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Posted April 30, 2010
Right from first chapter when Holly said "...did I even know what my primary duties were supposed to be?" I knew this was the right book for me as this same thought crossed my own mind. So I kept reading, got out a pencil and was underlining like crazy!
Holly explains that, "A Rule of Life is a traditional Christian tool for ordering one's vocation". You might wonder what that would mean for a stay at home mom like me? Well, she goes on to say in the second chapter that, a Rule of Life is not just a schedule, or a collection of activities but rather an organization of everything that has to do with your vocation. And what is my vocation? My vocation is to be a wife and mother. Holly breaks down a marriage vocation with the Five P's:
First P = Prayer
Second P = Person
Third P = Partner
Fourth P = Parent
Fifth P = Provider
There were a few thought in each section that struck a chord with me.
In the First P = Prayer Sections:
"...instead of never finding enough time for God in the midst of everything else, I had to work everything else around God."
In the Second P = Person Sections:
"...how much sleep I felt my body needed...how much exercise I needed....what types of food..."
In the Third P = Partner Sections:
"...(a) loving marriage is the bedrock of family life."
In the Fourth P = Parenting Sections:
"...my children need me to be mentally available to them...to be fully attentive to them when I am with them...to tone down thoughts of all the projects that filled my head and to make more casual time to talk and laugh and simply be with them."
"A little attention and love, understanding and compassion can radically change a child's general attitude. Let him know he's 'good' and Mummy sees him as good. So often children rise to meet the level of our expectations. If we secretly think of them as rebels, they tend to act like rebels."
In the Fifth P = Provider Sections:
"...both my husband and I are called to provide for our family... in his way by going to work and earning a paycheck...in my way by caring for, maintaining and repairing (as much as possible)..."
"Part of financial stewardship also involves not just avoiding frivolous spending, but recognizing that all we have has been entrusted to us so that we may fulfill our mission to raise our children and even to help those less fortunate than we. This means that we need to distinguish between our essential needs and our excessive wants. For often, rich or poor, we just want more"
In discussing the Rule she also writes, "...there's a deeper and more fundamental level to a Rule of Life that distinguishes it from a mere schedule: the intent and aim of following the Rule. A Rule followed for the practical benefits alone is not a Rule of Life; it is a schedule."
In the last pages of the book she says, "...the most important things are the relationships God has placed in my life." As well as "And believe that if God wants you to do it, he'll empower you." LOVE IT!Isn't that so true!
At the end of every chapter Holly offers exercises to help establish your Rule. Included are charts of what her Rule looks like and at the end of the book she lays out her Rule further in her Spirit of My Mother's Rule of Life. I loved this section. I will be typing out the whole section in putting it on my refrigerator.
Posted April 22, 2010
A Mother's Rule of Life by Holly Pierlot has been such a blessing in my life. I've read it cover to cover. Twice. From the moment I picked it up I knew I had found a book written by a woman who at one point felt the overwhelming stress that I sometimes feel.
The first time I read this book I didn't take a single not or answer any of the questions. I thought about them a lot when I wasn't reading, but I didn't do anything with them. Once I finished it, I went back to page one and read it all again.
The second time through I started answering the questions. I kept a bind filled with paper near me all the time. Whenever I could find a free moment I was reading a bit more and writing a bit more. I even began implementing the bits and pieces of a schedule that were slowly coming out of my answers, notes, and thoughts.
The book divides a mother's priorities into five groups. First is prayer, an area I've often struggled with. Person is second, another thing I've struggled with. Third is partner. Fourth is parent. Fifth is provider. Each area is an important part of our lives, but each needs to be kept in it's place. I had never really considered how much time and energy I should be putting into each piece of my life.
My Rule is still a work in progress. I am slowly building a rule that takes care of all of my needs as well as all of my family's needs. I wish I had this book when I first became a mother. I've always felt called to be home with my children, but I've often felt overwhelmed by everything being at home requires. While I'm nowhere even close to perfection I am starting to feel calmer. I am more patient with my children, more joyful about my work, happier with myself, and more productive during the day. All of this has also helped lift my marriage up because there are fewer days that end with my husband coming home from work to an exhausted, frustrated, overwhelmed, and emotional wife.
If you're a mother you should have this book. The ideas could be used by any mother in any situation. Holly Pierlot shares her story, and offers direction, but ultimately the rule you build is uniquely yours. You build the exact rule you need for your life to be better.
What could possibly be better than having help putting together a custom plan for peace and success in your life?
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this product for free from Sophia Institute Press. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. The product being given away is also being provided by Sophia Institute Press. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 : "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
Posted August 19, 2005
I needed this book now that I have a young child. The time I used to have seems to vanish without knowing where it went. This book gives me a plan! It's working too!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.