A Friend in Need...: How to Help When Times Are Tough

A Friend in Need...: How to Help When Times Are Tough

by Sol Gordon
     
 

Do you know a friend who's in trouble, depressed, seriously ill, or grieving, or whose behavior you feel is terribly wrong? If you don't now, it's likely that you will at some point in the future. When your friends are going though difficult times, they need you most, but it's at just such times that many people are at a loss about what to do or say. You may think,

…  See more details below

Overview

Do you know a friend who's in trouble, depressed, seriously ill, or grieving, or whose behavior you feel is terribly wrong? If you don't now, it's likely that you will at some point in the future. When your friends are going though difficult times, they need you most, but it's at just such times that many people are at a loss about what to do or say. You may think, How can I possibly help in this awful situation? And because you feel helpless, the tendency is to avoid the friend or the reality of his or her situation just when your support would be most appreciated.

Psychologist Sol Gordon has written this sensitive, insightful book to help us to become better friends and to teach us how to deal with the serious problems of those we care most about. He begins by discussing the nature of friendship, its responsibilities and rewards, and the common barriers that often get in the way of even good friendships. He then looks at a variety of challenging situations: violent or abusive relationships, friends with problem children, addiction, depression, suicidal tendencies, bereavement, and terminal illness. Through specific advice, moving real-life stories, and practical resources Gordon shows us how to nurture, understand, laugh, and trust ourselves enough to give our friends the help they need. He also shows how to respond appropriately from the use of "tough love" to the gentle reminder that we are always ready to listen when our friends need to talk.

This is a book that everyone will need at some time in their lives when times are tough. But in the end it is really a book about how to be a good friend.

Read More

Editorial Reviews

School Library Journal
Adult/High School-This is "a primer/ workbook for friendship, using anecdotal evidence as much as hands-on advice to convey the meaning and responsibilities of these relationships." Writing in a warm, informal tone, the author uses personal experiences and related anecdotes to illustrate behaviors conducive to strong friendships. The book is primarily about "When Not to Mind Your Own Business." Gordon explores how to be a good friend to someone who is involved in violent or abusive situations, has an addiction, has a family member who is disabled, is suffering from depression and suicidal behaviors, loses a loved one, or is facing a terminal illness. He writes of the most difficult situation of all-when a suffering friend does things that are alienating. He repeatedly stresses the importance of becoming as informed as possible about a friend's medical or psychological condition. A section of general resources includes publications as well as helpful organizations. A valuable book.-Cynthia J. Rieben, W. T. Woodson High School, Fairfax, VA Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information.
Internet Book Watch
The theme of this book - how to help a friend when they're going through hard times - is important. Gordon describes the nature of friendship and support groups, responsibilities and rewards of being a friend, and barriers which confront even the best of friendships. The meat lies in chapters which present a variety of challenging situations, from abusive relationships to terminal illness and death, describing how friends can overcome obstacles and help.
—Internet Book Watch

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781573927925
Publisher:
Prometheus Books
Publication date:
04/28/2000
Pages:
236
Product dimensions:
5.25(w) x 7.24(h) x 0.68(d)

Related Subjects

Meet the Author

Sol Gordon, Ph.D., is a lecturer, educator, professor emeritus of child and family studies at Syracuse University, and the founding director of the university's Institute for Family Research and Education. He is also the author of many critically acclaimed children's books, including All Families Are Different and Facts about Sex for Today's Youth.

Customer Reviews

Average Review:

Write a Review

and post it to your social network

     

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

See all customer reviews >