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Getting in the Mood
Feelings come and go in 15 to 30 seconds, but moods can last for days. Everyone knows what it means to be in a good mood or a bad mood. But we don't always understand how our mood affects those around us; it can actually create a good or bad feeling in the home. Have fun dramatically acting out first a bad mood, then a good mood. Set a timer for 15 minutes, and everyone act out a bad mood: being judgmental, noncompliant, hostile, withdrawn, mopey, sulking, righteous, etc. When the timer rings, everyone switch to acting out a good mood for 15 minutes: being helpful, attentive, generous, sweet, happy, caring, energetic, pleasant, patient, etc. Discuss what it felt like to create these moods. Then discuss what it felt like to be around others with different moods.
Pick a day for everyone to do chores together. You will be amazed how fast you can clean a house when you do one room at a time, with each person doing their part. Make it fun by hiding a few pieces of candy before you start. Every once in a while blow a whistle, ring a bell or simply announce "treat time." Then, everyone can hunt for the treats and enjoy them together.
Sending Little Love Notes
What a wonderful surprise to wake up in the morning to a message of love. Before you go to bed tonight, write a little love note to your child and leave it on the breakfast table where it will be read in the morning. Write about something you noticed they did well that day, and tell them how much you love them.