Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence

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When most people think of domestic violence, images of battered women or abused children come to mind. But there is another side to this issue that is not as familiar—abused men. This unique book is the first to comprehensively examine this important but neglected social issue. Already praised by a diverse spectrum of readers—from Dear Abby's Abigail Van Buren, to the nation's leading domestic violence researcher, to those in law enforcement and counseling—this work is sure to spark controversy and discussion. It...

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Overview

When most people think of domestic violence, images of battered women or abused children come to mind. But there is another side to this issue that is not as familiar—abused men. This unique book is the first to comprehensively examine this important but neglected social issue. Already praised by a diverse spectrum of readers—from Dear Abby's Abigail Van Buren, to the nation's leading domestic violence researcher, to those in law enforcement and counseling—this work is sure to spark controversy and discussion. It offers gripping, emotional stories, self-help for victims, and provocative insight into public issues, and provides a basic reference source for professionals. Abused Men presents practical solutions for reducing domestic violence, whether its victims are male or female.

Cook begins by examining the common misconceptions about this social issue and offers a wealth of what will be new information for most readers. While statistics show that 1.8 million American women are severely assaulted by their mates each year, few know that the same source indicates that 2 million men are also assaulted at home. After laying the groundwork for a serious reconsideration of how society views domestic violence, Cook allows a number of abused men to tell their stories. He then puts these experiences in the context of what therapists and others who have worked with such men know about domestic violence and how the male victim is similar to, yet different from, his female counterpart. After examining the reasons why so little is known about male abuse and the difficulties researchers encounter, Cook shows how the abused man, his friends and family, and the abusive or abused woman can come to grips with domestic violence. Drawing from a variety of sources, the final chapter brings these diverse elements together and proposes practical solutions for reducing domestic violence, whether its victims are male or female.

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What People Are Saying

Dear Abby Abigail Van Buren

"[This book] reads like 1,000 Dear Abby letters…fascinating…but it explains the many aspects of domestic violence. It has a wealth of material that could be helpful to professionals who deal with domestic violence."

Erin Pizzey

"I am grateful to Philip Cook for writing ^IAbused Men^R. This is a brave book…. [The author] brings to bear in this book his knowledge as a journalist and his evident care and compassion for all victims of domestic violence."

Erin Pizzey,Founder of Chiswick Women's Refuge,Author, Scream Quietly or the Neighbors Will Hear

R.L. McNeely

"This just might be the volume to get the message across finally that domestic violence is a human problem, not just a gender problem."

R.L. McNeely, Ph.D., J.D. Attorney, Professor of Social Welfare, University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee

Kenneth H. Coleman

"Very thought-provoking and well researched. [This book] should aid in educating medical professionals regarding this potential diagnosis as well as help shape our legal approach."

Kenneth H. Coleman, M.D. J.D. Attorney at Law

Ronald R. Still

"Thought provoking research which will stimulate further inquiry into human behavior long neglected."

Ronald R. Still, M.S. Chief of Police (Retired), Portland, Oregon

Rob Solomon

"Mr. Cook argues persuasively that we may be looking at only half the problem, and we're neglecting the needs of male victims. It also seems clear that much of Mr. Cook's work applies equally to abused people of either gender, and he offers practical suggestions for the abused. His solutions would impact all cases of domestic violence and are well worth our consideration."

Rob Solomon, Licensed Professional Counselor Author, Full-Esteem Ahead

Reena Sommer

"Perhaps with this book, Philip Cook can accomplish what academics have for the past 25 years failed to do--to cut through the political rhetoric and finally present the case of abused men as a real social problem. Cook goes beyond the issue of battered males as he sheds incredible insight into the systemic problem of family violence. Perhaps now, couples experiencing violence in their relationships can be helped. His case material sadly brings to life the statistics researchers generate."

Reena Sommer, Ph.D., Assistant Professor, University of Manitoba, Family Counselor

Stanley G. Sturges

"I find Abused Men most appealing because of the rigorous research upon which the findings are based. There is nothing that is not fully substantiated by data…I appreciate the balance achieved in addressing a topic, usually ignored, in an era of accusations and hysteria that often detracts from the actual aggression and violence that affects domestic relations. This book is a real contribution that will help in the education of all professionals in the field of sociology and mental health."

Stanley G. Sturges, M.D. Medical Director, CareMark Behavioral Health Services

Murray A. Straus

"Unique. The case materials presented are gripping, and need to be part of the historical and social record. It is a book likely to be helpful to many men, and if action is taken onthe agenda outlined in the final chapter, to our country as a whole."

Murray A. Straus, Ph.D. Co-Director Family Research Laboratory, University of New Hampshire

Kenneth H. Coleman

"Very thought-provoking and well researched. [This book] should aid in educating medical professionals regarding this potential diagnosis as well as help shape our legal approach."

R.L. McNeely

"This just might be the volume to get the message across finally that domestic violence is a human problem, not just a gender problem."

Rob Solomon

"Mr. Cook argues persuasively that we may be looking at only half the problem, and we're neglecting the needs of male victims. It also seems clear that much of Mr. Cook's work applies equally to abused people of either gender, and he offers practical suggestions for the abused. His solutions would impact all cases of domestic violence and are well worth our consideration."

Ronald R. Still

"Thought provoking research which will stimulate further inquiry into human behavior long neglected."

Erin Pizzey

"I am grateful to Philip Cook for writing ^IAbused Men^R. This is a brave book…. [The author] brings to bear in this book his knowledge as a journalist and his evident care and compassion for all victims of domestic violence."

Dear Abby Abigail Van Buren

"[This book] reads like 1,000 Dear Abby letters…fascinating…but it explains the many aspects of domestic violence. It has a wealth of material that could be helpful to professionals who deal with domestic violence."

Stanley G. Sturges

"I find ^IAbused Men^R most appealing because of the rigorous research upon which the findings are based. There is nothing that is not fully substantiated by data…I appreciate the balance achieved in addressing a topic, usually ignored, in an era of accusations and hysteria that often detracts from the actual aggression and violence that affects domestic relations. This book is a real contribution that will help in the education of all professionals in the field of sociology and mental health."

Reena Sommer

"Perhaps with this book, Philip Cook can accomplish what academics have for the past 25 years failed to do--to cut through the political rhetoric and finally present the case of abused men as a real social problem. Cook goes beyond the issue of battered males as he sheds incredible insight into the systemic problem of family violence. Perhaps now, couples experiencing violence in their relationships can be helped. His case material sadly brings to life the statistics researchers generate."

Murray A. Straus

"Unique. The case materials presented are gripping, and need to be part of the historical and social record. It is a book likely to be helpful to many men, and if action is taken onthe agenda outlined in the final chapter, to our country as a whole."

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780275958626
  • Publisher: ABC-CLIO, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 9/30/1997
  • Edition description: Older Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 216
  • Sales rank: 1,381,455
  • Lexile: 1240L (what's this?)
  • Product dimensions: 0.50 (w) x 9.21 (h) x 6.14 (d)

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Table of Contents

Introduction
Is It Real?: The Evidence for a Significant Social Problem
Telling Their Stories: Men Speak Out
The Domestic Violence Trap: How to Get Help and Find Freedom from Abuse
Resistance and Acceptance: The Challenge to Understanding
Exploring New Approaches to Reduce Domestic Violence
Notes
Selected Bibliography
Selected Resources
Index
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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 22, 2003

    A realistic book on intimate violence by a non-participant observer.

    This book discusses the sexism and prejudice in the court systems as it pertains to men and women. It also covers the laws and how the laws are written with the pronouns he, him, father, and husband showing the intentional bias and the forgone conclusion that the abuser is always male. I found this book highly educational and especially liked the research the author did on the various studies that feminists always quote to back up their claims. The author discusses that the flipside of the coin is often hidden or misconstrued to the general public (EX: The urban legend behind super bowl Sunday being the biggest day of intimate violence towards women.) He does not downplay the seriousness of male batterers nor does he blame women. He states that things are not always what they seem especially in the media. I really liked his relevance about the double standard portrayed in film. It is funny, even comical, for a woman to smack a man¿s face but not the other way around. And when a woman hits a man ¿he deserved it.¿ No one deserves to be hit, period. The author does a thorough job in discussing how hard it is for women to get help for being a batterer and how hard it is for men to seek shelter from intimate violence. Men can suffer from ¿battered wife¿ syndrome just as much as a woman can. It is good that this author can bring some of these hidden issues to society¿s attention.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 25, 2003

    Intimate Violence: The Case of Abused Men

    Philip Cook's Abused Men  is well conceived, well documented, and well written; it is an excellent source book for both perpetrators and victims of domestic violence as well as for  police officers, community leaders, health care providers, family therapists, crisis-line workers, and other helping professionals. Another positive aspect of this book is Cook's  ability to make research findings on male abuse and its consequences accessible and understandable for readers new to the field of domestic violence. Eugen Lupri, Ph.D. Professor Emeritus of Sociology, The University of Calgary, Calgary, Alberta, Canada

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 6, 2000

    Persecution of the Victim

    This is a VITAL book that must be required reading of all involved in the domestic violence industry. As a victim of domestic violence I was treated with disdain by the police when seeking help left on the street by the police with my six month old twins when it was unsafe to remain in the house almost killed (my head was hacked open by her wielding a carving knife) and am currently being persecuted by the Middlesex County Mass system because she demanded the police throw me out of my home after she attacked me (and told them I had never hit her!!!). I have been assaulted by police and court 'officers' and put in jail because of their assaults, lost my father who suffered a heart attack on the phone with me when I called to inform him of her latest abuse and what the courts had done in response. I was denied all due process and statutorily guaranteed rights at the 'hearing' where the 'Judge' heard her testimony in his chambers denying me the right to hear what she had to say and refusing to permit me to speak or question her. I was astounded to discover that my experience was not a rare and appalling aberration but the day to day policy of most District Attorney's offices and courts throughout the nation. The disgraceful fact is that anyone who attempts to speak out against this abuse (the sytem has been perverted into the perfect tool of the abuser) is visciously attacked even to the extent of having her house firebombed in the case of Erin Pizzey (who founded the first ever shelter for battered women). Buy this book and demand that all elected officials, prosecuters, judges and all associated with the domestic violence industry read it and understand that such violence must be stopped regardless of the gender of the victim. Until we do the victims that all these people ignore, the children who are traumatised and whose lives are destroyed by this out of control zealotry will remain the forgotten casualties.

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