101 Men and Still Alone

Why so many men? I felt nothing inside. Empty.


Every time I had sex, my whole body "felt Alive inside". The more sex I had, the more I felt. It was a high! When I did not have sex, I had an empty feeling inside as If I did not "exist."


I hope that, given all the men I am sharing with you, you can relate-that this can help you know that we all have in common the hurt and the ups and down of dating in our search for love, for ourselves, and for the chance to come together with a partner to feel and know real Love. A desire most of us dream about.

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101 Men and Still Alone

Why so many men? I felt nothing inside. Empty.


Every time I had sex, my whole body "felt Alive inside". The more sex I had, the more I felt. It was a high! When I did not have sex, I had an empty feeling inside as If I did not "exist."


I hope that, given all the men I am sharing with you, you can relate-that this can help you know that we all have in common the hurt and the ups and down of dating in our search for love, for ourselves, and for the chance to come together with a partner to feel and know real Love. A desire most of us dream about.

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Overview

Why so many men? I felt nothing inside. Empty.


Every time I had sex, my whole body "felt Alive inside". The more sex I had, the more I felt. It was a high! When I did not have sex, I had an empty feeling inside as If I did not "exist."


I hope that, given all the men I am sharing with you, you can relate-that this can help you know that we all have in common the hurt and the ups and down of dating in our search for love, for ourselves, and for the chance to come together with a partner to feel and know real Love. A desire most of us dream about.


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ISBN-13: 9781452567518
Publisher: Balboa Press
Publication date: 02/20/2013
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: eBook
File size: 348 KB

About the Author

Marilyn has lived most of her life in Portland, Oregon. She is surrounded by her family. She wants to thank all her friends, if not for them, she would not have made it all these years as a single woman. She has traveled many places. Through all her ventures she has had many lives'. Her life has been a fascinating journey.

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101 MEN and Still Alone


By Marilyn Marsh

BALBOA PRESS

Copyright © 2013 Marilyn Marsh
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-4525-6750-1


Chapter One

My Early Years Growing Up

Somewhere as a child, of course, we all have are childhood memories which directs us as we grow to an adult. My memories are few no hugs, no closeness, empty days, arguing; no sleep at night all the noises. My dad was an alcoholic. When drinking he would beat my mom. One night when I was twelve years old I jumped in to help my mom and I was getting beat up too so I ran outside to hide. My dad came looking for me I hid in the dark. I was scared. Later that night I crawled in the basement window. I could hear my mom and dad still arguing. My dad was such a nice loving man when he did not drink. He made sure we had a house I say not a home because a home is love, warmth. A house is heat and food. My mom was a simple woman, left home when she was thirteen. Not educated, a nice lady, naïve.

When I graduated from eighth grade in 1962, I matured into a girl who looked like an eighteen year old. I got looks and a lot of attention, and I was asked out by older guys. I had a great body but did not know it at the time. My boobs were a thirty-six, so it seemed.

I started to become aware of my sexuality in the third grade. I experienced feelings as a child that I did not fully understand until later on in life. I seemed to be focused on this feeling with our sexual parts no one talked about. I just wanted to do things to myself to keep that feeling, that sensation. I didn't know what was happening or what my body was experiencing, and I had no one to talk to about what was going on.

I taught myself to swim at Blue Lake Park. I went swimming there a lot. Once I cut my foot, and the guy in the park's medical aid office could not get over my feet. He said that I had the most beautiful feet he had ever seen. I would have guys wanting to meet me and coming up to talk to me, but I was shy.

One time I was in the water talking to a boy, and he reached down in the water and touched me inappropriately. When things like that happened, I would just stand there. I did not know how to say no. Later, my dad and mom came to pick up me, my sister, and my brother. I asked if I could ride with the boy. I said that I would be okay, that his parents could take me home. I didn't know what to feel; I just knew I was receiving attention. My mind was blank. When I got in their car, the boy who had put his hand on me in the water sat with me in the backseat and did the same thing again. I did not think about whether this was right or wrong. I just blanked out my mind and shut down. This is how it was.

Later, I would learn why I had so many men—sometimes three men a week—and thought the same of each one. After sex, my partner of the moment and I would just lie there and talk as if we were friends. None of the men stood out from the others.

When I had sex, I would always feel it all over my body, every inch. I would think, Wow, I am alive! But as soon as we were done, I was empty. My chest felt as if it was made of concrete. I never felt anything from my neck to my waist. I only felt things sexually. I never thought about whether this was normal or right.

Harold, The Older Man

When I was fourteen or maybe fifteen, I met Harold, who was twenty years old. We started dating, and he had a car. My folks were not happy about it, but they let me date him because they trusted me. Little did I know at the time what that really meant.

Harold and I would go to parties where the kids were eighteen to twenty years old. They did not know that I was only fourteen. Afterward, on the way home, we always had sex in the backseat of his car. I just did it thinking that it was the natural thing to do. And, of course, through having sex with him, I would get to feel things in my body. Later this became the only way I knew how to feel.

I did dress to look older than I was; I dressed nicely but with a style that was older than that of other girls my age.

Chapter Two

Married at a Young Age

Stan, #1 and 1st Husband 1963–1974

Then I met Stan. This was a man who got out of the army and loved once and only once. Born in Oklahoma an Oaky, he had old-fashioned values. He had traveled with the service, so he just wanted to be married and have a home. He did not think that marrying a sixteen-year-old who had not done anything or been anywhere was a problem. My girlfriend's mom and friends were going to Springer's, a dance hall in Gresham. If you were under eighteen, you could go with adults or parents. It was so much fun. I was watching a guy who was very good-looking. He got up on the stage and started singing. He had a dark complexion and coal black hair, and he was tall and slender in his white shirt. I definitely had to meet him. I did, and we made plans to get together. He was on leave from the army. We started dating and, yes, having sex.

He was so good at sex, knowing a woman's body and it felt good. Stan was the one who taught me how to have great sex. Now I became even more addicted. His cock was crooked, but he knew what he was doing. I started having orgasms with a man. Oh, my God! Once I'd tasted that, it started something inside me in, well in the cunt area. I just needed sex the way some people have to have something to eat.

The song "Soldier Boy" came out and I bought the record and played it a lot. Stan was too old, my father said. That did not stop me. I was graduating from eighth grade and would become a high school freshman. We had a graduation dance. Stan would not go, so I did not go, darn.

We had sex everywhere—in the car, even while I was babysitting. Sex was my way of feeling something. I said, "I love you," not knowing the meaning or feeling of love or what it meant to be in love. I had no clue about the difference between sex and love.

We talked about getting married. I wanted to go to modeling school and did not want anything to stop me. He said that I could continue with those plans if that was what I wanted. My folks said no, so we planned to go to Utah to get married. He was to pick me up in the middle of the night. The first time we'd scheduled our elopement, I looked out the window and could not do it, so we planned again.

I ran away from home to get married at fifteen years of age. When we got to Utah, we rented an apartment. I called my mom and told her that I was okay.

No one would marry us. After we'd been gone for a month, we decided to go back home. The juvenile authorities were waiting for us. They took me to the juvenile home and Stan to jail. My folks did not file charges, and I was let out to go home. My folks said that we could get married, and we did a month after I turned sixteen on March 17, 1963.

We bought a trailer to live in. I kept on going to high school. I got pregnant and had my daughter a month after I turned seventeen. As I got older, I started to realize that I was literally doing nothing. I mentioned to Stan that I needed to go to the movies or out to dinner, like on dates. I explained that I needed to get out and enjoy things. He had already traveled with the army and had no interest in going out. I told him that if he did not take me out by the end of the year, I would leave him. I tried to convince him by suggesting that, if he would take me to a movie or dancing, I would go hunting with him, and we could enjoy with each other the things we both enjoyed. He refused, so at the end of the year, I left him. He was so hurt and shocked.

I went to a dance bar called Division St. Corral. The next thing I knew, I got a call informing me that my husband had been taken to jail. Stan had gotten drunk and tried to enter the dance bar, but the doorman wouldn't let him in. He'd gotten in a fight with the security guards. He wanted his wife. I bailed him out. He was forcefully beaten as a result of his altercation with the Gresham Police. One guy against five officers, that's how our system works.

I went back to him. But I was still asking him to take me out. I wanted us to go and do the normal things that people do. And he was still refusing. In addition, Stan would beat me if I said anything that he did not like. I, of course, knew all the words that he did not like and would say them, knowing what would happen. He would make me sleep on the floor. He treated me very badly, Still, I know now that there are no excuses for his behavior.

Once, I was lying on the floor trying to go to sleep, and I asked him if we could get our bedroom back with the full bed that my mother-in-law was using. He got up and started hitting me again, and I did not feel anything.

But then, he was yelling, "Oh, my God, what did I do?" So I started yelling a lot too. I guess one entire side of my face was so swollen that he took me to the emergency room at the hospital.

I got pregnant again. I planned this pregnancy. I gave birth to a son in 1969, my favorite number. I loved that position.

My mom played Bunco. One day, the game was going to be at her house, and she asked if I would sit in. I said yes. Stan took me and fought with me all the way. I was just going to be at my mom's, but he did not approve. It was another big fight.

We went on vacation to Santiago with his sister, and I wanted to see a few sights—the wax museum, things like that. We did nothing, just walking around sightseeing. We did not go into any place of interest.

When I turned twenty-one, I wanted to go dancing and have a drink in a real bar. Stan took me with some neighbor friends of ours. He would not dance with me, but he allowed me to have one drink and dinner. I felt controlled and confined, unable to do anything, as if I were locked or chained in a room. I had felt this way throughout my life for as long as I could remember—that every man I dated would put me in a locked room and that I could not live my own life. So it was hard to let go of my fear of being confined for years.

I sought psychological help through a number of avenues—books, counseling, seminars, everything that I could think of to break this feeling. Doing so took over ten years.

It was hard for me to compromise with Stan when he could not compromise. Basically it was his way or nothing. I found later in years this is the type of men I would attract, their way or nothing. I was maturing and wanted more. I believed that I was a good mom, and I loved my kids. I had to get a divorce. I was twenty-two years old. We had a big fight over the kids. He put me down in court, but, as it went, he lost. He was so sick over losing his family that he got an ulcer and went to the hospital. But he would not let me see him.

When he was released, I told him that he could stay at my home so that he could be close to his kids. He shared a room with my son. Our living situation worked out fine.

* * *

When I was free and divorced, I went wild. I partied hard, making up for the years I'd missed as a teenager and young woman. I went crazy; I thought I had to be out every night. I was sure that I must have missed something out there.

In the bars, I danced, moved, and dressed sexy. I thought that is what a woman does, always look sexy, good I would get noticed. I was different than most girls. I did not understand why some women dressed plain. And I also worked hard. I had years to make up for all the things I'd missed out on. I went out all the time.

And I had sex with the good-looking guys in the bands. They liked me, right? I would meet guys and have sex. Being very naive, I thought that, because they wanted to get in my pants, they must have liked me. This was more than sex, right? Who was I kidding? I realize that now years later.

My sister said that I was meeting so many men when we would go out because of my long hair that fell to my waist like Delilah's. She said that, if I cut it off, I would not get any attention. I did not think she was right. At one time, I had short hair, and I learned that what she said wasn't true. I still had the attention. I just have a look.

What was I looking for? I didn't know. I'd never realistically contemplated that question. I just knew that every time I was about to get exclusive with a guy, I would get sick or would feel like I was going to end up being locked in a room like—chained up and never allowed to get out.

I know my reaction to commitment was tied to my ex keeping me from going anywhere. I found commitment was something that took years to understand. I felt everyone would be the same as my husband. Lock me in a room and never get to do or go anywhere.

When Stan and I were together, we'd just do things at home or with family. Getting over the results of Stan's confinement of me took many years.

Stan and I would work with the kids together later in the years. If he had a date, he would want me to meet the woman and to get my approval. Odd, but yes he did. Or he'd want me to take the woman he was dating with me to the river or the movies because going out, as we know, is not what he does. Stan had tried to take me on a date several times, and he'd always gotten sick. It just wasn't him.

* * *

Years later, Stan got sick with Huntington's disease. I made sure he was taken care of at his care home, or I would move him to the next. I was an overseer for him. My kids were busy with three kids each, and I had time. If the nursing home or care home did not do right by him, I would move him. No matter how he treated me in the early years, he was the kids' dad, and I just had to make sure he was taken care of. I would visit him once a month and take him candy bars or things he might need or take him to buy shoes.

He did not want his brothers or sisters to see him that way. He would only let his nephew, who had Huntington's also visit, they were close.

One time, Stan had fallen at the care home he was staying in, and the facilitators did not call my daughter until the next morning. It seemed the home facilitators did not have a heart; the residents were just bodies to most of them. We all went up to OHU to see him. He was not doing well, and the doctors gave him a few days to live. It was a few weeks before he passed away.

Kenny, Stan's nephew who had Huntington's, came up to see him. Kenny was a special man with a great wife and daughter. He was not doing well with his Huntington's, and after seeing Stan in the hospital, he went home and talked to his wife about not wanting her to go through this with him; he was going to go through the same stages that he'd watched Stan go through. No doctor would give him a pill that would help him die. He had a talk with his wife and daughter and told them he was going to kill himself; he wanted their permission. He explained that he felt that this was what he needed to do so they would not be burdened by his illness.

They said they understood, and one morning, Kenny's wife got up and found that Kenny had shot himself in the bathtub. He wanted to go with Stan, as Stan's passing was going to be any day.

Stan passed away a few days later. We had a funeral for both of them together, as that's how they wanted it. As I am writing, I am crying. Losing Kenny was so sad, and Stan was in a much better place after years of living with the debilitating disease.

I know I loved Stan and worried about him and cared for him. As for being in love, I don't know; I did not know back when we were together what it meant to be in love. For years, I would dream that we were in the same bed together. The kids would be with us, and we'd all be laughing together as a family. I would dream I was trying to find him and my family. Everyone, including our family and friends, was shocked that we'd parted in the first place. No one knows what is going on inside another's home.

Chapter Three

Experiencing Dating

Steve, Dentist

I had a dentist appointment, and there he was. Steve, my dentist, was so good-looking. He was wholesome and a very nice guy. We decided to get together, and he came over to my house. I thought this would be okay. I was getting a divorce.

Oh my god, I couldn't have been more wrong. Steve and I were making out on the couch heavily, and we were ready, very ready, to have sex he was so hard suddenly, we heard a loud bang on the floor. It was my husband falling through the kitchen window. We jumped up, and Steve ran to the back of the house and out the window. Steve was scared shitless. I never heard from him again.

Craig, Guy Next Door Yum

Stan and I were divorced and just living together. I had to have the neighbor, Craig. He was so good-looking that every time I saw him I got wet with desire for him. I would see him across the street going in or out of his house, and he would smile at me! That was it. I had to have him.

Stan left for work at 5:00 a.m., and Craig and I arranged for him to come over and get into bed with me. The thought of having him was so exciting. When I talked to him, my clothes just wanted to fall off.

He knocked on the door after he saw Stan's car leaving my house. Thinking about what was about to happen was so hot. We went right to bed, and kissing his lips and feeling his hands all over me got me ready and excited. The thought nearly gave me an orgasm. I said, "I need you in me. Please put your cock in me."

(Continues...)



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