The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families

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by Stephen R. Covey

ISBN-10: 0307440087

ISBN-13: 9780307440082

Pub. Date: 01/28/1997

Publisher: St. Martin's Press

Sharing insightful, often poignant or humorous experiences from his own life and also from the lives of many families who are striving to live these principles, Covey teaches you how you can become an agent of change in your family; create a family mission statement - a compelling, unifying expression of shared vision and values; make family a priority, even in the…  See more details below


Sharing insightful, often poignant or humorous experiences from his own life and also from the lives of many families who are striving to live these principles, Covey teaches you how you can become an agent of change in your family; create a family mission statement - a compelling, unifying expression of shared vision and values; make family a priority, even in the midst of a turbulent world; work together effectively to come up with new, third-alternative solutions; and shift your focus from survival (barely making it yourselves) to significance (making a real difference in your family and in the world).

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Table of Contents


Title Page,
Copyright Notice,
A Personal Message,
Foreword by Sandra Merrill Covey,
You're Going to Be "Off Track" 90 Percent of the Time. So What?,
Habit 1: Be Proactive Becoming an Agent of Change in Your Family,
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind Developing a Family Mission Statement,
Habit 3: Put First Things First Making Family a Priority in a Turbulent World,
Habit 4: Think "Win-Win" Moving from "Me" to "We",
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand ... Then to Be Understood Solving Family Problems Through Empathic Communication,
Habit 6: Synergize Building Family Unity Through Celebrating Differences,
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw Renewing the Family Spirit Through Traditions,
From Survival ... to Stability ... to Success ... to Significance,
Problem/Opportunity Index,
About Franklin Covey Company,
7 Habits Diagram and Definitions,
Also by Stephen R. Covey,
About the Author,

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The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families 4.1 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 15 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I got this book because I wanted to 'fix' my family. My kids are approaching their teens and we seemed to be going in all directions, but never really being a family. My husband and I are happily married but we weren't putting what we should into our relationship. Instead of fixing my family, I immediately saw that I needed to fix me first. I wish I had read this before I got married. The first year of marriage would have been much easier and I would have been better prepared when the kids came along.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Covey encourages every parent to do some soul searching to become aware as to what really is priority in life. Then, he suggests we put ¿first things first.¿ I believe that most parents would admit that they do wish to have "FAMILY" comes first--above all else. But, in today's busy, often stressful daily routine of life, accomplishing that goal is often "easier said than done". Covey clearly points out the essentials...such as establishing effective communication lines through family meetings and one-on-one talks with the kids. He makes so much sense as he describes with personal anecdotes how love, values, morality, and empathy for others is a process of teaching and learning from "the inside out" other words from within the family rippling out to society at large. He talks about establishing a family mission statement and helps to direct moms and dads to find the courage and the skills to make changes for the better. Covey's book creates the mindset and the outline. If you have young kids like me, I recommend a perfect compliment `how-to book¿ with Covey¿s ¿ called ¿THE POCKET PARENT.¿ This little book is loaded with compassion and humor along with hundreds of specific tips and skills to try. It literally trouble-shoots many of the problem behaviors we deal with daily¿such as Angry outbursts, Bedtime, Mealtime and Clean-up refusals, Tantrums, Disrespectful attitude, the ¿Gimmes¿, Morning ¿Crazies¿, Whining, Sibling fights and many more. These 2 books (one more theoretical, the other more "hands on" practical) have changed our lives. We now have more peace and cooperation in our family---and that gives us more time to enjoy each other. Consider both books!
Guest More than 1 year ago
Having attempted to read 'Seven Habits of Highly Effective People', I wondered how reader-friendly this book would be. Since I believe that the original Seven Habits are good, I thought I'd try reading the family version. Once I started reading, I was hooked: even a 'functional' family such as my own can learn and grow from incorporating the information found in this book. Easy to read and also easy to teach to other family members: at the end of each chapter is a guide to teaching either teenagers/adults or children/toddlers. My children range in age from 12 to 2, and there are teaching strategies that helped each family member to enjoy and--I hope--learn from each chapter's 'lesson'. I'm thinking of giving copies to everyone I know for Christmas!
Mitton More than 1 year ago
I’ve resisted the Stephen Covey bandwagon: his particular presentation doesn’t appeal to me. His books – to me – read a bit too much like tracts. And the sappy stories and drawings kind of freak me out. I have an overall sense that he is restraining his desire to preach, to lead me to salvation, to shout ‘AMEN!’ But I won’t for one single second deny that he has an unusual insight and wisdom pertaining to success and purpose. So I read The Seven Habits for Families. There is a lot in here. So much so that I think this is almost better used as a reference book – something to page through every now and then to mull over for a few days. From my vantage the real value of the book comes in the first few chapters when Covey explores the stimulus-pause-response cycle. Something happens – a child breaks a vase or a dad gets a bonus and we have an inclination to act. Act now. To be in the moment, so to speak. Covey takes some pages to show that this space between action and response is where we are able to direct our futures. Our decisions about how to respond set up our future circumstances. It’s a cycle that we can use to point our lives in a direction of our choosing. Through the rest of the book he focuses on the Seven Habits with applications for families: priorities, relationships, family and personal growth. He spends a good amount of time on the family business plan: putting together a real document that outlines a family’s core principles, priorities, and goals. Take this with a grain of salt and adjust it to your family situation. Other reviewers point out that a family is not a business or a sports team. True enough. But the truism sums it up: it’s easy to get there when you don’t know where you are going. The family plan is an opportunity to talk about what is important and to set common goals. Nothing has to be written in stone. Real business plans certainly aren’t. They set goals and develop plans for how to reach them and then, at regular intervals, assess how they are doing and make requisite changes. I was impressed that Covey stresses that this is not something that is to be churned out in a weekend by dad – it’s not a rule book. He cautions that everyone in the family must be able to take the time they need to think hard about how they and their desires fit into the family. It’s clear to me that the plan is well in play when you simply start thinking about it. The book settles nicely into Covey’s folksy, ah shucks writing style. It’s easy to read and easy to digest. Some will call it wishful thinking – this is the new millennium after all. Families look different, entertainment looks different, you can have an electronic pet if you prefer. But I think Covey would say that we still want the same thing: parents want their children to grow up to be kind and respectful. We want to enjoy meaningful time with our family and friends. Children want to be understood and listened to. Though the times change human nature remains the same. People come to these kinds of books with different expectations. For some the book will provide a few useful tips for navigating your family toward a known goal. Others will find it a godsend of wisdom. I find it hard to imagine a family that couldn’t benefit from a reading of the Habits for Families.
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Busy__Mom More than 1 year ago
I purchased this summary from after my daughter told me that one of her teachers was using the teen version (7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens) as part of the curriculum in one of her classes in school. She told me how much she felt she was learning, and I thought that if she felt that way, then surely the "grown up" version would be helpful to me. I was right, and both summaries were very helpful to both myself and my 14 year old daughter.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
it is good for some one who need a good family and need to enjoy with thier life
Guest More than 1 year ago
Any help we can get these days to strengthen families is a great thing. This book is an excellent tool to help families get to that place where the family nurtures and strengthens the child.
Guest More than 1 year ago
In introducing '7 Habits for Highly Effective Families,' Covey writes that societal forces have changed, and that we can no longer rely on a family-friendly society to help us with our families. That approach, which he termed the 'outside-in' approach was useful in the middle of the 20th century. But at the turn of the century, when societal forces are combining to undermine the family, Covey argues that we need an 'inside-out' approach, where we take greater care as parents to create a family culture that encourages goodness, morality and love.

With that premise in mind, Covey applies the 7 Habits to family life. I'm not familiar with the 7 Habits as they are applied to individuals, but as I've tried to apply them in my family I've been impressed by the results. As a husband and father, I feel as if I now have a set of tools to build and strengthen my family, and an understanding of how to use them.