPOLIS 500 I went round and round, and I'm right where I started.
 IRONMAN TRIATHLON I endured a week full of job, family, and church activities.
 24 HOURS OF LE MANS Sleep? What's that?
 HUNDRED-METER HIGH HURDLES All I did was sprint and navigate obstacles.
 DEMOLITION DERBY I feel beat up.
Talk about your early experiences with someone of another race or nationality.
Describe a summer camp experience.
What is your favorite animated film?
When you were growing up, where did your family go on vacations? Describe one of those vacations.
Can you remember a time when you got lost or separated from your family or companions? Describe what happened and how you felt.
Recall a time when you got sick at a very inopportune time.
What high school or college course would you rather flee the country than be forced to take again?
Can you recall a first date during which you immediately knew there would not be a second date?
Select and describe a couple who were friends with your parents when you were growing up.
Recall a childhood memory about one of the following:
playing in a creek
playing in a tree house
running a lemonade stand
pretending to be a superhero
a slumber party or sleepover
jumping off the high dive
Describe your parents' reaction on the day you moved out or left for college.
Recall something special about your high school or college graduation.
What is your favorite scene from your favorite movie?
I thought it was one of the coolest items in my wardrobe at the time, but today I'm not sure I'd even wear it to a costume party. What is it?
Something I wanted to quit but my parents wouldn't let me was....
Joseph's brothers sold him into slavery. If you have siblings, what was one of the meanest things done to you by a brother or sister? If you are an only child, what was one of the meanest things done to you by a friend?
Describe someone you encountered recently who probably needs God in his or her life.
If you were offered the opportunity to be one of the contestants on Survivor, would you do it? If yes, what do you imagine would be the hardest thing for you to cope with?
One of the descendants of King Saul was named Mephibosheth. Do you like your first name? If you could choose another first name for yourself, what would it be?
In the movie The Karate Kid, young Daniel is befriended by an old Japanese man who teaches him karate, but more importantly offers him kindness and encouragement. Name an older person who blessed you with kindness and encouragement.
What is one of your favorite stories that your parents tell about you?
In the movie Groundhog Day, Bill Murray kept waking up only to repeat the same day over and over again. What recent day would you not want to repeat?
What old photograph of yourself makes you really laugh or cringe in embarrassment?
Recall something about exchanging valentines when you were in elementary school.
Congratulations! Your boss just gave everyone a spring break. Where do you want to go?
What is something that occurred this past year that you are especially thankful for?
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