The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Teens

The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Teens

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by Sean Covey
     
 

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Being a teenager is both wonderful and challenging. In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, author Sean Covey applies the timeless principles of the 7 Habits to teens and the tough issues and life-changing decisions they face. In an entertaining style, Covey provides a step-by-step guide to help teens improve self-image, build friendships, resist peer…  See more details below

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Being a teenager is both wonderful and challenging. In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, author Sean Covey applies the timeless principles of the 7 Habits to teens and the tough issues and life-changing decisions they face. In an entertaining style, Covey provides a step-by-step guide to help teens improve self-image, build friendships, resist peer pressure, achieve their goals, get along with their parents, and much more. In addition, this book is stuffed with cartoons, clever ideas, great quotes, and incredible stories about real teens from all over the world. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens will engage teenagers unlike any other book.

An indispensable book for teens, as well as parents, grandparents, and any adult who influences young people, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens is destined to become the last word on surviving and thriving as a teen and beyond.

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ISBN-13:
9781416595861
Publisher:
Touchstone
Publication date:
01/18/2011
Sold by:
SIMON & SCHUSTER
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
288
Sales rank:
85,857
File size:
14 MB
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This product may take a few minutes to download.
Age Range:
12 - 17 Years

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Get in the Habit

They make you or break you

Welcome! My name is Sean and I wrote this book, I don't know how you got it. Maybe your mom gave it to you to shape you up. Or maybe you bought it with your own money because the title caught your eye. Regardless of how it landed in your hands, I'm really glad it did. Now you just need to read it.

A lot of teens read books, but I wasn't one of them. (I did read several Cliffs Notes book summaries, however.) So if you're like me, you may be ready to shelve this book. But before you do that, hear me out. If you promise to read this book, I'll promise to make it an adventure. In fact, to keep it fun, I've stuffed it full of cartoons, clever ideas, great quotes, and incredible stories about real teens from all over the world...along with a few other surprises. So will you give it a try?

Okay? Okay!

Now, back to the book. This book is based on another book that my dad, Stephen R. Covey, wrote several years ago entitled The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Surprisingly, that book has become one of the bestselling books of all time. He owes a lot of the credit for its success to me and my brothers
and sisters, however. You see, we were his guinea pigs. He tried out all of his psycho experiments on us, and that's why my brothers and sisters have major emotional problems (just kidding, siblings). Luckily, I escaped uninjured.

So why did I write this book? I wrote it because life for teens is no longer a playground. It's a jungle out there. And if I've done my job right, this book can be like a compass to help you navigate through it. In addition, unlike my dad's book, which was written for old people (and can get really boring at times), this book was written especially for teens and is always interesting.

Although I'm a retired teenager, I remember what it was like to be one. I could have sworn I was riding an emotional roller coaster most of the time. Looking back, I'm actually amazed that I survived. Barely. I'll never forget the time in seventh grade when I first fell in love with a girl named Nicole. I told my friend Clar to tell her that I liked her (I was too scared to speak directly to girls so I used interpreters). Clar completed his mission and returned and reported.

"Hey, Sean, I told Nicole that you liked her."

"What'd she say!?" I giggled.

"She said, 'Ooohhh, Sean. He's fat!'"

Clar laughed. I was devastated. I felt like crawling into a hole and never coming out again. I vowed to hate girls for life. Luckily my hormones prevailed and I began liking girls again.

I suspect that some of the struggles that teens have shared with me are also familiar to you:

"There's too much to do and not enough time. I've got school, homework, job, friends, parties, and family on top of everything else. I'm totally stressed out. Help!"

"How can I feel good about myself when I don't match up? Everywhere I look I am reminded that someone else is smarter or prettier, or more popular I can't help but think, 'If I only had her hair, her clothes, her personality, her boyfriend, then I'd be happy.'"

"I feel as if my life is out of control."

"My family is a disaster. If I could only get my parents off my back I might be able to live my life. It seems they're constantly nagging, and I can't ever seem to satisfy them."

"I know I'm not living the way I should. I'm into everything -- drugs, drinking, sex, you name it. But when I'm with my friends, I give in and just do what everyone else is doing."

"I've started another diet. I think it's my fifth one this year I really do want to change, but I just don't have the discipline to stick with it. Each time I start a new diet I have hope. But it's usually only a short time before I blow it. And then I feel awful."

"I'm not doing too well in school right now. If I don't get my grades up I'll never get into college."

"I'm moody and get depressed often and I don't know what to do about it."


These problems are real, and you can't turn off real life. So I won't try. Instead, I'll give you a set of tools to help you deal with real life. What are they? The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens or, said another way, the seven characteristics that happy and successful teens the world over have in common.

By now, you're probably wondering what these habits are so I might as well end the suspense. Here they are, followed by a brief explanation:

Habit 1: Be Proactive
Take responsibility for your life.

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
Define your mission and goals in life.

Habit 3: Put First Things First
Prioritize, and do the most important things first.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Have an everyone-can-win attitude.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Listen to people sincerely.

Habit 6: Synergize
Work together to achieve more.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Renew yourself regularly.

As the above diagram shows, the habits build upon each other. Habits 1, 2, and 3 deal with self-mastery. We call it the "private victory." Habits 4, 5, and 6 deal with relationships and teamwork. We call it the "public victory." You've got to get your personal act together before you can be a good team player. That's why the private victory comes before the public victory. The last habit, Habit 7, is the habit of renewal. It feeds all of the other six habits.

The habits seem rather simple, don't they? But just wait till you see how powerful they can be! One great way to understand what the 7 Habits are is to understand what they are not. So here are the opposites, or:

The 7 Habits of Highly Defective Teens

Habit 1: React
Blame all of your problems on your parents, your stupid teachers or professors, your lousy neighborhood, your boy- or girlfriend, the government, or something or somebody else. Be a victim. Take no responsibility for your life. Act like an animal. If you're hungry, eat. If someone yells at you, yell back. If you feel like doing something you know is wrong, just do it.

Habit 2: Begin with No End in Mind
Don't have a plan. Avoid goals at all costs. And never think about tomorrow. Why worry about the consequences of your actions? Live for the moment. Sleep around, get wasted, and party on, for tomorrow we die.

Habit 3: Put First Things LastarWhatever is most important in your life, don't do it until you have spent sufficient time watching reruns, talking endlessly on the phone, surfing the Net, and lounging around. Always put off your homework until tomorrow. Make sure that things that don't matter always come before things that do.

Habit 4: Think Win-Lose
See life as a vicious competition. Your classmate is out to get you, so you'd better get him or her first. Don't let anyone else succeed at anything because, remember, if they win, you lose. If it looks like you're going to lose, however, make sure you drag that sucker down with you.

Habit 5: Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to Listen
You were born with a mouth, so use it. Make sure you talk a lot. Always express your side of the story first. Once you're sure everyone understands your views, then pretend to listen by nodding and saying "uh-huh." Or, if you really want their opinion, give it to them.

Habit 6: Don't Cooperate
Let's face it, other people are weird because they're different from you. So why try to get along with them? Teamwork is for the dogs. Since you always have the best ideas, you are better off doing everything by yourself. Be your own island.

Habit 7: Wear Yourself Out
Be so busy with life that you never take time to renew or improve yourself. Never study. Don't learn anything new. Avoid exercise like the plague. And, for heaven's sake, stay away from good books, nature, or anything else that may inspire you.

As you can see, the habits listed above are recipes for disaster. Yet many of us indulge in them...regularly (me included). And, given this, it's no wonder that life can really stink at times.

WHAT EXACTLY ARE HABITS?

Habits are things we do repeatedly. But most of the time we are hardly aware that we have them. They're on autopilot.

Some habits are good, such as:


  • Exercising regularly
  • Planning ahead
  • Showing respect for others


Some are bad, like:


  • Thinking negatively
  • Feeling inferior
  • Blaming others


And some don't really matter, including:


  • Taking showers at night
  • Eating yogurt with a fork
  • Reading magazines from back to front


Depending on what they are, our habits will either make us or break us. We become what we repeatedly do. As writer Samuel Smiles put it:

Sow a thought, and you reap an act;
Sow an act, and you reap a habit;
Sow a habit, and you reap a character;
Sow a character, and you reap a destiny.


Luckily, you are stronger than your habits. Therefore, you can change them. For example, try folding your arms. Now try folding them in the opposite way. How does this feel? Pretty strange, doesn't it? But if you folded them in the opposite way for thirty days in a row, it wouldn't feel so strange. You wouldn't even have to think about it. You'd get in the habit.

At any time you can look yourself in the mirror and say, "Hey, I don't like that about myself," and you can exchange a bad habit for a better one. It's not always easy, but it's always possible.

Not every idea in this book will work for you. But you don't have to be perfect to see results, either. Just living some of the habits some of the time can help you experience changes in your life you never thought possible.

The 7 Habits can help you:


  • Get control of your life
  • Improve your relationships with your friends
  • Make smarter decisions
  • Get along with your parents
  • Overcome addiction
  • Define your values and what matters most to you
  • Get more done in less time
  • Increase your self-confidence
  • Be happy
  • Find balance between school work, friends, and everything else


One final point. It's your book, so use it. Get out a pencil, pen, or highlighter and mark it up. Don't be afraid to underline, highlight, or circle your favorite ideas. Take notes in the margins. Scribble. Reread the stories that inspire you. Memorize the quotes that give you hope. Try doing the "baby steps" at the end of each chapter, which were designed to help you start living the habits immediately. You'll get a lot more out of the book if you do.

You may also want to call or visit some of the hotlines and Web sites I have listed at the back of the book for additional help or information.

If you're the kind of reader who likes to skip around looking for cartoons and other interesting tidbits, that's just fine. But at some point you ought to read the book from start to finish, because the 7 Habits are sequential. They all build on each other. Habit 1 comes before Habit 2 (and so on) for a reason.

Copyright © 1998 by Franklin Covey Co.

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Meet the Author

Sean Covey is Executive Vice President of Global Solutions and Partnerships for FranklinCovey. He is a New York Times bestselling author and has written several books, including The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make, The 7 Habits of Happy Kids, The 4 Disciplines of Execution, and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, which has been translated into twenty languages and sold over five million copies worldwide.

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The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Teens 4.1 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 240 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
OK, my mom made me read the book. I was really surprised! I realy liked it and once I started reading, I couldn't stop! This book provides lots of good tips on how to stay organized and an efficient person. It helped me make the right choices in the difficult life of a teen. I definatly reccomend this book to all of my friends and to teens. Parents, BUY THIS FOR YOUR KIDS! MAKE THEM READ IT! THEY WILL LIKE IT EVEN THO THEY MAY NOT ADMIT IT!
Guest More than 1 year ago
this book was great, and if u read the other reviews saying thats it didnt help them it was because they didnt want it to help them, but if ur open to it and actualy take ur time its very i helpful i loved it :]
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book helps teens tune their lives for happiness. This book helped me put things into perspective, and I realized what I need to work on in my life. Highly Recommended!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I was tired of battling with my teen... instead of punishment for poor attitude, I redirected them through reading this book a chapter at a time - then discussing it together... abd now we are working through more together. Can't complain about that!
Knowledge_Reigns_Supreme More than 1 year ago
I would recommend this book to all teens. It offers insight and guidance and lets us see things from different point of views that we may not have seen before. This book is very helpful and definitely well put together. Highly recommended!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
My daughter's class used this book to help seventh graders look at their lives and try to organize themselves. She found that working through the book was so rewarding that she continued on her own at home by completing the acompanying workbook. The book provides a great foundation for discussion with your maturing kids.
Guest More than 1 year ago
The reason why I first read this book was because I had lied to my parents when I was in 7th grade and this book caught my dad's eye so he wanted me to read it. When I started reading it, I had an extremely closed mind and even before I had barely started it I decided that I wasn't going to like it. Then, very slowly, I started to like it and listen to what Sean Covey was saying. By the end, I was sad that it was over. Now, I'm going to be a sophomore and I have already re-read it and gave it to my younger sister for her to read. The second time around, it was even better! I really loved this book! I also liked how it had cartoons and stories in it to make it interesting! All teenagers should read this book!!!!
acherry202 More than 1 year ago
I wanted my son to read this book so I purchased 2. One for me and one for him and we are reading it together and I have him answer questions after each chapter. I am really enjoying the book. My son thinks of it as homework so I am not sure how much he is getting out of it but I know he will get something out of it.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is very helpful for you, if you are the person that needs to get back on track with yourself. Throughout the text, it describes how to approach things in calmly manner and to stay in a positive attidtude in order to accomplish the tasks.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I'm 15, and I absolutly LOVED this book! I couldn't stop reading! It is perfect, I felt like he was accually talking to the reader and truly sharing. I would and HAVE recommended this book to any teenagers! No matter how great your life is.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is very motivational. It teaches teens how to deal with the pressure and hardships of their life. This book helps teens to realize that no matter how horrible their life may seem, there is always someone who treads a darker, harder road. I would reccomend this book for anyone, even adults, becuase you learn self control, self improvement, and most of all, to love your life. Anybody could use a bit of comfort! The only problem is that Sean Covey may give the impression that a teen has to be perfect. However when reading this book you will realize that he does not mean for you to be pristine, just to improve yourself so you can shine.
Nina Elise More than 1 year ago
im a preteen and i hav to read this book as an assignment/book report and IT IS REALLY GOOD!!!!!!!!!!! it helps me SOOOOOOOOOO much with orginazation, emotions, school, and everything else!!!! Thank you sooo much, sean covey, for eriting this awesomely awesome book!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Clear, simple for parents' reference.
Guest More than 1 year ago
first time i tried reading the book, i was like, oh no this guy's judging me and i wont let him do it. so i slammed it shut and tried to never flip through it again. until finally, some comments bugged me hard on certain soft spots and i gave in. FINE! so i read and read, and man was he right. now that i gave in to let his words sink in,i realized it was kind of funny, when you really think about it. i really recomend this book to people of all ages. this book will give you wise advice and great realizations in life. it's funny, 'real ', and very informative. you definitely will enjoy the book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens By: Sean Covey For a grade I give this book an A+. This book changed my life. I read it because I had to. At first, I thought this book was going to be stupid. As I read it I soon had noticed how successful this would be to me and realized that I was already changing. It provided me with advice on how to get through life, making friends and study skills. It talked about how to treat people the right way. My grades where getting better, and I was actually doing good in school. This book motivated me to do well and I have achieved many things because of it. I recommend this book to not only teens but to anyone out there who can read.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I loved this book. It really helped me to think positively and get my life back on track!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book for a book report in English. At first I was just reading it to get it over with, but then I got into it. I could relate my life to this book much more easily than to other books similar to it. I have read a couple of the Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul books, but none of them were as good as this one. I really enjoyed this book, and I leared a lot from it. I honestly think I have become a better person becuase of this book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I had to read this book as a Sophmore for school, and I thought I was going to hate it. But it was written for teenagers in language they actually understand. I highlighted information I wanted to use and it helped me a lot. My self esteem boosted because I realized 'I can' do the things I wanted to do in my life. Looking back, now a Senior, this was something I needed to give my self esteem the extra push it needed. I'm highly confident now and I rule the world! (Well my world anyways) I'm giving this to my 8th grade brother for Christmas...I know he'll appreciate it as much as I did
Guest More than 1 year ago
The reason why I read the book is because it was a class requirement on my booklist. At the beginning I thought it was going to be a dull book but when I actually read the book it helped me out a lot. I think this book is really an ultimate success guide for teenagers. I would recommend this book to all the people who think life is a joke and don't take responsibility for their life.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Every parent should pick up a copy of this book! Teaching teens the importance of a good self-image, as well as tips on how to resist peer pressure is a priceless asset for teenagers. Very few books of this calibre are available and I would strongly recommend it for teachers, counselors, or any adult who works with teens.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I am 26 and I remember reading this book 7 years ago. I was having troubles throughout Jr. High and High School and within my own family.  I had a lot going on and not knowing in what direction to turn to.  I was heading down a miserable path.   Finally I visited my high school counselor and talked to her about my troubles and she asked me what I wanted to do.  I told her what I wanted out of life and she recommended this book to me.  She had me read this book each chapter I had to read  and write down the questions and answer these questions honestly of what I thought and turn it in to her when I was done and we would talk about each chapter and what it meant to me.   This was something that I was to do in my own time.  I chose to read this book and fell in love with it.  It made me feel as though I could accomplish my goals and look into a better light of things.  This book definitely changed me and made me who I am today.  I am always looking to better myself and follow these steps.  I recommend this book to any teenager who wants to change their habits and see a path that anything is possible.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is saying things that i have thougth about and how i feel. I belive that all are even some teenagers can relate to this book. am only 14years old .and yes everything this book said is what your thinking about doing or your doing. If you are.am not judgeing you.do you ok i got nothing to do about it. Yes i know every teenager got so mad at your mom and dad so bad that you wish what will life be like if they did not have you yes its normal to feel that way we all have. If your a teenager you need to read this book to encorege you. So far it has encorge me and made me look at myslfe for secound. Dont read the bad rates they dont know what they are talking about. READ THIS BOOK please its good for you.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I read this a looong time ago when i was 15.. i remembered it helped me so much as a teenager. I was going thru a rough patch as many high schoolers do, & it helped to see what was important & got my head back out if a funk. It was assigned for my leadership class & im so glad that it was. I still have my copy 15 yrs l8r & im thinkin of reading it again as my oldest is turning 11 i want to refresh on it & have him read it soon. Maybe it will help me again. I will surely have all 4 of my kids read it. Ill probly hav my sitter read it too:)
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book had some great, very helpful advice. But there were sime sections that could use a little help being more interesting. Just sayin
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have only read a few pages of this book and i have already found it very helpful. I hope you read and find it as helpful as i have.