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101 conversation starters for families
By GARY CHAPMAN RAMON PRESSON
Northfield PublishingCopyright © 2012 Gary Chapman & Ramon Presson
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Chapter Onequestion 1
Give each member of the family an imaginary award for an achievement or something special they did recently.
Name one talent you wish you had.
If you had to give up sight, hearing, the ability to speak, or the ability to walk, which would you choose?
If you had a magic wand and could change anything in your life right now, what would it be?
If you could be on any magazine cover, which one would you select?
If you could go on a vacation to another country, which one would you select?
What is one of your favorite stories that your parent(s) tell about you?
If we had to move from our home to another city, what would you miss the most about our home? Our neighborhood? Our city? Who would you miss the most?
If you could have any kind of unconventional pet, what would you choose?
What is the best reason you can think of not to use alcohol or drugs?
Bestow a "Fruit of the Spirit Award" (Galatians 5:22-23) upon each family member. From the following, affirm the quality you observed recently.
What dessert do you think you could eat for a lifetime?
In Acts 12 young Rhoda told the people in the house that Peter was knocking on the door, but they didn't believe her. Can you recall a time that you were telling the truth but someone didn't believe you?
If you could ask God any question, what would you ask?
Talk about a time when it felt good to help someone.
If I could be any kind of animal for a day, I'd like to be a ...
Which of the following would you like to have in your backyard?
miniature golf course
20 pieces of playground equipment
In the Chronicles of Narnia, four children walked through a wardrobe (clothes closet) and into the magical land of Narnia. If you had a magic door in the back of your closet that could take you to one special place anytime you want to go, where would it be?
What is something that would be hard for you to share?
As a surprise for your birthday party we've arranged for a famous person of your choice to attend. Who will you choose?
I wish I had a personal coach, tutor, or mentor for ...
What is one of the most uninteresting things you have to do on a regular basis?
Using the first letter of your first name, the family must come up with a positive word the begins with the same letter to describe you. For example: Talented Trevor or Generous Ginny.
What were the best and worst moments from this past week?
In what Olympic sports event would you like to win a gold medal?
question 26 Everyone has five minutes to scout the house for objects that positively describe members of the family, then use the object in a sentence to describe the person. For example: "I have a light- bulb for Cameron because he brings light into our house"; or "I have a paper clip for Mom because she holds our family together."
question 27 This week my internal weather could be described as:
hot and dry
cold and rainy
early fog, then clearing
If at the end of every day you were granted an extra hour to do anything you wanted, how would you regularly spend that hour?
Tell family members about a compliment or affirmation that you've received recently from someone outside the family.
Who is someone in our extended family (grandparent, aunt, uncle, cousin, in-law) that you wish you could spend more time with?
Give each member of the family an imaginary gift certificate to a favorite store, for a favorite or wished-for product, or special event.
Who is someone in our extended family, neighborhood, school, church, or workplace for whom we could do something helpful? What could we do?
CHILDREN: Who is the biggest bully at your school?
PARENTS: Recall a bully at your school.
BOTH: Why do you think some kids become mean?
About trading places
CHILDREN: I think the best part about being a grown-up would be ...
PARENTS: I think the best part about being a kid again would be ...
The early years
PARENTS: Recall and describe some special detail or feeling you remember about the day each child was born or came into the family.
CHILDREN: What is you earliest childhood memory (one of the first that comes to mind)?
If you were President of the United States for a day, who is someone that you would honor with a special award?
What is your favorite television commercial?
If you could change anything about your appearance, what would you change?
What is your favorite time of the day? Favorite day of the week? Favorite month of the year?
Recall a family outing or vacation that went badly but you're able to laugh about now.
Complete this sentence: "I feel especially close to you when ..."
What was your best day this past week?
What animal best illustrates how you deal with conflict?
turtle—turn inward and silent
snake—attack if provoked
puppy—whimper and cry
peacock—make a scene
PARENTS: A rule that I wish we had in my family growing up is ...
CHILDREN: A rule in our family I wish I could change is...
Talk about a time you were scared.
Conflict is pretty normal in all families. Forgiveness is a gift regularly offered in healthy families. Complete the following sentence: "(Name), I'm glad you're not still angry at me for ..."
Recall a time when someone (not a family member) hurt your feelings.
Recall a time when you were nervous about having to do something in front of a lot of people (recitation, give a report or speech, sing, play an instrument, playa sport, etc.).
Recall a time that you were really embarrassed.
Complete this sentence: "I wish I had the (courage, time, or money) to try ..."
Recently I didn't feel very pleased with myself when I ...
Each person comes up with a separate answer for every family member: "I know that something that drives you nuts is ..."
How much influence do you think your friends have on you?
If the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) grew on trees, which one would you most want to plant in our yard for yourself?
What is something that you are worried about these days (or typically worry about)?
Tell about a time you felt very sad.
Each person has a love language, a way in which they feel truly loved. What do you think is the love language of each person in our family?
Physical touch (hugs, kisses, cuddling)
Words of affirmation ("I love you" "I missed you today," "You look great")
Acts of service (doing something special to help or surprise)
Quality time (spending time together in a way that is meaningful for the other)
Receiving gifts (token of love; items the person likes or enjoys)
One of the things that I like most about our church (or community) is ...
Recall a family experience involving one of the following: fishing, hunting, biking, hiking, or camping.
The lion, beaver, otter, and golden retriever are animals used to describe four personality types. Which one do you think best describes you?
I'm a lion: strong, confident, a leader; I like to make sure things get done.
I'm a beaver: detail-oriented and organized. I follow instructions and am good with projects.
I'm an otter: very outgoing, humorous, creative. I enjoy people.
I'm a golden retriever: loyal, sensitive, caring.
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