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"About Grief is an unorthodox learning approach to a difficult and profoundly human experience. The authors are not physicians or psychologists, so the book is without clinical jargon. It is not a memoir of personal grief, so there is no wrenching saga to work through. And it is not a touchy-feely inspirational book, so, as the authors put it, "There are no doves on the jacket." "Using a variety ofsources from literature, drama, poetry, music, and interviews with grieving persons, the authors distill into plain terms and a user-friendly format

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Overview

"About Grief is an unorthodox learning approach to a difficult and profoundly human experience. The authors are not physicians or psychologists, so the book is without clinical jargon. It is not a memoir of personal grief, so there is no wrenching saga to work through. And it is not a touchy-feely inspirational book, so, as the authors put it, "There are no doves on the jacket." "Using a variety ofsources from literature, drama, poetry, music, and interviews with grieving persons, the authors distill into plain terms and a user-friendly format some of the unspoken discoveries about grief. The book looks past the solemnity of grief to its messier aspects: the practical matters to sort out, the high-maintenance relatives to wrangle, the ugly feelings to vent. And it looks past the sadness of grief to its epiphanies: the personal lessons, the transformations, the intensifications of love. About Grief is composed of four chapters, each made up of straightforward essays that can be read in a single sitting. Chapter 1 explains the new normality that a grieving person experiences (e.g., stigma, presence, empathy), Chapter 2 talks about processing those things honestly (e.g., panic, sentimentality, shame, mistakes). Chapter 3 identifies some of the common consolations that grieving people find to help them soldier on (e.g., indulgence, sports, cynicism, rest). Chapter 4 explores grief's various forms of expression (e.g., self-narrative, gender, religion, music)." "As a bereavement group leader recently said of About Grief, "This book is different. I can't recommend it highly enough." Different in approach, perspective, style." "We begin with a moment from the last scene of Shakespeare's King Lear. In Act V the elderly monarch walks on stage carrying his daughter Cordelia, dead in his arms. This is an iconic image of tragic loss, a metaphor for "the weight of grief." Grief is weight.

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Editorial Reviews

Foreword
About Grief creates a safe haven for the suffering and their family, friends, and co -workers. Placing the book in context, Ron Marasco and Brian Shuff write, 'All the stories and information in this book are here for one reason: to help you realize that you are not the only one.' Their language is contemporary, driving the message home without sugar coating: 'Our aim is to make you feel less lonely, and frankly, less nuts.'
The authors discovered that 'If you talk about grief openly and honestly, people will talk back.' This sentence sets the stage for a book-long conversation about compassionate and insightful thinking. 'We don’t do grief,' writes Joan Didion. 'Yet grief still does us,' state the authors. The cultural imperative to put on a happy face resonates with readers. The implied imperative is to 'act as if,' to pretend that sadness is not part of each minute of each day.
About Grief is a love letter and a sympathy note validating the pain of those coping with loss. For family, friends, and acquaintances of the bereaved the book is a gentle instruction guide.
ForeWord Reviews
About Grief creates a safe haven for the suffering and their family, friends, and co -workers. Placing the book in context, Ron Marasco and Brian Shuff write, 'All the stories and information in this book are here for one reason: to help you realize that you are not the only one.' Their language is contemporary, driving the message home without sugar coating: 'Our aim is to make you feel less lonely, and frankly, less nuts.'
The authors discovered that 'If you talk about grief openly and honestly, people will talk back.' This sentence sets the stage for a book-long conversation about compassionate and insightful thinking. 'We don’t do grief,' writes Joan Didion. 'Yet grief still does us,' state the authors. The cultural imperative to put on a happy face resonates with readers. The implied imperative is to 'act as if,' to pretend that sadness is not part of each minute of each day.
About Grief is a love letter and a sympathy note validating the pain of those coping with loss. For family, friends, and acquaintances of the bereaved the book is a gentle instruction guide.
Library Journal
Marasco (theater, Loyola Marymount Univ.; Notes to an Actor) and Shuff, who has written a screenplay with Marasco, offer a down-to-earth book on grief—hard, messy work, which often is not spoken of in our culture. They first discuss the new normality that a grieving person will experience and then explore being honest with oneself, life with the deceased, and the future. In the third section, the authors identify nine things that can help comfort the grieving (e.g., rest, sports, nature, indulgence). Finally, they cover expressing grief for men and women and those of various religious beliefs, self-expression, and honoring the deceased. The authors use anecdotes and scenes from movies and literature to help guide readers down this often lonely path. VERDICT A truthful, practical, and refreshingly honest look at an often taboo topic. Though this is a quick read, there is a wealth of information contained within the pages that will give comfort to the grieving. For all public libraries.—Phyllis Goodman, West Chester P.L., OH
Loyola Marymount Newsroom
In a mere 198 pages, it unpacks this most universal of events, evoking deep emotions as it takes the reader on a tour of the literature of loss while offering straightforward observations, stories from life (what Marasco calls “these gems”) and practical advice on coping with the death of a loved one.
Foreword Reviews
About Grief creates a safe haven for the suffering and their family, friends, and co -workers. Placing the book in context, Ron Marasco and Brian Shuff write, 'All the stories and information in this book are here for one reason: to help you realize that you are not the only one.' Their language is contemporary, driving the message home without sugar coating: 'Our aim is to make you feel less lonely, and frankly, less nuts.'
The authors discovered that 'If you talk about grief openly and honestly, people will talk back.' This sentence sets the stage for a book-long conversation about compassionate and insightful thinking. 'We don’t do grief,' writes Joan Didion. 'Yet grief still does us,' state the authors. The cultural imperative to put on a happy face resonates with readers. The implied imperative is to 'act as if,' to pretend that sadness is not part of each minute of each day.
About Grief is a love letter and a sympathy note validating the pain of those coping with loss. For family, friends, and acquaintances of the bereaved the book is a gentle instruction guide.
Philip Zimbardo
A brave approach to the subject of grief. Truthful, practical, down-to-earth. This book will help a lot of people.
Beth Henley
There is no other book I know of that comes close to illuminating grief and all that surrounds it with such a clear and honest humanity. Marasco and Shuff embark on a rare exploration of the bone deep truths and unexpected consolations that lie within the mysteries of loss and healing.
Lenore Rogers
After reading this book I felt like I had landed on a planet with my own species!
Arthur Dobrin
This is a helpful book for those in the helping professions who work with people deep in grief. But it is also useful for friends who need guidance in talking to the bereaved. And finally it is a comfort for those experiencing the loss of a loved one. I especially liked the use of poetry and literary quotations. These are often the language of tears, words that speak more deeply and compassionately than any other.
Clifford N. Lazarus
A wonderful, down-to-earth and reader friendly book that discusses an almost universal human experience in a unique and helpful way.
Donna Schuurman
Finally! A book about grief that combines gutsy and honest language with depth, humor, and truth. If you’re grieving the death of a loved one, read this book. If you want to support someone who’s grieving, read this book. About Grief is number one on my ‘recommended reading’ list for anyone who wants a better sense of the real journey of grief.
Robert Zucker
About Grief: Insights, Setbacks, Grace Notes, Taboosis an honest, down-to-earth and extraordinarily creative contribution to the popular literature written for those who grieve. Authors Marasco and Shuff fearlessly delve into subject matter most other self-help writers tend to avoid like the plague (such as the not so unusual urge among some who grieve to indulge in promiscuous sex) while managing to write a respectful, meaningful, and "fun read" about dying and death. This book is never pedantic. In fact, the authors proudly profess not to be grief experts. They are artists and teachers whose understanding and appreciation of the human condition is informed by their love of Shakespeare, modern theater and film, as well as popular memoir, literature and poetry. Their passion for the arts is contagious. The reader is swept up by powerful scenes from works of great writers, with words that reassure, challenge and inspire.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781566638586
  • Publisher: Dee, Ivan R. Publisher
  • Publication date: 9/16/2010
  • Pages: 224
  • Sales rank: 1,370,275
  • Product dimensions: 5.80 (w) x 8.30 (h) x 0.90 (d)

Meet the Author

Ron Marasco is a professor in the College of Communication and Fine Arts at Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles. His first book, Notes to an Actor, was named by the American Library Association an "Outstanding Book of 2008." For the past five years he has taught a very popular course on the subject of grief using film, theatre, literature and oral history as a way to study this often intimidating subject. He has acted extensively on TV—in everything from Lost to West Wing to Entourage -and appeared opposite screen legend Kirk Douglas in the movie Illusion, for which he also wrote the screenplay. He has a BA from Fordham at Lincoln Center and an MA and Ph. D. from UCLA.

Brian Shuff is a writer from Mesa, Arizona, who now lives in Los Angeles where he is at work completing a book of short stories. His mother died when he was eight years old, giving him a life-long interest in the subject of grief. Along with Ron Marasco he has written a screenplay based on Louise Hay's groundbreaking book, You Can Heal Your Life that will premiere in 2011. He and Marasco are also working on a dramatic adaptation of John McNulty's book This Place on Third Avenue.

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Table of Contents

Introduction: A Book About Grief 3

Chapter One The Weight of Grief 11

Heavy 11

Details 15

The Group 20

Stigma 26

Stuff 31

Anvils 37

Chapter Two Processing Honestly 47

The Work 47

Panic 53

Shame 59

Trust 65

Denial 71

Mistakes 76

Sentimentality 82

Humor 89

Chapter Three The Nine Consolations 96

Rest 96

Sports 103

Nature 106

Indulgence 111

Solidarity 116

Cynicism 124

Normalcy 129

Reading 134

Justice 139

Chapter Four Grief Expressing Itself 148

Self-Narrative 148

Men 155

Women 163

Religion 171

Honoring 178

Meaning 185

Acknowledgments 197

Index 199

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  • Posted January 16, 2011

    Excellent (once you can read again)

    An excellent, down-to-earth, practical, compassionate book about grieving. It is greatly comforting. I like the light touch of humor used; there are enough heavy tomes on grief (which are damned hard to read when you actually are grieving). There is no clinical jargon, and no touchy-feely inspirational sentimentality. The authors through gentle insights and a wealth of human shared conditions, referencing film, poetry, literature, art, and examples from numerous mourners, create a sense of the new normal that grievers face while respecting each person's individual needs and unique approach to the way things are now. I found this to be one of the best books I've read on the subject (& I've read quite a few since my brother died). I highly recommend it to anyone who is grieving the loss of a loved one.

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