50 Dates in 50 States: One Woman's Journey to Positive Change

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Melanie Brocklehurst hit rock bottom after the death of her soul-mate. Feeling she had nothing more to lose, she decided to follow a formula she created in her teens to achieve positive change. As a result, she embarks on a journey that changes her life. Along the way she quits her job, sells her house, and travels the United States dating fifty men in fifty states. And, eventually she falls in love again...in the most unexpected place.

Told with honesty, humor, and warmth, 50 ...

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Melanie Brocklehurst hit rock bottom after the death of her soul-mate. Feeling she had nothing more to lose, she decided to follow a formula she created in her teens to achieve positive change. As a result, she embarks on a journey that changes her life. Along the way she quits her job, sells her house, and travels the United States dating fifty men in fifty states. And, eventually she falls in love again...in the most unexpected place.

Told with honesty, humor, and warmth, 50 Dates in 50 States clearly captures the ups,downs and hilarious moments of Internet dating and traveling alone across the United States. Melanie—shaped by events of her past but refusingto be defined by them—overcomes grief on a journey that is touching, delightful, and unexpectedly uplifting.

By turns joyful and melancholy, this wise and funny author will pull at your heartstrings in this inspirational, heartfelt, and beautifully written memoir.

Part travelogue, part romp, and part how-to guide, 50 Dates in 50 States, through its unique format, not only provides laughter and tears but also shows you how to build the life of your dreams by following the formula detailed throughout. 

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Editorial Reviews

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“I could not put down this book once I had begun to read. Why? Because it’s compelling reading—as well as sharing her own remarkable story, each chapter gave me insights about my own life and work. I often say that our greatest strength is our fallibility—Melanie proves this in her open and honest portrayal of life and work and lets you into her secrets of success.  Melanie is a wise practitioner, we can all learn from her book. I will keep this book close—like a best friend for life.”
-Dr. Andrew Machon, London, United Kingdom, International Executive, Business Coach and Author

“Melanie Brocklehurst is an exceptional executive and has now proved herself to be an exceptional author and coach. 50 Dates in 50 States: One Woman’s Journey to Positive Change provides a practical guide for those wanting to make positive changes as Melanie openly shares her 8-step Positive Change Formula wrapped wonderfully in the story of the past year of her life. You are going to love both the book and the positive changes that you achieve through putting her formula into practice!”
-Bonnie Boezeman AO, Sydney, Australia, Managing Director, Business Benefits International

“What’s better than a dating guide? Answer: A book that helps you with dating, provides you with a formula to achieve positive change and is wrapped up in a story!  Melanie has created a unique and exciting book that is part travelogue, part romp and part how-to coach yourself happy. In her book, 50 Dates in 50 States, Melanie doesn´t patronize you. She, like me, shows that to find the right life partner isn´t necessarily ‘easy’ or ‘simple’ but that the results are worth it.”
-Marla Martenson, Los Angeles, United States, Author of Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate is Waiting

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781614486374
  • Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
  • Publication date: 7/9/2013
  • Pages: 198
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Meet the Author

Melanie Brocklehurst was born in Cambridge, England. She was lucky enough to travel and live abroad while growing up, which created an insatiable wanderlust that has taken her around the world.

Melanie started her career as an environmental lawyer in England, however, her adventures took her to Australia where she settled, and, has at various times been an Officer in the Australian Army Legal Corps, Legal Adviser to Ministers and a political lobbyist for a global international company.

From there, she decided to implement her Positive Change Formula for a year, and set off on a new adventure taking her to every state in the US...and to Mexico!

As a result of her trip she set up her own business, Positive Change Coaching and Consulting, and—with a little help from computer technology—is coaching people around the world on how to make their own positive life changes.

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"I’ve never understood people who, to coin a good English phrase, are ‘All mouth, no trousers’, which means they talk a lot but never act, or, bitch a lot but never do anything to improve the situation.

I’ve always been a person of action—in fact occasionally I need to think a bit more before I jump in! I’m also a person who keeps my issues to myself. I generally manage to maintain a happy facade to my work colleagues, friends and even my family, with the exception of my best mate, Georgia.

Miss G, as I call her, knows pretty much everything because we spend so much time together. She was my surrogate husband until I found the poor bugger who was foolish enough to fall in love with me!

I’ve often joked she’d make a wonderful partner as she’s a great cook, independent, a good conversationalist and we have a lot of common interests. She’s also a dark-haired, clear-skinned amazon who stands six feet tall with no shoes on. In fact, the only reason we’re not a match made in heaven is she is a she and so am I, and neither of us are that way inclined.

However, even Miss G had no idea of the depth of my depression and despair at the beginning of 2011, or that I was having a daily conversation to stop myself from downing pills in my house. Even with her I couldn’t share how far I’d sunk.

I felt that I was becoming one of those ‘all mouth, no trousers’ people, even though the chatter was only in my head. I felt literally and physically stuck, which for such an action-oriented person was a very unfamiliar feeling."

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Table of Contents

    The Best Laid Plans...
    The Start of the 50 Dates
    Date #1: Chris – Life Is A Rollercoaster
    Date #2: Sam – Making Out At The Drive-In
    Date #3: Diego – Allergies And Rock Concerts
    New Mexico, Texas, Oklahoma and Arkansas
    Date #4: Nathan – Scary Stalker Material
    Dates #5&6: Dylan And Tom – Vegetarians And Memorials
    Date #7: Josh – Another Ex-Girlfriend On The List?

    Date #8: Steven – You Missed Out On Some Great Hickory-Smoked Ribs!
    Date #9: Richard – I Need A Coke Hit!
    Date #10: Max – Music And Magic In New Orleans
    Date #11: Adrian – Safety First
    Date #12: Mark – Three’s A Crowd, Leave Your Smart Phone At Home
    Date #13: Phil – Art And Truck-Driving
    California again... and Nevada!
    Date #14: Sam – The Official Date In Las Vegas
    A Military Operation
    Date #15: Andrew – Jumping Straight Back On The Horse
    Washington D.C.
    Date #16: Luke – A Walk In The Park
    Virginia, North Carolina, South Carolina, New York, Pennsylvania, New Jersey and Delaware
    Dates #17-23: Too Many To Mention
    Wisconsin, Indiana, Michigan
    Date #26: Jacob – Moonwalking in Gary, Indiana
    Date #27: Roger – The Job Interview
    Minnesota, North Dakota, Idaho, Utah
    Date #28: Roberto – The Restorer Of Faith
    Omaha, Iowa, South Dakota, Montana, Wyoming, West Virginia, Ohio, Kentucky, Missouri, Kansas and Colorado... Phew!
    Dates #34-36: Toby – Banter And Bickering In The Badlands
    Date #43: Jonny – Swimming With The Sharks
    Date #44: José – My Unofficial Date
Back in the UK with my family
    Mexico again... and 8 of the 9 states
    New Hampshire, Vermont, Maine, Massachusetts, Rhode Island, Connecticut, Oregon and Washington
    Date #45-50: Charlie – Charlie And The Hot Chocolate Factories of New England
    Date #51-52: Harry And Ian – I Left My Heart In...

    Date #53: José – My Last Official Date
    The Final Stage of the Positive Change Formula
    Life After 50 Dates
    Kick-start the Positive

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 10, 2013

    Save your money, unless you enjoy bad writing. Sounds like an ad

    Save your money, unless you enjoy bad writing. Sounds like an adventure but she should have hired a ghost writer.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 29, 2013

    I read ¿50 Dates in 50 States¿ over the course of one weekend ¿

    I read “50 Dates in 50 States” over the course of one weekend – stealing moments to read as much as I could when I was forced to put it down to drive or talk to family and friends.
    From the moment I finished the book I felt the urge to start again from the beginning, so that I could consider more carefully the principles that Brocklehurst developed to change her life for the better.
    “50 Dates” is a lively - and frequently very funny - journey of self-discovery across America, and Brocklehurst deftly navigates the intersection between memoir, travelogue and self-help book.
    Even though Brocklehurst’s voice is often playful, what lingers after you finish reading the book is a sense her wisdom – an insight developed the hard way, during difficult times, while suffering from terrible grief.
    “50 Dates” is a must read for anyone who has suffered loss – or is lost themselves.
    I pick up “50 Dates” whenever I need to remind myself that we all have the power and responsibility to follow our dreams and pursue what we love – even if they take us halfway across the world.

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