28 Days to Ecstasy for Couples: Tantra Step by Step


Would you like to experience erotic sex like never before? Go beyond pleasure to find true bliss? Connect with your lover to reach new levels of spiritual ecstasy? Enjoy all of this and more as you discover the depths of Tantric sex.

With a daily practice averaging just 20 minutes, 28 Days to Ecstasy offers the perfect way to fit Tantra into your busy life. Short on time or away from your partner? Try fifty quick exercises designed to keep your...

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Would you like to experience erotic sex like never before? Go beyond pleasure to find true bliss? Connect with your lover to reach new levels of spiritual ecstasy? Enjoy all of this and more as you discover the depths of Tantric sex.

With a daily practice averaging just 20 minutes, 28 Days to Ecstasy offers the perfect way to fit Tantra into your busy life. Short on time or away from your partner? Try fifty quick exercises designed to keep your passion white-hot.

Clear illustrations and numbered steps show you exactly how to perform each blissful lesson. As you move through each day of the plan, you'll learn many sexy techniques to thrill your lover:

· Extend your lovemaking sessions to several hours by controlling your sexual energy
· Explore new ways to deepen intimacy with Kama Sutra positions
· Create multiple orgasms for you and your partner
· Increase your sexual fitness with pleasure-enhancing toning exercises
· Keep your bedroom hot with sexual role-play and fantasy games
· Bring your lover to peaks of excitement with erotic massage

. . . and enjoy the most intensely pleasurable sex you have ever experienced!

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780738709994
  • Publisher: Llewellyn Worldwide, Ltd.
  • Publication date: 12/1/2007
  • Pages: 216
  • Sales rank: 1,042,522
  • Product dimensions: 7.30 (w) x 7.40 (h) x 0.70 (d)

Meet the Author

Al Link & Pala Copeland (Ottawa, Canada) have been leading retreats on sacred loving for ten years. As experts on the subject of sexuality and Tantra, they have appeared on radio and television and have contributed to many publications, such as Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Body and Soul, and the Wall Street Journal.
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Tantric sex, the art of sacred loving, elevates your sexuality beyond the physical. This ancient practice of uniting sex and spirit is especially relevant for modern lovers who long for deeper connection and greater pleasure. A life-view that celebrates the joys of the body, Tantra helps you open freely and fully to your partner, sharing your glory and your vulnerability. While you can spend many years exploring Tantra's depths, you can also realize some of its intense benefits in a very short time, which is particularly appealing to lovers caught in the hectic pace of life today. In fact, this book is written especially for lovers who are very busy. It shows you that Tantra is a practical approach to intimacy that can have a profound impact on your life without requiring a great deal of extra time. It will help you understand that life can be very pleasurable indeed, and that's a good thing--good for you and for everyone and everything around you.

This Tantric sex playbook contains a detailed twenty-eight-day plan with step-by-step instructions for simple, fun-to-do activities that will strengthen your relationship and intensify your sexual and spiritual connection. The exercises are quite short--from one to thirty minutes. On average, you'll spend no more than twenty minutes per day on your sacred loving practice--less time than you may spend watching a sitcom or the evening news on TV. Once per week, there are longer love-making periods, in which you will reap great delights from the skills you've been learning.

We've endeavored to present the exercises and activities so that it's compellingly easy for you to take action.

·  Chapter 2, "How to Use This Book," gives you brief and direct instructions for working through the twenty-eight-day plan.
·  Chapter 3, "The 28-Day Ecstasy Plan," contains the step-by-step plan, with specific exercises for each of the twenty-eight days. We teach you how to engage in non-goal-oriented lovemaking. The purpose of Tantric sex is union with the beloved through shared pleasure, not the pursuit of orgasm--although you'll certainly experience many of them. .
·  Chapter 4, "Tantric Loving Step by Step," explains the eight elements an extended Tantric lovemaking session comprises. You learn how to make love for several hours, during which time both lovers can naturally become multiorgasmic. .
·  Chapter 5, "Ecstasy Recipe--Your Joyous Steps to Bliss," suggests fifty specific activities to engage in during your exTantric loving time. This section is a "recipe" for sexual and spiritual ecstasy, independent of how long or short the session may be.
·  Chapter 6, "Continuing Your Practice," provides guidelines for carrying on your Tantric practice over the course of your life together.

The techniques you will learn include conscious intention and attention, sexual physical fitness, intimate emotional connection, and energy circulation and exchange between lovers, as well as sexual, ceremonial, and ritual play. Included with each day's activities is an inspiring message--a thought for the day-- related to relationships, sexuality, and spirituality. They help you focus on key elements of your relationship, such as profound intimacy, soaring passion, trust, surrender, and the most expansive love imaginable.

This book emphasizes action rather than ideas. It's a companion playbook to our book Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, which is much more detailed in its treatment of Tantric concepts and their role in relationships. This book is short and directly to the point: to encourage you to actually add the practices of Tantric sacred sexuality to your active lifestyle. Just reading the book won't help you much. To receive the benefits of Tantra, you must do four things:

·  First, act in spite of any residual shame or guilt about sex you may carry from previous experiences and conditioned learning.
·  Second, give yourself permission to experience pleasure.
·  Third, open your heart to give and receive love--and reopen it each time it closes, again and again.
·  Fourth, actually practice the exercises and apply yourself to the activities that we describe.

If you do these four things, then the exercises in the twenty-eight-day plan, although short and simple, will have a cumulative effect and will transform the quality of your relationship. You are not required to give up the way you currently make love, or anything else important to you, including your values and beliefs. But by the end of these twenty-eight days, your life will have changed, in some ways profoundly for the better.

You can have the relationship happiness you've dreamt about. You can experience the most sublime intimate connection emotionally energetically, and spiritually with your lover. You can have all the great sex you want.

You can give and receive pleasure and love in abundance. You can heal and become whole. You can have it all. The only question for you to answer is this: how good are you willing to have it?

Sex is essential in a fulfilling mate relationship unless you have consciously chosen to have one that is platonic, that is, more akin to friendship than marriage. In a true marriage based on lifelong commitment, sexual fulfillment and abundance in love and pleasure are inseparable from relationship happiness. And relationship happiness is the surest, quickest, and easiest route to your personal emotional maturity and spiritual awakening.

Sex is good, and pleasure is not only good, it's actually necessary for peak mental and emotional well-being. Sexual fulfillment is good for you personally, and it's good for everyone else around you. Your children, friends, neighbors, and coworkers will benefit from your happiness, vitality, and positive state of mind. You'll also discover that sexual fulfillment and its accompanying high state of physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being make you more productive in your work, more creative in your art, and more excellent in your sport.

Taking time to feed your body with the sensual nutrition of erotic touch, connecting on the most intimate levels with your lover, experiencing beyond any doubt that you are cared for and loved--these make everything else in your life work better. You're not being selfish; you're not robbing other important aspects of your life by taking time to be Tantric lovers. On the contrary: you're choosing to be free, to live your life to the fullest. You're acting to be completely alive and productive.

If you actually do the short, simple exercises in 28 Days to Ecstasy for Couples, you may begin to experience anew what it felt like when you first fell in love, rekindle the passion in your lovemaking, realize new heights and depths of intimacy with your mate, and experience sexual and spiritual ecstasy--all within twenty-eight days.

By following this simple plan, you will gradually begin to notice many of these benefits:
·  greater ability to communicate intimately with each other
·  increased comfort with giving and receiving sexual pleasure
·  ease in surrendering to your lover and opening your heart   
·  increased sexual stamina and endurance   
·  extending lovemaking over hours and experiencing lovemaking as timeless   
·  successfully delaying ejaculation   
·  increased awareness of your sexual energy and skill in circulating that energy through your   body and exchanging it with your lover   
·  building high sexual charges and carrying hot sexual energy with relaxed comfort   
·  enhanced desire for your lover   
·  increased passion in your lovemaking, your relationship, and your life   
·  becoming more readily orgasmic, with the potential for multiple orgasms (men and women)   
·  increased enjoyment of ceremonial and ritual lovemaking practices   
·  enhanced creativity and imagination in lovemaking and the rest of your life   
·  improved health and vitality   
·   feeling better about yourself, each other, and your life together
·  expanded sense of well-being, delight, astonishment, and joy
·  balanced emotions
·  decreased stress, worry, fear, insecurity, and other negative emotions
·  return to playfulness and lightness of being
·  experiences of mystery, ecstasy, and mystical states It generally takes three to four weeks to establish a new behavior pattern or new habit. And this simple ecstasy plan is habit-forming.
Once you've been through the twenty-eight days, you won't want to turn back. Rather, you'll sail forward on newly discovered wings of love, happiness, and ecstasy. These are your birthright of body, mind, heart, and soul freedom. You need only claim them with action to know this is the truth.

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Table of Contents


one Tantra for You . . . 1

two How to Use This Book . . . 7
The 28-Day Plan . . . 8
Continuing Your Practice . . . 10
Notes to assist you . . . 10

three The 28-Day Ecstasy Plan . . . 13
Week 1 . . . 15
Day 1 16
Day 2 22
Day 3 29
Day 4 33
Day 5 38
Day 6 40
Day 7: Tantra Loving Session One—No-Goal Lovemaking 43

Week 2 . . . 51
Day 8 52
Day 9 55
Day 10 58
Day 11 60
Day 12 62
Day 13 64
Day 14: Tantra Loving Session Two—Introducing Ceremony 67
Week 3 . . . 73
Day 15 74
Day 16 78
Day 17 81
Day 18 83
Day 19 86
Day 20 88
Day 21: Tantra Loving Session Three—Moving Energy 90
Week 4 . . . 99
Day 22 100
Day 23 102
Day 24 106
Day 25 108
Day 26 111
Day 27 113
Day 28: Tantra Loving Session Four—Lovers' Ritual 115

Four Tantric Loving Step by Step . . . 125
Intention . . . 126
Creating a sacred space . . . 126
the lo ers' purifying bath . . . 127
honor, respect, and permission . . . 127
tuning in to sexual play . . . 127
going the distance . . . 127
mo ing and sharing your energy . . . 128
afterplay . . . 128

Five Ecstasy Recipe—Your Joyous Steps to Bliss . . . 129
Relationship and Communication . . . 130
1. Giving and Receiving 130
2. Anticipation 130
3. Tender Talk 131

Sexual Technique and Skills . . . 131
4. Kama Sutra Sex 131
5. Positions for Building Excitement 132
6. Positions for Emotional Connection 134
7. Baby, You Are Tops! 134
8-15. Slow Move/Don't Move 134
16. To Ejaculate or Not to Ejaculate? 136
17. Erection Signals 137
18. Internal Prostate Massage 138
19. Men—Masturbation for Ejaculation Mastery 138
20. Women—Masturbation for Building a Higher Sexual Charge 139
21. May I Watch, Please? 140
22. Very Personal Pleasure 140
23. Women—Relaxing into Pleasure 140
Energy Work and Meditation . . . 141
24. Begin at the End 141
25. Whole Lotta Shakin' Goin' On 141
26. Thymus Tap 142
27. Ecstasy Chanting 143
28. Monk's Walk 143
29. Masculine Yoni, Feminine Lingam 143
30. Energy Awakening with Your Lover 144
Sexual Play and Fantasy . . . 146
31. Lovers' Music 146
32. Making Out à la High School 146
33. Body Kisses 146
34. Poetic Hearts 146
35. Spinning Wheels 146
36. Dress-ups 147
37. Playing on the Wild Side 147
38. Doctor Fantasy 148
39. Food for God and Goddess 148
Ritual and Ceremony . . . 148
40. Tantric Ritual 1: I AM THAT 150
41. Tantric Ritual 2: Tricapeta (The Three Taps) 150
42. Tantric Ritual 3: Honoring Yoni and Lingam 151
43. Tantric Ritual 4: Outer Space/Inner Space 151
44. Tantric Ritual 5: Holy Water 152
45. Tantric Ritual 6: Five Offerings 152
46. Tantric Ritual 7: Yoni and Lingam Puja 154
47. Tantric Ritual 8: Emptiness Is Fullness, Fullness Is Life 155
48. Tantric Ritual 9: Ceremony of Surrender 155
49. Tantric Ritual 10: Grand Ritual of Tantra 156
50. Sexual Magic 158

Six Continuing Your Practice . . . 159
Daily . . . 160
Weekly . . . 162
Monthly . . . 162
Annually . . . 163
Optional Selections . . . 163
Relationship and Communication 163
Breathing 166
Meditation 167
Energy Circulation and Exchange 169
Sexual Fitness 170

seven The Essentials, Plus More Positions for Energy Exchange . . . 175
the bare essentials . . . 176
intercourse positions for circulating sexual energy . . . 177
ten more energy exchange poses . . . 179
1. The Leaning Yab Yum 179
2. The Handholding Position 180
3. Fixing a Nail 181
4. Pressed 182
5. Clasping Sideways 183
6. Belly to Belly (The Seventeenth Manner) 184
7. The Deer 185
consciously circulating energy for health and healing . . . 186
8. Resting the Spirit and Healing Your Sexual Organs 186
9. Strengthening Your Internal Organs 187
10. Pair of Tongs for Increasing Blood Count 188
Notes . . . 189
Recommended Reading and Resources . . . 191

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