A Complete Guide for Single Moms: Everything You Need to Know about Raising Healthy, Happy Children on Your Own


Recent statistics from the U.S. Census Bureau show there are over 9 million single mothers in the United States. For every mother recently finding herself single or new moms learning how to raise their first child by themselves, there are countless things any mother will need to know. Single motherhood presents innumerable situations that are much harder to handle without the helping hands of a second parent nearby.

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Recent statistics from the U.S. Census Bureau show there are over 9 million single mothers in the United States. For every mother recently finding herself single or new moms learning how to raise their first child by themselves, there are countless things any mother will need to know. Single motherhood presents innumerable situations that are much harder to handle without the helping hands of a second parent nearby.

This book is for every mother who is learning how to raise children on her own. Regardless of how you came to be a single mom — whether it was through divorce, the end of a relationship, surrogacy, adoption, unplanned pregnancy, or the death of a spouse — this book will walk you through the information you need to know to help you and your child adjust to a new lifestyle. The book covers what to do when pregnant and single and how to rely on your family and friends for support and help.

You will learn the basics of early Child care, including what a child needs in his or her first year, from breastfeeding and diapers, to clothing and travel. You will learn what to expect as your child grows, including the early years of school and the problematic teenage years.

This book teaches you how to take care of yourself in addition to your children, which includes getting the rest you need and working you way back into dating. You will learn how to prepare yourself for the sacrifices you will be forced to make and how to handle financial matters while raising a child alone. Even the difficult topics are covered, such as the first times you must discuss with your child why his or her father is not present.

You will learn when you can fill in as a father figure, when you cannot, and what you can do to provide the male influence and support children need during those formative years. If your child’s father is involved, this book will teach you how to work with him. You will learn how to raise a boy as a single mother and find positive role models for your children.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781601383976
  • Publisher: Atlantic Publishing Group Inc.
  • Publication date: 4/30/2011
  • Pages: 288
  • Sales rank: 1,041,927
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.90 (d)

Table of Contents

Introduction 11

The Secret to Single Motherhood 7

Chapter 1 I'm a Single Mom -Now What? 15

Accepting Your Circumstances 17

A Single Mother By Choice 19

Taking the Next Step 21

Your First Choice - To Tell or Not to Tell 22

Planning for Change 23

Creating Short-Term and Long-Term Plans 24

Chapter 2 Finding Support for Your New Lifestyle 29

Don't Be Afraid to Ask 30

Who Will You Turn to for Support? 31

Figuring Out Where Family Fits 33

All Types of Friends 34

Deciding Whether to Involve Your Child's Father 36

Involving a Child's Birth Mother or Surrogate 38

Making Your Own Choices 40

Other Sources for Support 41

Where to Turn for Health Insurance 43

Chapter 3 A Baby Is On The Way 47

Choosing Physicians and Medical Care 47

When Expecting, What to Expect 51

Birthing Locations 52

Birthing Centers 53

Home Births 54

Labor Coaches and Partners 56

Bringing Baby Home 57

Baby-proofing 62

Every Mother Needs to Adjust 64

Not Just the Baby Blues 66

Chapter 4 Adjustment for All - Settling into Single Motherhood 71

Times Are Changing 74

Strategies for Adjusting 74

Get Proper Rest 74

Get Involved 75

First Step to Adjusting - For Your Children 75

Choosing Child Care 81

Asking Family Members 84

Finding In-Home Child Care 84

At-Home Day Care 85

Larger Day Care Facilities 86

Child Care Options At Work 87

Work Schedule Options 88

Considering Career Changes 89

Becoming Your Own Boss 91

Pursuing Further Education 92

Chapter 5 The Other Half - My Child's Father 99

Forgive and Forget 107

Co-plan to Co-parent 108

Do Not Play Telephone 112

Lay Down The Law - Together 112

Take the High Road 113

Answering the Tough Questions 115

Visitation 121

In-Laws Do Not Have to Become Outlaws 124

Times of Celebration 127

When All Else Fails 129

When Daddy Disappears 130

Chapter 6 The Green Giant - Financial Affairs 137

Take Stock 140

Create a Manageable Budget 141

Cash Envelopes 144

Cutting Expenses 146

Food Expenses 146

Reducing Frivolous Spending 148

Cutting Down On Bills 150

Becoming A Bargain Diva 152

Hold An Exchange 153

Rid Yourself of Debt 154

Creating Savings 160

Life Insurance 162

Avoiding Scams 163

Ask for Advice 163

Chapter 7 Sons & Daughters - Ages, Stages, Gender Roles, and Issues 167

Ages and Stages: What to Expect at Each Stage 167

Five Stages of Childhood 169

Early Childhood 169

Middle Childhood 170

Adolescence 170

Gender Norms 170

Raising Sons 172

Dealing With Daughters 177

A Weighty Subject 178

Sons and Daughters 180

Establishing Authority 181

Dare to be a Disciplinarian 183

Let's Talk About Sex 186

Role Models 188

Chapter 8 Establishing Lifelines - Support Systems 195

Mommy Maintenance 198

Medical Maintenance 200

Rest 201

Nutrition 203

Exercise 204

Learning to Say "No" 206

No Guilt Trips 207

Differentiating Between Needs and Wants 208

Bending Beats Breaking 208

Maintenance Options 209

Get Out! 212

The Learning Curve 213

Instant Support 214

"Therapy" for Your Kids 215

Listening is Imperative 218

Children in Need of Support 219

Two are Sometimes Better Than One 224

Playmates 226

Chapter 9 Leaving the Old Maid At Home - Entering the World of Dating 229

Dating and All Its Dilemmas 229

Somewhere Out There 234

Butterflies and Sweaty Palms 236

The Big Decision - The Big Revelation 239

Who is This Person? 241

Expect the unexpected 243

Introductions all around 244

PDA 246

Chapter 10 Somewhere Over the Rainbow- The Future 249

Planning Your Success 251

Establishing Goals 252

Reaching your goals 253

Conquering Doubt 255

Preparing for the Future 256

Flee From Negative Thinking 256

Success, Imagination, Perspiration 258

Conclusion: Single Mothers' Words of Wisdom 261

Appendix A Pregnancy Preparedness Checklist 265

Appendix B Resources 134

Bibliography 275

Author Biography 279

Index 281

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  • Posted August 10, 2011

    An extremely thorough presentation of the aspects of single motherhood

    Now more than ever in our present society, it's completely normal to see single parents taking on the task of raising children on their own. Whether by choice through adoption or surrogacy or by surprise via an unplanned pregnancy, divorce, or death of a partner, the goal remains to successfully nurture the child to adulthood. For those single moms out there that feel alone in their situation and unsure in how to do it all on their own, author Janis Adams has many of those answers in her new book. "A Complete Guide for Single Moms: Everything You Need to Know About Raising Healthy, Happy Children on Your Own" is an all-inclusive collection of solutions, advice, and support for women finding themselves in the position of 'mom', no matter how they got there in the first place. Information is presented from all sides - adoption, divorce, death, etc - and gently guides the parent through a myriad of age groups, issues, gender specific considerations (ie. raising a son vs. a daughter), and much, much more. Most of the suggestions given are not only good common sense practices but applicable to any parent - male or female, single or couple. The book makes me think of "What to Expect When You're Expecting" but with language and various nuances focused on the single mom specifically and gives you much more than just the pregnancy aspects of motherhood. "A Complete Guide for Single Moms" is a wonderful read for any single mother - or any parent for that matter - struggling to balance life with their newfound role of 'primary caregiver'. Adams never strays from a consistently high level of empathy and encouragement as she offers one good piece of advice after another. The book starts at a very basic level in order to encompass any and all potential questions so even those new moms that know absolutely nothing about being a parent will find answers and strength within the pages. More experienced moms may find some of the subject matter a little on the rudimentary side but there is still plenty of information that they may have previously not considered and will find to be rather thought provoking. I especially liked Adams' insistence on mothers maintaining their own health and wellbeing; moms too often forget about themselves in an effort to be a 'super mom'. This often-ignored advice ensures that you are at your best so you have your best to give. Well done! Reviewed by Vicki Landes, author of "Europe for the Senses - A Photographic Journal"

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